KimberlyV
03-29-2003, 08:09 PM
I am in need of some major help. I am on this emotional roller coaster that I cannot control and most of it is due to my weight. First of all, I lost weight about 2 years ago, but doing Atkins. I felt great and was proud of myself. However, I burned out, starting eating "normal" and eventually gained most of that weight back. Now I am in a major struggle with myself. I have tried low carbing again, but not to much success. I can't seem to get back on track. A few things about myself, I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism a few years ago, and had a subtotal parital thyroidectomy. I still have 15% of my thryoid gland and take Synthroid daily. I have read so many places that the best way for a thyroid patient to lose weight is by low carbing. So, now I have it stuck in my head that the only way I am going to lose weight is if I low carb. However, I can't seem to stick to that plan. I do notice when I consume any amount of carbs for lunch, I am so extremely sleepy that I literally have to take a 10 minute nap every day at work. Also, when I eat even a small amount of carbs, such as jelly beans, I can't stop myself. Then I feel guilty, get depressed, and start a binge. I have tried to count calories, but it seems like I have no control when I do that. I have been working out 4 - 6 days per week at a place that is alot like curves and it worked great at first, now it doesn't seem like I am doing so well. I am so just depressed and I don't know how to stop this emotional roller coaster. I want to feel good about myself and love myself, because I know that is what should happen first, but somehow I just can't seem to get that love for myself. I don't know how to figure out what is the best way of eating, simply because like my husband says, I read too much and believe too many things that I hear. What is safe, what is not? What is effective for a lifetime, what is not? How do I discipline myself. If I could just get myself on the wagon again, and start seeing results, it would help so much. But how do I do that without that being my total focus? I am missing out on so much of my daughter's lives because I am so caught up in hating my body. I am so sorry this has become so long, but I need help in a bad way. One other thing, my husband tells me so often that he loves me just as I am, but also tells me how good I look and how sexy I am to him once I have lost the weight. So, I don't really know what he wants from me. Why can't I love myself the way I am? Any suggestions?
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andreaphilip3
03-29-2003, 10:31 PM
kim,
im sorry. its 2weird we go thru the same things@the same time. thats wut i been goin through... and as for carbs(iver been bingin) im sooooo tired&fall asleep. i even made a name 4 it: i call it "carb coma"
im sorry. its 2weird we go thru the same things@the same time. thats wut i been goin through... and as for carbs(iver been bingin) im sooooo tired&fall asleep. i even made a name 4 it: i call it "carb coma"
QweenyBluEyes
03-29-2003, 10:39 PM
Hey, I completely understand! I noticed what helps me is that when I am down and want to binge, I literally MAKE myself go and workout or get outside and take a walk or bike ride. After you're done, you feel so good and you want to eat right. Also, you don't want those tempting foods around, so hide those in your house so you forget about them and go shopping when you are not hungry and aren't tempted to buy them! So you can't eat them if they're not around right?
Go do an activity that you enjoy each day that doesn't involve food. Try and get your thoughts elsewhere. Such as, housework, bike riding, walking, (get a dog so you have to walk it?), swimming, go take an art class, music lessons, etc. Go get a new hairstyle or go tanning, go to a spa and get pampered so you can feel happy and beautiful once in a while to help you lose the weight. Also, make it a winning goal, not a losing one. (You are WINNING a healthy lean body, not losing the weight.)
You can do it Kim! Cause you're strong, beautiful, and you know you want to win.. so go for it! :)
Go do an activity that you enjoy each day that doesn't involve food. Try and get your thoughts elsewhere. Such as, housework, bike riding, walking, (get a dog so you have to walk it?), swimming, go take an art class, music lessons, etc. Go get a new hairstyle or go tanning, go to a spa and get pampered so you can feel happy and beautiful once in a while to help you lose the weight. Also, make it a winning goal, not a losing one. (You are WINNING a healthy lean body, not losing the weight.)
You can do it Kim! Cause you're strong, beautiful, and you know you want to win.. so go for it! :)
andreaphilip3
03-30-2003, 01:26 PM
kim,
how ya doin today? im gonna try really hard to do better today.
how ya doin today? im gonna try really hard to do better today.
KimberlyV
03-30-2003, 05:22 PM
Thank you all so much for all of you advice. I really really want to win this battle. Andrea - thanks for asking how I am doing. Today I have just kind of forgot about the whole diet thing. I actually have been horrible with my eating, but haven't let it get to me. Tomorrow I am going to try to start all over again, because I KNOW that I can do it. I think possibly I have been looking at low carbing the wrong way. I realize now that I need to have alot more fruits and veggies. Just not sure which ones.
Thanks to you all again!
Thanks to you all again!
andreaphilip3
03-30-2003, 08:44 PM
good girl kim!
as for the low carb info, i posted it on the other topic you started.
as for the low carb info, i posted it on the other topic you started.
mdreed
03-31-2003, 11:54 AM
You can do it!!!
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God Bless,
Misty
Our greatest glory consists not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.
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God Bless,
Misty
Our greatest glory consists not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall.
DonutsNCoffee
03-31-2003, 02:09 PM
Kim,
Low carbing may be the best way for a thyroid patient to lose weight, but I think you need to ask yourself if it's worth trying if you know you won't be able to stick with it. After all, if you can't stick to a particular diet, then why bother in the first place? I've learned that it's best to only do the things you know you're capable of doing for life. For example, I've always been told that I should do cardio first thing in the morning. I did it for a few months, but stopped cause I hated getting up so early. Now I exercise in the evening when I get home from work. Because that isn't the ideal time to do cardio, my progress has been slower. But you know what? I'm happier. And I think a big reason why I'm happier is because I'm doing a routine that isn't too far from my normal one? And I think that's key. You may be unhappy right now, but imagine how unhappy you'll be if you try a diet that goes against your nature. You'll be miserable because it asks you to give up this or do that and you know you can't keep it up.
My point is don't feel guilty if you can't stick with a specific diet. Maybe that's a sign that you're following the wrong diet.
As for what your husband wants, don't try to guess. Just ask him. Maybe he's telling you that you looked good when you lost weight because he's trying to encourage you. I think a lot of times a person can hear a spouse's words of encouragement and feel like they're being pressured. The only way you'll know for sure is if you talk to him directly.
[This message has been edited by DonutsNCoffee (edited 03-31-2003).]
Low carbing may be the best way for a thyroid patient to lose weight, but I think you need to ask yourself if it's worth trying if you know you won't be able to stick with it. After all, if you can't stick to a particular diet, then why bother in the first place? I've learned that it's best to only do the things you know you're capable of doing for life. For example, I've always been told that I should do cardio first thing in the morning. I did it for a few months, but stopped cause I hated getting up so early. Now I exercise in the evening when I get home from work. Because that isn't the ideal time to do cardio, my progress has been slower. But you know what? I'm happier. And I think a big reason why I'm happier is because I'm doing a routine that isn't too far from my normal one? And I think that's key. You may be unhappy right now, but imagine how unhappy you'll be if you try a diet that goes against your nature. You'll be miserable because it asks you to give up this or do that and you know you can't keep it up.
My point is don't feel guilty if you can't stick with a specific diet. Maybe that's a sign that you're following the wrong diet.
As for what your husband wants, don't try to guess. Just ask him. Maybe he's telling you that you looked good when you lost weight because he's trying to encourage you. I think a lot of times a person can hear a spouse's words of encouragement and feel like they're being pressured. The only way you'll know for sure is if you talk to him directly.
[This message has been edited by DonutsNCoffee (edited 03-31-2003).]
andreaphilip3
03-31-2003, 02:41 PM
good advice donut