Hi everyone. I'm new here, and could use some information. I've been married for a year and a half. I'm 39, and my husband is 47. In the beginning of our relationship, 4yrs ago, we were wild maniacs sexually. Then, as we were together longer, it was happening less and less and I was starting to get really upset about it. So, when he felt he could no longer hold back, my husband (fiance at the time) confided that a couple of years he had begun to experience "problems" and was found to have a low testosterone level. He began getting supplemental testosterone shots, which he is still getting now. Still, our sex life was not improving, nor was it anywhere near where it had been in the beginning. He was clearly embarassed, and it was a sort of "taboo" subject. I started getting pretty resentful, because I thought, probably mistakenly, that he just didn't care about sex and expected me to do without it. Lately when we've had sex, he has had some difficulty retaining an erection. So now I see that it may not be his sex drive that's the problem, but maybe he avoids sex because he's afraid he won't perform very well. Well, to shorten up this story, "it" happened again this weekend. This time I really got him to open up and talk about it, and asked him to please not be embarrassed, that we can work through this as a husband and wife. The talk went well and I'm thrilled that maybe now we can do something about this. So what do you all think? Should we be discussing Viagra? What would you do?