angel444
01-21-2003, 07:54 PM
When are you considered old?i feel like a very young scared child inside an aging body im 48 please tell me how you all feel and your agethank you
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Irish Cream
01-23-2003, 04:00 AM
I'm 43 and I started feeling old since New Years day 2000. I guess when I was younger I never pictured myself at the turn of the century. I could never see myself as old as I am. Sometimes I wonder where did the years go. I guess when you decide you're old is different for everyone. I've been feeling really old the last 2 years cause of the pain I'm in. But I realize that I have a few good things that have happened to me since I got old. I left a marriage to a guy that was a jerk and found a very loving man and married him. My son got married to a great girl and now I'm a grandma. So I'm trying to remain happy and content the best way I can. And realize that God somehow will help me through all of this. I hope I helped at least you know you're not alone in your thoughts about this. Take care
SciTeach
01-23-2003, 12:32 PM
I think "old" is a state of mind. I am 53 soon to be 54. When I say it, it sounds old, and when I look in the mirror there is a middle aged woman who stares back at me.
However, I am in the best physical shape of my life. I have been working out at the gym for over 10 years and just recently hired a personal trainer (a half hour a week). I exercise 3-4 times a week: strength, weight loss, and cardio. I am eating better and have never felt as good as I do now.
I teach 13 year olds, and they definitely keep me young.
I plan of staving off old age as long as I can by keeping fit, active and "young at mind".
SciTeach
However, I am in the best physical shape of my life. I have been working out at the gym for over 10 years and just recently hired a personal trainer (a half hour a week). I exercise 3-4 times a week: strength, weight loss, and cardio. I am eating better and have never felt as good as I do now.
I teach 13 year olds, and they definitely keep me young.
I plan of staving off old age as long as I can by keeping fit, active and "young at mind".
SciTeach
Merrida
01-23-2003, 12:57 PM
Ditto along the way.
I feel like the best years of my life (which of course, in retrospect, I'm gauging on my physical body), were between the ages of 30/31 - up until 38. I was always told I look like I'm in my 20's, and I tend to have younger friends,... I'm married, no children, so when the friends I had started getting married and having kids in their 20's, they sought out their own kind and I started drifting towards more like-minded people too, who happen to be younger.
I married a man 10 years my junior, and that may play a certain role.
I swear when I turned 39 it was as if everything I've ever read about "when a woman turns 40" just happened over night! I swear! It was as if I woke up and blam! I aged. Just like that. Sudden! This past year I think I've physically aged more than I have in the past 10 years combined.
I turn 40 in a few weeks. So some of this might be imaginary, in my head, over-amplified, mid-life blah blah blah,.... and me making unfair comparisons by having a Husband 10 years younger.
But I must also say this: I make less money now than I have EVER made in my life, (maybe that adds to the whole "looking back on your life" and feeling like you don't have anything to show for it)... so I'm feeling my mistakes big time.
However,...I Love My Husband soooo much, and I'm so incredibly happy, I don't miss having more friends "my own age" too often (just sometimes), I have more muscle and less fat on my body than I did in my 20's, my periods are shorter (but more violent), and I feel more centered and grounded than I ever have.
I have a number of chronic health issues I contend with, and I think that can make an impact. But I still manage to work through them.
The biggest thing to my feeling old(er) now has less to do with my body, less to do with my injuries, my creaks, my bones, my limps, my back, my chronic pain, my energy, my love of life, how I feel, or even my bunions! It seems almost entirely related to what's above the neck!
I see my hair thinning and falling out. I am having dental problems (feeling like the "apple faced lady" if you know what I mean), ... and while I don't mind the wrinkles even a little bit, what I do hate is the way my face is sagging.
What makes me "feel old" is not really how I FEEL but it's how my face looks! It's the face I see in the mirror -- and that face does not reflect the "real me" that I am, or that I feel inside of my very being!
It's that lack of balance that bugs me. Inside feels pretty good despite physical problems, my relationship rocks, I absolutely love my work, I feel a new appreciation (big emphasis there) for life,.... but then I look in the mirror and right or wrong, efficient or not, it feels like that reflection and the incongruency truly and deeply affects those feelings.
If I could stuff those associations down or learn to grow up (not grow old) -- I'm sure I'd be fine. (Either that or get an overhaul!) The age "number" matters little to me in and of itself, but I sure would be a lot happier if the face matched the inside!
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Life isn't what happens to you -- it's how you react to it!
I feel like the best years of my life (which of course, in retrospect, I'm gauging on my physical body), were between the ages of 30/31 - up until 38. I was always told I look like I'm in my 20's, and I tend to have younger friends,... I'm married, no children, so when the friends I had started getting married and having kids in their 20's, they sought out their own kind and I started drifting towards more like-minded people too, who happen to be younger.
I married a man 10 years my junior, and that may play a certain role.
I swear when I turned 39 it was as if everything I've ever read about "when a woman turns 40" just happened over night! I swear! It was as if I woke up and blam! I aged. Just like that. Sudden! This past year I think I've physically aged more than I have in the past 10 years combined.
I turn 40 in a few weeks. So some of this might be imaginary, in my head, over-amplified, mid-life blah blah blah,.... and me making unfair comparisons by having a Husband 10 years younger.
But I must also say this: I make less money now than I have EVER made in my life, (maybe that adds to the whole "looking back on your life" and feeling like you don't have anything to show for it)... so I'm feeling my mistakes big time.
However,...I Love My Husband soooo much, and I'm so incredibly happy, I don't miss having more friends "my own age" too often (just sometimes), I have more muscle and less fat on my body than I did in my 20's, my periods are shorter (but more violent), and I feel more centered and grounded than I ever have.
I have a number of chronic health issues I contend with, and I think that can make an impact. But I still manage to work through them.
The biggest thing to my feeling old(er) now has less to do with my body, less to do with my injuries, my creaks, my bones, my limps, my back, my chronic pain, my energy, my love of life, how I feel, or even my bunions! It seems almost entirely related to what's above the neck!
I see my hair thinning and falling out. I am having dental problems (feeling like the "apple faced lady" if you know what I mean), ... and while I don't mind the wrinkles even a little bit, what I do hate is the way my face is sagging.
What makes me "feel old" is not really how I FEEL but it's how my face looks! It's the face I see in the mirror -- and that face does not reflect the "real me" that I am, or that I feel inside of my very being!
It's that lack of balance that bugs me. Inside feels pretty good despite physical problems, my relationship rocks, I absolutely love my work, I feel a new appreciation (big emphasis there) for life,.... but then I look in the mirror and right or wrong, efficient or not, it feels like that reflection and the incongruency truly and deeply affects those feelings.
If I could stuff those associations down or learn to grow up (not grow old) -- I'm sure I'd be fine. (Either that or get an overhaul!) The age "number" matters little to me in and of itself, but I sure would be a lot happier if the face matched the inside!
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Life isn't what happens to you -- it's how you react to it!
32skater
01-23-2003, 09:36 PM
I used to think that people my age, were ancient;
however when you get there, you decide it is not so
bad. I turned 61 years old and am enjoying my
life so much. I have been happily married for going
on 44 years; live in Florida, which is absolutely
paradise, my health is good. My husband and I
exercise everyday and I am not being conceited in
saying that everytime I go out, I receive compliments
and my husband does, likewise.
Granted, there are days that aches and pains creep
up, but staying active and having wonderful thoughts
really help. There are a lot of trials and
tribulations in life, but you have to rise above
and beat them all out. This is the best time of
life and as they say today is the first day of the
rest of your life. I have been very fortunate to
have a wonderful husband and family. Everything
figures in the picture, but it takes all that you
have to pull up and go forward. You can do it and
you have lots of time to do it.
however when you get there, you decide it is not so
bad. I turned 61 years old and am enjoying my
life so much. I have been happily married for going
on 44 years; live in Florida, which is absolutely
paradise, my health is good. My husband and I
exercise everyday and I am not being conceited in
saying that everytime I go out, I receive compliments
and my husband does, likewise.
Granted, there are days that aches and pains creep
up, but staying active and having wonderful thoughts
really help. There are a lot of trials and
tribulations in life, but you have to rise above
and beat them all out. This is the best time of
life and as they say today is the first day of the
rest of your life. I have been very fortunate to
have a wonderful husband and family. Everything
figures in the picture, but it takes all that you
have to pull up and go forward. You can do it and
you have lots of time to do it.
NancyH
01-25-2003, 10:24 PM
I personally never thought I would make it to 40 let alone 54 so I'm thankful. I suffer from a couple medical conditions that started in my early 40's such as osteoporosis arthritis and pernicious anemia and I decided to not lay down and take it. I exercise at least 3 times a week at the club, eat fairly right, enjoy my 4 grandkids and wonderful hubby and I do get a little cranky with this chronic diseases but I fair much better than most women I know or worked with right now. I feel 30 in my head and use to think anyone over 30 was ancient and here I am hitting 55 shortly.
angel444
01-26-2003, 04:24 AM
cool nancy im glad to see your feeling 30 and i bet you only look 30 too a positive attitude helps
i have alsp got b1/2 problems but not on injections yet
angel
i have alsp got b1/2 problems but not on injections yet
angel
32skater
01-27-2003, 12:00 AM
That is biggest point of it all. Think young and
you will feel that way. There are some days that
aren't worth a darn, but for the most part my
husband and I have held up really well. In fact,
more so than other people younger than us. The
other point is do not look old and frumpy with
hair styles, dress and etc. Diet, dress and
appearance, among other things, are very important.
We get a lot of compliments, so I guess it has worked
for us.
you will feel that way. There are some days that
aren't worth a darn, but for the most part my
husband and I have held up really well. In fact,
more so than other people younger than us. The
other point is do not look old and frumpy with
hair styles, dress and etc. Diet, dress and
appearance, among other things, are very important.
We get a lot of compliments, so I guess it has worked
for us.
Sarah Norris
03-01-2003, 03:01 AM
I think it is so great people in their 50's are still so positive about their age. I am 60 and sometimes I catch myself telling my kids that I am getting older and it gets me a little depressed. So no more even saying that phrase. I think too, it is great people still have their husbands or wives for so many yrs. I am alone, but, I try to get out and visit people that are less fortunate as to be alone and perhaps bed ridden or Alzheimers, etc.
To me, all your posts were very uplifting for me.
Thanks to all!
SARAH
To me, all your posts were very uplifting for me.
Thanks to all!
SARAH
Sarah Norris
03-01-2003, 03:10 AM
I think it is so great people in their 50's are still so positive about their age. I am 60 and sometimes I catch myself telling my kids that I am getting older and it gets me a little depressed. So no more even saying that phrase. I think too, it is great people still have their husbands or wives for so many yrs. I am alone, but, I try to get out and visit people that are less fortunate as to be alone and perhaps bed ridden or Alzheimers, etc.
To me, all your posts were very uplifting for me.
Thanks to all!
SARAH
To me, all your posts were very uplifting for me.
Thanks to all!
SARAH