Kat12n
10-22-2003, 11:35 PM
i'm an 18 year old freshman in college
on october 4th i had sex using a condom. i didnt even know it broke or anything! i guess not everythign is 100%
well i was expecting my period exactly a week ago from today and i freaked when it didnt come on the exact day and took a test....nothing showed up in either of the boxes...i did everything correctly i guess it was just a defect.
well...last night i bought another and my worst nightmare appeared: 2 lines...i kinda knew it was going to show up even though i didnt want to admit it to myself, i had a gut feeling that i was...
i feel so alone and scared because im away and school and im just starting to make friends so theres no one i can talk to....i have no money and can't raise this child...i've considered abortion but i dont know what to do...i used protection and thought i was being smart so this is a huge shock to me...i never thought it could happen to me
if anyone can talk please post back because im so scared right now
im going to cal the clinic tomorrow and make an appointment to dicuss my options...
thanks
katie
on october 4th i had sex using a condom. i didnt even know it broke or anything! i guess not everythign is 100%
well i was expecting my period exactly a week ago from today and i freaked when it didnt come on the exact day and took a test....nothing showed up in either of the boxes...i did everything correctly i guess it was just a defect.
well...last night i bought another and my worst nightmare appeared: 2 lines...i kinda knew it was going to show up even though i didnt want to admit it to myself, i had a gut feeling that i was...
i feel so alone and scared because im away and school and im just starting to make friends so theres no one i can talk to....i have no money and can't raise this child...i've considered abortion but i dont know what to do...i used protection and thought i was being smart so this is a huge shock to me...i never thought it could happen to me
if anyone can talk please post back because im so scared right now
im going to cal the clinic tomorrow and make an appointment to dicuss my options...
thanks
katie
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Bellastyle24
10-23-2003, 12:17 AM
Wow... I'm soooo sorry for you and your whole situation. Sounds like it must be horrifying. Abortion must be something you never really wanted to think of huh? I mean it's like School vs. Pregnancy? Gosh... Do you have family that will support you and help you figure the best thing to do? OR is this something that must not be mentioned? It looks like you may need some. I really hope get through this and make the right choice for yourself and the long run. I know this has got to be very difficult for you. Wishing the best for you...
ordinarymom
10-23-2003, 09:58 AM
In my freshman year of colledge there was a young woman who was pregnant and very satisfied with the fact that she was going to give the child up for adoption. She knew that keeping a baby was not the right thing for her but she didn't want to terminate either. There are options for you. It will be a hard choice either way you go. Good luck and I will be praying that God gives you direction in this.
Jordansmom
10-23-2003, 10:18 AM
Your story is making me cry. That was me 8 years ago. I got pregnant with my son when I was eighteen right before my freshman year of college. I was scared and thought that my life would end. However, my parents were suprisingly supportive. Abortion and adoption was not a choice for them, nor for me. I continued at college, lived with my bf, had my son, married my bf, divorced him, and finished college on time. It is very very hard, and remember it is your decsion. You need to think of the options you have, and you do have some. Do you have parents? Is this person you were with someone who is supportive of you? Can you go to a college closer to home? Adoption?
You also know the option of abortion, which is all I will say on that. However, coming from someone who had to go through invitro fertilization to get preg now, I very much wanted to adopt a child. if your choice is that you can not take care of this child and you have looked at all the options, There are so many families out there that will never have children and are praying for a little one.
My son is 7 1/2 years old and everyone said that I would not finish school and I did, on time and I now have a bachelors of social work degree and will be going for my masters.
I know this is long and you can take it like a grain of salt, but I hear you. Your story brought back all the memories, and I am happy to say that my son is a healthy, beautiful, loving little boy. This is the hardest thing you will have to decide, just remember there are many people in your shoes, you are not alone.
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You also know the option of abortion, which is all I will say on that. However, coming from someone who had to go through invitro fertilization to get preg now, I very much wanted to adopt a child. if your choice is that you can not take care of this child and you have looked at all the options, There are so many families out there that will never have children and are praying for a little one.
My son is 7 1/2 years old and everyone said that I would not finish school and I did, on time and I now have a bachelors of social work degree and will be going for my masters.
I know this is long and you can take it like a grain of salt, but I hear you. Your story brought back all the memories, and I am happy to say that my son is a healthy, beautiful, loving little boy. This is the hardest thing you will have to decide, just remember there are many people in your shoes, you are not alone.
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conniefolger
10-23-2003, 05:58 PM
Hello! You can go to the womans healthboard to get help with your situation as the monitor of this site has stated and made very clear that we can not give you the advise you need. This is a board for women with pregnancy questions and losses. Sorry but there are alot of people here on this board that are suffering from miscarriages and those who have been trying for along time & wishing to be pregnant and you will not get the support or help needed here.
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littleone314
10-24-2003, 04:49 AM
Hey! I went through the same thing only I was a little bit younger when I got pregnant with my son. At first I was horrified. I didn't know what to do but I went to my family and I told them. We had a talk and we went through all of our options. We decided that abortion and adoption was not a choice. I decided to keep my son and that as hard as it was going to be we were going to make it. I've missed out on some things as a teenager but nothing could ever compete with the love I've experienced raising Austin. No it isn't the ideal situation but it can be done and you will be a much stronger person in the end. :)
I realize it's your call but before making any rash decisions sit down with family/or someone you trust dearly and talk it over. I do not agree with abortion and will never condone it but since it is your body you can do with it what you want but please consider adoption if you can't keep the child.
I know exactly what you are going through and I really feel for you. Take comfort in knowing that everything happens for a reason and you will know what's right for you when the time comes ;) Raising a baby is tough but there are many programs out there to help you. Go to your local DHEC office and look into them. You also have to have a GOOD support system...family or friends. You'll definantly need someone to lean on. Do you mind me asking about the father? Where does he stand on this?
Let us know how everything goes!!! If you need someone to talk we're always here :) Good luck sweetie!! Keep your chin up it will all work out!
I realize it's your call but before making any rash decisions sit down with family/or someone you trust dearly and talk it over. I do not agree with abortion and will never condone it but since it is your body you can do with it what you want but please consider adoption if you can't keep the child.
I know exactly what you are going through and I really feel for you. Take comfort in knowing that everything happens for a reason and you will know what's right for you when the time comes ;) Raising a baby is tough but there are many programs out there to help you. Go to your local DHEC office and look into them. You also have to have a GOOD support system...family or friends. You'll definantly need someone to lean on. Do you mind me asking about the father? Where does he stand on this?
Let us know how everything goes!!! If you need someone to talk we're always here :) Good luck sweetie!! Keep your chin up it will all work out!
chloebug
10-24-2003, 09:40 AM
I agree with conniefolger this is not the place to get support there are two many women that wish they could even be close to the situation that you are in. There whole world is wanting a baby so bad. Here you have it and want to take it away.
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10-24-2003, 10:29 AM
This topic is being moved to the Women's Health Issues board.
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