CRUSHED
01-29-2003, 11:28 AM
Hi there ... I really need some help here PLEASE!
DOES MY GIRLFRIEND HAVE A PERSONALITY DISORDER?
I need to give you some background info first.
-I met my girlfriend about 8 months ago and everything was great until about 3 weeks ago
-We have been going in a direction of getting married and having kids ... serious stuff
-About 3 months into our relationship she got a rash, which was diagnosed, from a specialist as SORIASUS (doctor gave her some cream and anti-biotics)
-She also had acne so her gave her TETRACYLINE ... 180 days worth
-The SORIASUS rash went a way
-She then had a pain in her abdomen around to her back in the same spot, which was diagnosed as a URIANRY TRAC INFECTION (they gave her anti-biotics and T3 with Codeine)
-She was on all of this at the same time plus...
-St. John's Wort, Spiralina, Multi-Vitamins, Niacin and marijuana
-When she was younger she use to do cocaine … for about 2 yrs solid then quit (about 22-24) she is now 28 turning 29 in March.
We moved in together pretty quickly ... about 2.5 months into our relationship ... everything was good, but here and there she would throw out things about the person who introduced us, one of her friends I had never met and myself having some sort of conspiracy. A conspiracy meaning that the reason we were in a relationship wasn't good intentions. (I didn't really think anything of it because of past relationships she has had which were bad ones) ... thought she was just insecure.
About 3 weeks ago we broke up ... the last 3 days of living together were crazy. She wasn't getting any sleep at all ... which in turn neither did I.
The first of last 3 days living together she started accusing me of cheating on her a few times *I have never done that to anyone and besides her and I were always together* ... she still wasn't sleeping and I begged her to get sleep. All of these 3 days in question we were in our bedroom talking/arguing/ sorting out stuff. As those 3 days went on the accusations got intense and worse. She started saying that I was video taping her from the lights, she was really on the conspiracy thing I described already, she accused me of drugging her, she would say to me that I'm trying to kill her, she even ran out of the house saying to me "Stop trying to kill me" ... "Stop chasing me” and I was on the third level of the house and she was on the first. (No chasing what so ever). She needed to drink water on her medication and when I would ask her if she wanted a drink she would say "What do you mean by drink" ... I begged her to go to the hospital several times. She would cry and then I would go to console her and she would back away with fear in her eyes ... I mean real fear. (That was freaking me out ... don't forget I hadn't been sleeping either ... worried about her). When I would say something to her she would see everything negative and say what do you mean by that. Even the simplest thing. She would fabricate stories with no bearing what so ever. I have a roommate and he heard some and was like whoa where is she coming from. At the time I was like thank god for a witness. After trying to convince her to go to the hospital and she wouldn't I said I was going to call her mom to come get her because I am worried. She then said "Don't you ever call my parents" angrily ... the whole time we would argue she acted like she didn't know why we were which confused me even more. She then called her mother herself after me begging and said to her mom "I have to get out of here they are video taping me and I am scared of my boyfriend" ... she then dashed to of the house. Her mother told me that when she got on her street she park in her neighbor’s driveway no knowing. Then her mom is like "You live over here" ... when in her house she was saying things like "I thought you were all dead" ... "I thought everyone in world was dead" ... he parents took her to the hospital. She was there a week in the hospital. She is at her parents now on anti-psychotic drugs for delusions I guess ... PLEASE ... PLEASE ... PLEASE help me to understand this I LOVE HER!.
P.S ... Is this hereditary? ... If she has a personality disorder will it go away? ... Will she have to be on meds all the time? ... Can she still have a normal life with me? ... Will these episodes continue?
I REALLY NEED YOU HELP ... PLEASE.
Signed: CRUSHED
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CRUSHED
DOES MY GIRLFRIEND HAVE A PERSONALITY DISORDER?
I need to give you some background info first.
-I met my girlfriend about 8 months ago and everything was great until about 3 weeks ago
-We have been going in a direction of getting married and having kids ... serious stuff
-About 3 months into our relationship she got a rash, which was diagnosed, from a specialist as SORIASUS (doctor gave her some cream and anti-biotics)
-She also had acne so her gave her TETRACYLINE ... 180 days worth
-The SORIASUS rash went a way
-She then had a pain in her abdomen around to her back in the same spot, which was diagnosed as a URIANRY TRAC INFECTION (they gave her anti-biotics and T3 with Codeine)
-She was on all of this at the same time plus...
-St. John's Wort, Spiralina, Multi-Vitamins, Niacin and marijuana
-When she was younger she use to do cocaine … for about 2 yrs solid then quit (about 22-24) she is now 28 turning 29 in March.
We moved in together pretty quickly ... about 2.5 months into our relationship ... everything was good, but here and there she would throw out things about the person who introduced us, one of her friends I had never met and myself having some sort of conspiracy. A conspiracy meaning that the reason we were in a relationship wasn't good intentions. (I didn't really think anything of it because of past relationships she has had which were bad ones) ... thought she was just insecure.
About 3 weeks ago we broke up ... the last 3 days of living together were crazy. She wasn't getting any sleep at all ... which in turn neither did I.
The first of last 3 days living together she started accusing me of cheating on her a few times *I have never done that to anyone and besides her and I were always together* ... she still wasn't sleeping and I begged her to get sleep. All of these 3 days in question we were in our bedroom talking/arguing/ sorting out stuff. As those 3 days went on the accusations got intense and worse. She started saying that I was video taping her from the lights, she was really on the conspiracy thing I described already, she accused me of drugging her, she would say to me that I'm trying to kill her, she even ran out of the house saying to me "Stop trying to kill me" ... "Stop chasing me” and I was on the third level of the house and she was on the first. (No chasing what so ever). She needed to drink water on her medication and when I would ask her if she wanted a drink she would say "What do you mean by drink" ... I begged her to go to the hospital several times. She would cry and then I would go to console her and she would back away with fear in her eyes ... I mean real fear. (That was freaking me out ... don't forget I hadn't been sleeping either ... worried about her). When I would say something to her she would see everything negative and say what do you mean by that. Even the simplest thing. She would fabricate stories with no bearing what so ever. I have a roommate and he heard some and was like whoa where is she coming from. At the time I was like thank god for a witness. After trying to convince her to go to the hospital and she wouldn't I said I was going to call her mom to come get her because I am worried. She then said "Don't you ever call my parents" angrily ... the whole time we would argue she acted like she didn't know why we were which confused me even more. She then called her mother herself after me begging and said to her mom "I have to get out of here they are video taping me and I am scared of my boyfriend" ... she then dashed to of the house. Her mother told me that when she got on her street she park in her neighbor’s driveway no knowing. Then her mom is like "You live over here" ... when in her house she was saying things like "I thought you were all dead" ... "I thought everyone in world was dead" ... he parents took her to the hospital. She was there a week in the hospital. She is at her parents now on anti-psychotic drugs for delusions I guess ... PLEASE ... PLEASE ... PLEASE help me to understand this I LOVE HER!.
P.S ... Is this hereditary? ... If she has a personality disorder will it go away? ... Will she have to be on meds all the time? ... Can she still have a normal life with me? ... Will these episodes continue?
I REALLY NEED YOU HELP ... PLEASE.
Signed: CRUSHED
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CRUSHED
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01-29-2003, 12:36 PM
First of all... i'm sorry on what you're going through and i do hope everything goes well, I'm gonna tell you a little story. Last year we took in a girl who had no one. She just turned 13 and we got feed back on what happened to her before she lived with us. She was born a FAS baby and so was the rest of her siblings, When we took her in she was normal everything went well school, friends, family. Then everything turned around, she started to go out with guys at 14!! her mind was set on that figure of being birtney spears, having tight clothes and didnt care how she got them. We started to get calls and people will tell us what she was doing or saying, so my mother set down some rules. Which she didnt like or cared to follow. And they were not bad at all, they were like: get home work done before tv, no phone after 10:00pm in bed by 11:00pm, all in which we use to all follow. We didnt know what to do with her, because by then she was worst, and worst i mean was talking back to my parents not coming home til late, swearing, stealing and we did try to control her but it went through one ear and out the other. Then her lying came along and thats what got her into trouble, with our family, school and even her so called friends. She really hurt my mother and father, she even broke me and my cousins friendship and even tho' blood IS thicker then water they dont see like that nor they never saw what she done to us so our family is broke because of her. She was sent back to live with her mother, and i do feel bad for her and i do still see her as my little sister, but she just went to far and now shes in a home that i hope one day could help her. But she does have what you called Personality Disorder, one minute shes a 14 year old girl then the next shes a 30 year old women and no one could tell HER to do anything. Well thats what she told the people at the home shes at, she cant control it and she also has a eating disorder (the Britney Spears figure) she was obsessed with her, and she is on alot of Meds to help her. Anyways, back on the subject i guess they have done some testing on her and what ever she has they do see it as hereditary, but it could've been how she was raised, treated or it could even be the FAS thing. I dont have an answer for you, but i hope everything gets better i just thought that i'll share that with you all, because this story sounds just like the little girl we took in to be apart of the which is now gone, FAMILY.
Jennita
02-03-2003, 05:06 PM
Lots of things bother me about this. Mainly the pot and the tylenol with codiene. These are all psychoactive drugs which can cause alot of personality changes, psychosis, paranoia, etc. Sounds like she was paranoid in her thinking, right, since she was scared of you for no good reason and had alot of "conspiracy theory" about relationship! This whole thing could have been caused by drugs.
Now, if she is taking presciption drugs for this condition, well, I don't know if she is better off because it is just trading in the pot and codiene for anti-psychotics. I have to warn you, those anti-psychotics are major league drugs and can sometimes have profound negative effects. Tardive dyskinesia is one scary possibility. Also, she will become dependant and posssibly tolerant of those drugs in the future. Now, she simply can't stop the drugs..she would have to slowly taper and endure some side effects, plus I suppose the withdrawals from the codiene and pot would still be going on, if she is off those. Boy, this is a mess so I don't know how she will get out of it; some do and some don't make it back to normalcy. Some can get off the anti-psychotics ok; others will be on them for life.
Was she taking alot of niacin, and for what? I looked up niacin is a valuable vitamin, but it can cause adverse reactions! It is always advised that the B-vitamins be taken as a complex, and at normal, mulitvitamin doses or they can cause nervous system problems. Niacin does acidify the urine, so that could explain the urinary infection but there could have been other causes. Also, St. John's wort is a controversial item too; herbs are not necessarily safe as they can have the same effects of prescription drugs to some extent and can be psychoactive too.
So this all could be a combination of drug use and perhaps some supplement mis-use? All I know is, the pot alone could be a factor, but combine that with codiene(a narcotic in the opiod family), previous cocaine use and using the questionable supplements, well, quite a mess. And with the major meds in the picture, things may not turn around, although with proper slow-tapering, lots of people have gotten off psychiatric meds and went on to be normal...of course, these people would not be able to touch another drug period...no pot or narcotics, alcohol or nicotine, and herbs would be questionable. Margot Kidder, the actress, got herself off meds with amino-acid therapy. I don't know if that works for everyone. I know most who survive mental illness and drugs usually do so with healthly food, exercise and alot of support. They usually take a long while to recover, and should always be monitored by professionals and family as it is a precarious situation.
Anyway, very sorry but there is a long road ahead no matter whichever one she takes and some relationships do not survive this type of stress. Hopefully, yours can manage to survive this. I wish I could tell you it will all work out; but that remains to be seen.
Now, if she is taking presciption drugs for this condition, well, I don't know if she is better off because it is just trading in the pot and codiene for anti-psychotics. I have to warn you, those anti-psychotics are major league drugs and can sometimes have profound negative effects. Tardive dyskinesia is one scary possibility. Also, she will become dependant and posssibly tolerant of those drugs in the future. Now, she simply can't stop the drugs..she would have to slowly taper and endure some side effects, plus I suppose the withdrawals from the codiene and pot would still be going on, if she is off those. Boy, this is a mess so I don't know how she will get out of it; some do and some don't make it back to normalcy. Some can get off the anti-psychotics ok; others will be on them for life.
Was she taking alot of niacin, and for what? I looked up niacin is a valuable vitamin, but it can cause adverse reactions! It is always advised that the B-vitamins be taken as a complex, and at normal, mulitvitamin doses or they can cause nervous system problems. Niacin does acidify the urine, so that could explain the urinary infection but there could have been other causes. Also, St. John's wort is a controversial item too; herbs are not necessarily safe as they can have the same effects of prescription drugs to some extent and can be psychoactive too.
So this all could be a combination of drug use and perhaps some supplement mis-use? All I know is, the pot alone could be a factor, but combine that with codiene(a narcotic in the opiod family), previous cocaine use and using the questionable supplements, well, quite a mess. And with the major meds in the picture, things may not turn around, although with proper slow-tapering, lots of people have gotten off psychiatric meds and went on to be normal...of course, these people would not be able to touch another drug period...no pot or narcotics, alcohol or nicotine, and herbs would be questionable. Margot Kidder, the actress, got herself off meds with amino-acid therapy. I don't know if that works for everyone. I know most who survive mental illness and drugs usually do so with healthly food, exercise and alot of support. They usually take a long while to recover, and should always be monitored by professionals and family as it is a precarious situation.
Anyway, very sorry but there is a long road ahead no matter whichever one she takes and some relationships do not survive this type of stress. Hopefully, yours can manage to survive this. I wish I could tell you it will all work out; but that remains to be seen.