alazay
01-26-2001, 12:35 PM
My husband is 22 years old. For the five years that we have been together he never lasts that long in bed. It was really bad in highschool. For the last couple of years he last about 10-15 minutes. On a good day if I'm lucky....it can last 20. Is something wrong with him. Will he ever grow out of this? Does he need viagra?
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TrickyDick
01-26-2001, 05:35 PM
Hey Alazay,
Fancy meeting you here...I really need more info.
But, if your saying he can only stay errect for 15-20 (no ejaculation), then Viagra might help.
If your saying he can only go for 15-20 minutes before ejaculation then your hubby is lasting about 5-10 min more than the average male. (according to what I read).
In this case it might help him recover faster as in wait time between errections.
As men age and as they become more experienced and learn to relax and enjoy the running of the "race", instead of trying to win the race they can and do last longer.
Viagra works on the blood circulation by relaxing the walls of the major blood vessels which allows more blood flow.
Sexual desire must be present for it to work.
And as you know that desire kinda wains and sleepness occurs after ejaculation for most men.
I would suggest that you allow him to spend more time on you doing things to you you like before he engages in intercourse, so you might be further along.
another suggestion is that when he gets almost "there" is for him to stop and withdraw and continue in other manners untill he learns better control.
If I am not understanding or not being helpful I apoligise ahead of time.
Peace
[This message has been edited by TrickyDick (edited 01-26-2001).]
Fancy meeting you here...I really need more info.
But, if your saying he can only stay errect for 15-20 (no ejaculation), then Viagra might help.
If your saying he can only go for 15-20 minutes before ejaculation then your hubby is lasting about 5-10 min more than the average male. (according to what I read).
In this case it might help him recover faster as in wait time between errections.
As men age and as they become more experienced and learn to relax and enjoy the running of the "race", instead of trying to win the race they can and do last longer.
Viagra works on the blood circulation by relaxing the walls of the major blood vessels which allows more blood flow.
Sexual desire must be present for it to work.
And as you know that desire kinda wains and sleepness occurs after ejaculation for most men.
I would suggest that you allow him to spend more time on you doing things to you you like before he engages in intercourse, so you might be further along.
another suggestion is that when he gets almost "there" is for him to stop and withdraw and continue in other manners untill he learns better control.
If I am not understanding or not being helpful I apoligise ahead of time.
Peace
[This message has been edited by TrickyDick (edited 01-26-2001).]
alazay
01-26-2001, 10:43 PM
Acctually 20 minutes is too long for him. That is probably the longest we have ever had sex in five years. He last for 5-10 minutes..then he ejaculates. He cannot last any longer than this. He has no problem becoming erect..he just can't have sex very long. It is kind of annoying sometimes.
tup
01-31-2001, 07:52 PM
Ladies before gentleman! He should spend more time in foreplay to get you really hot before he enters you. Also he can pull out and continue to use his mouth and fingers if he feels he's close to ejaulating. He can cool off a bit while you continue to climb. Of course at 22 it's hard to put the brakes on but he should put your satisfaction before his own. Even if he orgasms first he can continue to do what you need to get off. After all lesbians don't need a penis to give each other orgasms. :)
alazay
01-31-2001, 11:52 PM
Its not that he doesn't care about making me happy..he is really great at the foreplay then, he is really good at sex too, I just doesn't last long enough, and we are not sure why. We have been having sex every other day for five years. I would think that just because he is young, he would have already gotten over the excited thing. I think something is wrong with him.
alazay
02-01-2001, 12:29 PM
I did not know that the average guy [ejaculates] in 5-15 minutes. I guess I would just like to have sex longer than that.
tup
02-02-2001, 09:54 PM
"The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion till he orgasms."
Your hubby is doing pretty good!
Your hubby is doing pretty good!
college_dude
02-03-2001, 08:03 PM
Really??? I am 27, and I can usually go for at least a half hour, if I concentrated on holding back, I could probably last longer.
If your husband gets plenty hard,which he probably does at 22, Viagra will not do him any good.
Viagra is for when you can't get it up at all, or can't stay hard enough to get it in. It will not stop premature ejaculation.
If your husband gets plenty hard,which he probably does at 22, Viagra will not do him any good.
Viagra is for when you can't get it up at all, or can't stay hard enough to get it in. It will not stop premature ejaculation.
alazay
02-04-2001, 06:10 PM
I find it hard to believe that the average guys comes in three minutes. What the hell is the point of having sex? I have never heard of that.
PlaXibo
02-14-2001, 02:27 PM
When I was taking papaverine injections I would last over a hour. It may sound nice but it made my wife a little soar.
She likes it better since I take viagra now.
-Mark
[This message has been edited by PlaXibo (edited 02-16-2001).]
She likes it better since I take viagra now.
-Mark
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help
03-30-2001, 04:25 AM
Tell him to do an excersize called the PC flex... You can learn how to do it at any penis development website... It's very simple and can be done any where and at any time without anyone knowing...
Every man on earth should do some kind of PC workout, simply for the fact that you cannot afford not to. Flexing the PC muscle is also called a “Kegel”. The reason its also called a Kegel is because the exercise itself was named after a famous doctor, who's name (you guessed it) was Dr. Kegel. PC exercises are extremely easy, the easiest of all the exercises in this program, and we guarantee that if you stay with the program and develop a strong PC muscle, you will be a virtual Iron Man in bed, able to ejaculate when you want, instead of being at the mercy of how fast you “get there”.
Every man on earth should do some kind of PC workout, simply for the fact that you cannot afford not to. Flexing the PC muscle is also called a “Kegel”. The reason its also called a Kegel is because the exercise itself was named after a famous doctor, who's name (you guessed it) was Dr. Kegel. PC exercises are extremely easy, the easiest of all the exercises in this program, and we guarantee that if you stay with the program and develop a strong PC muscle, you will be a virtual Iron Man in bed, able to ejaculate when you want, instead of being at the mercy of how fast you “get there”.
hoodzoo
04-01-2001, 04:06 AM
Hi there. I just had to reply to this.
I met my husband when he was just 19. At that time, sex lasted about 3 minutes for us. I was really frustrated with the whole thing and basically lost interest for a while (knowing that I wouldn't be completely satisfied).
Now, here we are 10 years later. I'm here to tell ya, it does get better. We have 20 to 30 minutes of actual intercourse now and IT IS GREAT!
I know that it is discouraging to hear me use the word years, but I'm sure that you LOVE him and that's all it takes. A little love and patience on your part will surely pay off in the end.
Good Luck!
[This message has been edited by hoodzoo (edited 04-01-2001).]
I met my husband when he was just 19. At that time, sex lasted about 3 minutes for us. I was really frustrated with the whole thing and basically lost interest for a while (knowing that I wouldn't be completely satisfied).
Now, here we are 10 years later. I'm here to tell ya, it does get better. We have 20 to 30 minutes of actual intercourse now and IT IS GREAT!
I know that it is discouraging to hear me use the word years, but I'm sure that you LOVE him and that's all it takes. A little love and patience on your part will surely pay off in the end.
Good Luck!
[This message has been edited by hoodzoo (edited 04-01-2001).]
julbox
04-04-2001, 03:45 AM
Personally, I feel this is an individual matter. I doubt if there is any set time a man must "keep going" in order to be considered normal. I don't think my husband and I actually have ever had intercourse more than five minutes. By no means am I complaining. OUr sex life is great!! He is the best I've ever had. We spend time doing other things besides intercourse. If you are finding yourself timing him or yourself then I think you have a problem of a different kind!
Leigh6
04-04-2001, 12:12 PM
As we speak they are working on a drug for Premature Ejaculation!!!For now, I'd try it a few times per day, the second time will take twice as long.. It works like a charm :)
alazay
04-17-2001, 08:48 PM
He drinks a beer all the time, so I don't think that will help. And if he had to jack off all the time before he came to bed, that would make it no fun. I don't like to "plan" before we have sex.And our sex life
is not bad, we do other things...just sometimes I wish it would last longer!
is not bad, we do other things...just sometimes I wish it would last longer!
koolstof
12-06-2003, 02:55 AM
My husband is 22 years old. For the five years that we have been together he never lasts that long in bed. It was really bad in highschool. For the last couple of years he last about 10-15 minutes. On a good day if I'm lucky....it can last 20. Is something wrong with him. Will he ever grow out of this? Does he need viagra?
Anti depressant medications often have very annoying sexual side-effects: lower libido, impotence and delayed ejaculations. But not in all patients but about 40 procent. Often they only put off orgasms some time.
Many AD-medications result in greater self-awareness and less anxiety, some are even sedating. If I'm not mistaken moderate, daily use of Trazodone/Desyrel delays an ejeculation, while it promotes erections.
Check with your doctor, could be a revolution in your sex-life.
Anti depressant medications often have very annoying sexual side-effects: lower libido, impotence and delayed ejaculations. But not in all patients but about 40 procent. Often they only put off orgasms some time.
Many AD-medications result in greater self-awareness and less anxiety, some are even sedating. If I'm not mistaken moderate, daily use of Trazodone/Desyrel delays an ejeculation, while it promotes erections.
Check with your doctor, could be a revolution in your sex-life.
Garth
12-08-2003, 10:59 AM
As we speak they are working on a drug for Premature Ejaculation!!!For now, I'd try it a few times per day, the second time will take twice as long.. It works like a charm :)
Leigh6, are you speaking of Dapoxetine?
Leigh6, are you speaking of Dapoxetine?
Garth
12-08-2003, 11:03 AM
My husband is 22 years old. For the five years that we have been together he never lasts that long in bed. It was really bad in highschool. For the last couple of years he last about 10-15 minutes. On a good day if I'm lucky....it can last 20. Is something wrong with him. Will he ever grow out of this? Does he need viagra?
alazay, I have just began kegel exercises after reading many posts including the one in this thread claiming to make an ironman in bed. i hope so. I am in my mid-20's and have found that, with viagra, i keep a good hard on even even after coming twice. It does not prevent ejaculation, just keeps it hard after. I love using it for this. It may be what you guys need. I plan on using it until they develop the new PE medicine, or the kegels start paying off.
alazay, I have just began kegel exercises after reading many posts including the one in this thread claiming to make an ironman in bed. i hope so. I am in my mid-20's and have found that, with viagra, i keep a good hard on even even after coming twice. It does not prevent ejaculation, just keeps it hard after. I love using it for this. It may be what you guys need. I plan on using it until they develop the new PE medicine, or the kegels start paying off.
tommy1212
12-09-2003, 01:58 AM
[Hell no, hes ok and fine and all that stuff. He has a very sensitive penis thats all. In other words he orgasms to quick. This may go on for years, he can't help it or prevent it. Any guy would love to last longer, it feels better. There are methods to try but i am leaning toward the foreplay for now or atleast untill he gets abit older. There are pills on the market today that will help him but....Do some research and really give a good look.