blue cloud
11-02-2002, 08:28 AM
i am so so tired of this black and white thinking all the time http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/yawn.gif
where is the grey area?
and how do we get there?
surely its not possible to go through life with this all or nothing approach?
love or hate?
right or wrong?
for me its always one or the other never an 'in between'
any ideas anyone?
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love and bubbles blue
where is the grey area?
and how do we get there?
surely its not possible to go through life with this all or nothing approach?
love or hate?
right or wrong?
for me its always one or the other never an 'in between'
any ideas anyone?
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love and bubbles blue
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Zafu
11-03-2002, 05:42 PM
Hi Blue,
That's a toughie...
The truth gets approached when we stop thinking all together and just experience things........
Hope you are doing OK.
Big hugs
Zafu http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/clown.gif
That's a toughie...
The truth gets approached when we stop thinking all together and just experience things........
Hope you are doing OK.
Big hugs
Zafu http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/clown.gif
blue cloud
11-06-2002, 08:02 AM
hiya zafu :wave:
i think you make very good point there although sometimes i think it would be great for my head to just stop for a few seconds :(
thinks are going down hill in blue cloud world at the moment not sure if i need to up my meds but i really cant be bothered to go to my dr
how are you
hope you are well
love blue
i think you make very good point there although sometimes i think it would be great for my head to just stop for a few seconds :(
thinks are going down hill in blue cloud world at the moment not sure if i need to up my meds but i really cant be bothered to go to my dr
how are you
hope you are well
love blue
Zafu
11-08-2002, 06:36 PM
Hi Blue :wave:,
I'm doing not too bad....
How are you doing now?....a bit better I hope.
I hope the weather isn't too grim in Sussex tonight, there's plenty of rain and gales about.
Hugs
Zafs http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/clown.gif
I'm doing not too bad....
How are you doing now?....a bit better I hope.
I hope the weather isn't too grim in Sussex tonight, there's plenty of rain and gales about.
Hugs
Zafs http://www.healthboards.com/ubb/clown.gif
blue cloud
11-09-2002, 10:25 AM
sussex is dry today its amazing :D
i am not feeling to bad at the moment my partner has stayed with me over the las couple of nights as i have not felt to safe which is really nice of him as i was so horrible to him the whole time then five minutes after insulting him i would appologise and the cycle has gone on for days it really drives me insane know what i mean?
how are you doing at the moment?
i have also arranged a medication review with my dr for next week
have you ever been on a med that really worked for you any advice would be great
:)
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love and bubbles blue
i am not feeling to bad at the moment my partner has stayed with me over the las couple of nights as i have not felt to safe which is really nice of him as i was so horrible to him the whole time then five minutes after insulting him i would appologise and the cycle has gone on for days it really drives me insane know what i mean?
how are you doing at the moment?
i have also arranged a medication review with my dr for next week
have you ever been on a med that really worked for you any advice would be great
:)
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love and bubbles blue
Zafu
11-09-2002, 04:33 PM
Hi Blue,
My basic diagnosis is Dysthymia (Low grade chronic depression), GAD and Social Phobia so I'm not sure that what helped me would help you.....I was on Paxil for about a year which has helped me but I'm still at the mercy of depressive episodes - it's probably only a matter of time before I get hit again.
I'm glad your partner is there for you - that's great.
Let us know how your med review goes?
I've just started some therapy on a weekly basis so hopefully that will help resolve some long term issues.
May you all be happy and well.
Zafu
My basic diagnosis is Dysthymia (Low grade chronic depression), GAD and Social Phobia so I'm not sure that what helped me would help you.....I was on Paxil for about a year which has helped me but I'm still at the mercy of depressive episodes - it's probably only a matter of time before I get hit again.
I'm glad your partner is there for you - that's great.
Let us know how your med review goes?
I've just started some therapy on a weekly basis so hopefully that will help resolve some long term issues.
May you all be happy and well.
Zafu
sampsoki
11-10-2002, 03:10 PM
I know I have had problems with polarizing my thoughts. What I did, I started meditating and reading Buddhist philosphy. The meditating is so calming of the soul & physically calm your body & the philosophy of zen buddhism is to think in the momment. That we can't control anything but ourselves...it helps to center your thinking. It really has helped me get to a more grey area!! Alanis Morrissette songs are theraputuc also! (Thank U, So Pure, Still, and Precious Illusions to name a few) I think Alanis is/was a BPD! =)
Zafu
11-10-2002, 04:08 PM
Hi Sampsoki,
Great to see a fellow meditator :wave:
Welcome to the Healthboards...
I'm currently doing a mixture of Buddhist meditations and can confirm their value to people of all spiritual persuasions.....
With lovingkindness
Zafu
Great to see a fellow meditator :wave:
Welcome to the Healthboards...
I'm currently doing a mixture of Buddhist meditations and can confirm their value to people of all spiritual persuasions.....
With lovingkindness
Zafu
blue cloud
11-12-2002, 09:56 AM
thankyou both for your advice and support it really makes a difference.
i also tried meditation although when i started to read through all that yopu needed to do and believe i just got confused
i know i just sound stupid.
i will let you know how it goes with my dr
love and best wishes
blue
i also tried meditation although when i started to read through all that yopu needed to do and believe i just got confused
i know i just sound stupid.
i will let you know how it goes with my dr
love and best wishes
blue
Zafu
11-12-2002, 01:02 PM
Hi Blue,
If you want try some meditation again there's a great site at www.wildmind.org. (http://www.wildmind.org.) There are some audio files that can talk you thorugh a meditation if your PC has speakers....
Hope all goes well....
Hugs and lovingkindness
Zafu
If you want try some meditation again there's a great site at www.wildmind.org. (http://www.wildmind.org.) There are some audio files that can talk you thorugh a meditation if your PC has speakers....
Hope all goes well....
Hugs and lovingkindness
Zafu
psychosmurf317
12-06-2002, 08:06 PM
I too have this problem with the black or white thinking, and it's driving me mad! If you come up with any solutions for it, please share!
blue cloud
12-07-2002, 08:02 AM
i doubt i have found a miricle cure but i am starting to realise that there COULD be a grey area and it not all or nothing
i have been having councelling sessions with my CPN and when i start saying its all or nothing she then introduces the middle for me and even though i cant except that, i do listen. now when i start with my black and white thinking i realise there is a grey area. it is going to take a long time before i start acting in the grey but at least i know now that it exsits
not sure if that makes any sense but i hope you catch what i mean :D
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love and bubbles blue
i have been having councelling sessions with my CPN and when i start saying its all or nothing she then introduces the middle for me and even though i cant except that, i do listen. now when i start with my black and white thinking i realise there is a grey area. it is going to take a long time before i start acting in the grey but at least i know now that it exsits
not sure if that makes any sense but i hope you catch what i mean :D
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love and bubbles blue