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Elaine
09-05-2002, 02:18 AM
I found this on a forum and wanted to share it with you. It is very touching and so true....

Listen carefully. Can you hear it? It is a soft sound, so muted it is barely noticeable. At times it even seems to fade away into the distance -far, far away. Until you think it was never there…. But then you can hear it again, whisper soft and gentle. It sometimes takes a while to figure out just what it is. To even admit that you hear it.

Bring your ear closer to the computer. Just a little closer, still. Now you hear it. Now you know it is there.. And you know what it is. Finally, you recognize it. There simply is no denying the realization. It is the sound of people crying.

The Internet is generally thought of as a place where people gather--for fun, for information, sometimes just to talk. Yes, it certainly is that. People spend hours just getting lost in its seductive maze. There are wondrous sights to see, mountains of information to be had, fun to be found. But it is also a place of heartbreak, a refuge for those lost souls who daily pour their hearts out over the keyboard and onto the screen.

There is a lot of human tragedy to be found among the laughter, the jokes, the shopping, and the games. One might have to search a bit, but it is there. Unfortunately, it is there.

I know it is there because I have found it. Kindred souls like myself, who daily must wake up each morning and find out that the dream is not real after all. What dream? The dream that our pains have magically disappeared in the night; that our bodies produced a miracle while we slept. A miracle that would astound the medical community and give us back the lives we have lost. The idea that maybe we can enjoy one day, one hour, one minute without the burning, the gnawing, the stabbing. Just one day….

Where does the pain come from? Various sources; some known, some unknown. From shattered bones, from torn nerves, from deep within our tired and worn bodies. The pain also comes from our minds; from knowing that all we have endured--the tests, the operations, the medications that alter our minds and our wills--have come to naught.

Hearing again and again the doctors saying that there is nothing more they can do; that maybe if we traveled the 500 miles to see doctor so and so that perhaps he has the answer And deep within, we know that he doesn't. We know that no one can help us.

No one but ourselves.

That is what has brought us together in the first place.

This common bond of pain that we share. The heartbreaking stories that tear at the soul, of lives shattered, marriages destroyed, hopes dashed. We live our ups and downs on the message board of that wonderful invention known as the Internet. A haven, a place we can go to console each other, celebrate our victories, and help each other endure our defeats. A place to find understanding, in a world that does not understand us at all.

How did we find each other? For each, it is a different story. Most find their way by accident, by stumbling across a message posted in desperation on a part of the Internet that other people never even know exists. Suddenly, there is recognition. Suddenly, there is hope. Someone understands; someone knows. And not just one person. Many.

More than anyone would think possible. And the world changes. From across the miles we hug each other, we cry, we laugh. We share our deepest thoughts with people who may live a thousand miles away and whom we may never, ever meet. Faceless strangers who go by strange, cyberspace names. But, it doesn't matter. Our minds and hearts connect, and that is enough.

Lives have been saved on the Internet. Those in the depths of despair have written their sorry message across the screen, tears running down their faces as the words take form and carry the cry of desperation across cyberspace. And someone always answers. Always. We are there for each other, and always will be. We may not have the answers; we don't even know what the questions are. But for a short time, we can ease one type of pain; the pain of thinking that someone is all alone.

So, as others play cyber games, cyber flirt, even go cyber shopping in cyber malls, we are here holding each others hands and trying to make it through another pain-filled, unending day. Think of us here, sometimes, if you will. And if you ever feel the need to join our ranks, don't be afraid. We will be here to welcome you.

We are the Tears on the Internet.

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crystalll
09-05-2002, 01:28 PM
Thanks for sharing that, Elaine.

J-man
09-05-2002, 06:52 PM
Hi everyone,

I came across this quote by Albert Schweizer, yesterday. Somehow it seems to fit with the theme of the writer, which Elaine has posted in this thread

"Those who bear the mark of pain are never really free, for they owe a debt to those who still suffer!"

John

Elaine
10-14-2002, 03:13 AM
crystal,
Glad you liked that. I have read it so many times, I think it is beautiful and so true. I am not a very sentimental person, but that hit a soft spot I didn't know I had.
Take care,
Elaine

BadJaw
10-24-2002, 03:27 PM
Elaine,
Very beautiful!!!
BJ

wiggles
10-26-2002, 11:52 PM
I Posted my first note aweek ago with the tears flowing down my face I felt so alone as if i was going crazy,then I recived a email to my message. They gave me hope,and as I read I Knew I was not alone.I have not resolved my problem yet but now I Know I am on the right track and someday the pain will be gone and I am not crazy and I thank god I found all you. thankyou

CherylLynn24
06-07-2003, 04:25 AM
bump

I'm sorry, I've been reading old posts, and this brought tears to my eyes.....So True...

HRevero
06-07-2003, 02:37 PM
Isn't it beautiful!!! I feel that we all can relate to the writer. YOu guys do give me hope just by listening and trying to understand. You are the closest ones that I have you really truly understands. I have yet to find another in our positions.
Heather

EverlastingSmile137
06-07-2003, 03:06 PM
oh my god! thats so perfect and i almost cried reading it!!

TiffanyAnn
06-07-2003, 03:13 PM
Elaine:
Thank you so much for posting this. It touched my heart deeply.
Tiffany

Howdy_do
06-07-2003, 05:01 PM
Elaine, Thank you I have felt so alone for so long now. I just can't figure out how all this could have happened this past months have been the worst of my whole life! I just learned within the last two weeks I have TMJ, Atypical Face Pain RT side of face(permanent nerve damage) and because of all the stress seeking answers to that pain I got the shingles on my left side too. On the outside I try to act like I can handle it all. But until I read your post some God awful thoughts were going through my mind. The day I got a double whammy one from a Neurologist. The other the OB. I thought would be a simple Pap. Turned into a nightmere. I'm in menopause they tell me from lab tests and "Oh and by the way we want to do an ultra sound you have a rather large cyst on one of your ovaries we just have to double check". After these doctor visits I headed to see a shrink for help with stress. Funny thing is I couldn't get help. The walk in patient doctor was busy with another patient. Then they had a lock down in the building. I was depressed at first and crying for many miles on the way home. Then I found myself elated. I thought what the hell am I crying for. I've spent years looking for answers to the facial pain I've had since I was young. At least I know now what's causing all this pain and it has a name. I felt and still do for others on the net I read about so desperately seeking hope. Hoping like you said Elaine that one post will be symptoms similiar to theirs. I must say my TMJ isn't as severe as some of you. I have clicking and popping and it hurts to chew at times also ear pain. I'm afraid to ask if it gets worse as years go by or something. I guess I related all teeth pain to the Atypical Facial Pain I also learned I have. I found keeping busy works, talking if you can (course some can't with TMJ so bad) and if all else fails take a sleeping pill(homeopathic Calms Forte) a pharmatist pointed out to me because they're non-addictive. Elaine your post was absolutely beautiful, I had bad thoughts again but it's people who care like you that make life worth living. So pain today I win, ok maybe someday I'll win(positive attitude I thought I'd try it). Pain go away not today. Today I want to live because a stranger called Elaine made a wonderful post to let me know I'm not alone. By the way Elaine I'll pray for you too and all victims of horrible chronic pain.

ladida
06-07-2003, 07:19 PM
Elaine that was really touching its so true! That just describes it perfectly, I nearly cried reading it, words cant describe its so wonderful to have a place like this with the people that post here cause they are such a wonderful and understanding bunch of people, and since I found the board I dont feel as hopeless as I used to, and its such a consolation that I can talk to people who understand! Life isnt that easy anymore but somehow this board and the people here make it more bearable.
Hugs to all,
Ladida :wave:

Elaine
09-03-2003, 12:29 AM
I thought maybe some of the new people would like to read this.

JanisYang
09-03-2003, 05:01 AM
I tried other boards of other health topics on this Healthboards. There were few posts compared to here. I guess this board is perfect for venting for TMJD sufferers. Janis

kami-girl
09-03-2003, 05:14 PM
Hi Elaine,

Thank you for this beautiful and inspirational post. I feel that it is an answer to my prayers. although I am not a practicing religious person, I have been doing alot of soul searching since my best friend ended our friendship a couple of weeks ago. She doesn't like the way I have changed the past couple of years but the truth is I don't like it anymore than anyone else either. Your post really hit home because I have been feeling very lonely and friendless since. Everyone on this board is so kind and it is so nice to have people who really listen when things are down. My biggest hope and prayer is that someday we can all get the answers we need to cure this ugly thing called tmjd! Although I have fought this for 31 years, I have renewed faith both through this site and the professionals I am seeing now.

I wish you and everyone else on this site all the best, a healing for each and everyone, and no more tears!

Grace

[This message has been edited by kami-girl (edited 09-03-2003).]

jp123
09-04-2003, 02:15 AM
That was wonderful although it made me cry (happy tears though). It would be so great if we all could meet. I love and appreciate all of you thanx for always listening and helping. Maybe someday because of us all sharing our stories and therapies things will finally get noticed and people will be able to get better sooner and be happy.

saaraah
09-05-2003, 09:00 AM
elaine - thanks for posting that.. it was very touching and very true.

- saaraah.

Elaine
10-18-2003, 02:14 AM
I think this is worth reading again!!! Bad day for me.
Elaine

TMJgirl
10-18-2003, 10:51 AM
Dear Elaine:
I read your posting from 2002 as I sat and cried first thing in the morning with my coffee. You hit the nail on the head for me at least. I hear the people crying, just like me. The cycle continues day after day, and if only one day were possible, the cycle could break. But how? None of us have that answer. We are in our own personal hell, and deal in our own personal ways. We can compare notes, stories etc. and basically walk the earth each day in our own special and distorted way. I have the pleasure of greeting the new day with vertigo and clogged ears. This is exasperating anymore and I feel like the end is near sometimes. No one can help any further. I wear a splint for a month now, and I get chiropractic treatment for the past 3 months. Nothing is helping the vertigo and the clogged ears. I cannot cope sometimes, and my life as I knew it is gone. I was a healthy vivacious 47 year old wife and mother, and now am known as a depressed pathetic human being. Even my own family is running away from me. People just give up. So I cry when I read this posting of yours, Elaine. How true it is! God bless us all..........

CherylLynn24
12-10-2003, 08:53 AM
bump for new members

Kerri532
12-10-2003, 04:39 PM
Elaine,
I haven't posted in a long time, I am guilty of being a lurker most of the time. Do you remember posting to me? We both have the same problem with the Christensen fossa. Anyway, I have always valued your information and informative posts! Tears on the Internet is beautiful and I have read it several times.
Kerri
PS.. Why does it say banned by your name? Are you unable to post or what? I certainly hope that is not the case, what a loss for this forum.(Just my opinion)





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