tinytoni
04-24-2002, 04:36 PM
:( I have a boyfriend who is the sweetest thing. we have been going out for 6 months. i think i really am getting stuck on him yay!
but
he over reacts a lot he like doesn't throw fits but he yells and stomps off he has never hurt anyone and never will but i need to know the cause for that kind of behavior because it scares him too.
if you know anything please post
~Toni :angel:
but
he over reacts a lot he like doesn't throw fits but he yells and stomps off he has never hurt anyone and never will but i need to know the cause for that kind of behavior because it scares him too.
if you know anything please post
~Toni :angel:
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Rach4287
04-24-2002, 05:00 PM
hmmm... sounds like this could escalate into a real problem. If he is the kind and understanding person that he seems to be other times, then talk to him about it. Pick up some pamphlets on abusive relationships that have warning signs.. I can get access to one tomorow for you. I'l try to remember and post later.
Good Luck
Rachel
Good Luck
Rachel
~mandy~
04-24-2002, 07:34 PM
Understanding there is a problem is the first step, and most important. You should let him know that if he's willing to get help then you are willing to support him..but it won't change on it's own. Depending on finiances he should seek out some counseling....i know here me and my bf take it through community services...it goes on a sliding scale so it only costs $5/session...you may have something similar in your area so it's something to look into. He should try and get some one on one couseling for him..mainly because if things don't work out between you two he should still try to fix whatever is wrong...if possible you can also try counseling together...but as i said his aggression is his problem, and it will be with him long after your gone. If he's not willing to get help then i would suggest moving on, his behaviour will only get worse without proper intervention. Sit down and have a talk with him when he's in a good and understanding mood.
nicola76
04-25-2002, 07:06 AM
Anger management counseling would be a great first step. Better to start correcting the problem before it has the chance to get worse.
Best of luck to the both of you!
Nicola
Best of luck to the both of you!
Nicola
katt_imp
04-25-2002, 09:56 AM
The fact that you see there is a problem is a good thing. Now there is a couple thing I think that you can do. :round: One is to sit him down when he is not :mad: mad. And tell him that when he gets mad you get scared. :nono: do not say it mad or upset to him. Than ask him if he is will to go to anger managerment.
The other choice you have is to leave him. I know that it sounds hard but if you are scared of him than maybe that is need if he will not go to angry management
The other choice you have is to leave him. I know that it sounds hard but if you are scared of him than maybe that is need if he will not go to angry management
cadis31
04-25-2002, 10:11 PM
I agree with nicola76, if you care that much for this guy, and him the same for you then it would be in the best for both of you if he was to seek anger management classes. If it would make him feel better maybe you could join him. That is probably going to be the best thing for him. I have some friends that I work with, and the classes made a huge difference in the way they act, and act to problems that would have normally blown up at. Good luck with this, and keep us in the loop. :D
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