Terrified of being left alone in this world! - Anxiety Message Board

Pootsi · 10-31-2003, 03:48 PM

I am so scared of my husband flying all the way down to London from Atlanta for a business trip.
Im so afraid of losing him! I know that everyone has their fate. I love him very much!!
But what Im truly terrified of is being all alone!
We are in the middle of moving, he's going 10 days before we actually move.
If something happens to him, I don't know what to do! Im going to feel all alone with no one that I trust.
Is this normal??? What do I do if something happens??

Graciecat · 10-31-2003, 06:16 PM

In my opinion it's very normal to be scared.
I think most people would be.
But you can't let the fear control you.
You can't dwell on what you'd do of something happened to him.
You have to trust that everything will be fine.

I worry about my Husband everyday, he's a Policeman and I know there's a risk involved in what he does.

I just finally had to let go of my fear.
I don't mean to get all Religious on you, but praying helped me let go of that fear.
Every morning before he leaves I say a prayer and ask God to keep him safe and every night when he comes home safe and sound I say another pray to thank God for keeping him safe.

Pootsi · 11-02-2003, 05:42 PM

I do pray all the time for him to be safe, and a thank you prayer afterwards.

He travels away like once a week, but this is the first time overseas since 9/11.

Being anxietic and having a lot of problems with myself, isolating myself from everyone, makes the fear feel so much worse.

He's like my whole world.

I know that sounds awful. I do remind myself of my own mom, which I didn't want to be like.

I can't imagine how it must feel with your husband being a police officer.

My husband mentioned joining the police force a couple times, but with my fears, there's no way! I'd be a nervous wreck. I'm so glad he isn't passionate about it!

I just wouldn't know where to start if something was to happen, Im dependent on him, and I know that's not a good way to be. We don't know to many people that well cuz we've moved so many times with his job.

Thanks.

ilaugh@myself.why · 11-02-2003, 07:56 PM

"The only way to break the fear is to face the fear, not cater to it and make it worse."
-Pootsi

i think you might be right there y'know..
there's no reason you couldn't keep in contact with him while he's on the flight, and when he lands in London..

maybe you could take up a few home projects to busy yourself while he's away.

Pootsi · 11-03-2003, 08:31 AM

What Im really afraid of is what to do IF something happens to him. The thought is So scary.
I love him very much, and if it happens, I wouldn't be able to control that. It's what happens after that.
I've always been so dependent on everyone, that the thought of having it all in my hands, with no one there, scares me to death!
I don't even feel that I can trust my mom, she's always been so cruel to me, mentally.
I only have one brother with his family, and he's kinda snobby. My husbands father would probably be the one I'd feel most comfortable with, but if my husband is no longer there, I hope he cares about me enough.
It's such a difficult thing to think of, but I am definately not prepared for anything like that to happen.
Thanks.