missmoody
10-24-2002, 03:38 PM
Sorry, I had to delete this post.missmoody
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blue cloud
10-30-2002, 08:18 AM
i think it is all typically BPD and if not then i guess it is me aswell
i feel exactly the same as you when i am in a realationship it is so difficult because normal people do have relationships and marrages and even though i want all that i try my damndess to throw it all away when i get close
i guess it is time to change stick with hubby i get the feeling you really do love him and i dont think you would have married him if you didnt
the pizza thing i do the same i am not sure if it is BPD or just plain stubborness (sp) if i feel i cant order my own food and my partner wont do it for me i just say 'fine then we wont eat'
at first he usually says 'fine' back at me but as you say your husband does he usually gives in and orders the food
i also have a problem deciding on things too i dont know if you can relate i can spend hours deciding if i should have peas or carrots! but if my partner is with me i get him to make the decision for me then i dissagree! its mad
i am sorry this is so long winded i hope this helps
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love and bubbles blue
i feel exactly the same as you when i am in a realationship it is so difficult because normal people do have relationships and marrages and even though i want all that i try my damndess to throw it all away when i get close
i guess it is time to change stick with hubby i get the feeling you really do love him and i dont think you would have married him if you didnt
the pizza thing i do the same i am not sure if it is BPD or just plain stubborness (sp) if i feel i cant order my own food and my partner wont do it for me i just say 'fine then we wont eat'
at first he usually says 'fine' back at me but as you say your husband does he usually gives in and orders the food
i also have a problem deciding on things too i dont know if you can relate i can spend hours deciding if i should have peas or carrots! but if my partner is with me i get him to make the decision for me then i dissagree! its mad
i am sorry this is so long winded i hope this helps
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love and bubbles blue
missmoody
10-30-2002, 08:43 PM
hey blue, the sad thing about not being able to make decisions is when my hubby is indecisive by nature as well. So, it's like the blind leading the blind.
On the relationship thing: I would never act on my dreams or thoughts with the ex buddy. I just never seem to be satisfied. I hate that. I think that has to be the most frustrating thing about this disorder. I also hate the love one minute despise him the next thing.
Thanks for your reply. It made me feel less alone and more normal.
missmoody
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On the relationship thing: I would never act on my dreams or thoughts with the ex buddy. I just never seem to be satisfied. I hate that. I think that has to be the most frustrating thing about this disorder. I also hate the love one minute despise him the next thing.
Thanks for your reply. It made me feel less alone and more normal.
missmoody
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buck58
10-31-2002, 08:47 PM
The only thing I can think to say is, I wish people would be more understanding and supportive with people that have problems, social or otherwise. To me it just comes natural I guess, as for alot of others though, It sounds like a major compromise or something. My guess is, unless he makes some changes about being more understanding& supportive, the same problems you're having now will just keep resurfacing. JMO. Good luck & I wish u the best.
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