Viona03
04-09-2003, 03:47 PM
I was pampered by parents while raising. Now some of my friends says that i am dramatic, demanding and complaining.
Is it some kind of disorder? i try so hard not to be dramatic, but I just get emotional easily.
Is it some kind of disorder? i try so hard not to be dramatic, but I just get emotional easily.
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villagegal68455
04-17-2003, 04:27 AM
i'm not sure it would be a disorder in your case...it sounds like it was just the way you were raised...not putting your parents down or anything...i was brought up the opposite...i lived in a very strict household and now as an adult i take things as they come, i don't value material objects at all, and it's the little things that make me happy...instead of saying gimme gimme, maybe you should look around at all the people that are missing something in their lives...maybe if you find yourself a nice job, then you'll be able to earn the things you want and the demands will lessen.....lots of luck.....
ffsmith
04-19-2003, 02:20 PM
If you are like me
There are some lessons in life that you have not learned. Or not learned well.
There is critical information that is missing.
I see nothing wrong with being a pampered child.
I see nothing wrong with being emotional.
The problem for me anyway is that I have not learned how to feel good about myself when I am thinking about others or trying to help others.
I have not learned how to feel like an equal in a relationship or just a friendship.
I have not learned how to feel like part of a team or group.
Your behaviors seem a little immature. But that is not necessarily a bad thing. To me it is actually a hopeful sign because it means that with a little work and growth you will be so well adjusted and happy that you will be able to help people like me.
I think I am probably a lot like you, but instead of growing I have become isolated and maybe depressed and never learned exactly how to fit into this world.
I do not complain, or demand or cry much in public any more. I hold it all in and let it change my view to one that things are hopeless and that I do not belong here on this planet. I feel that I will never be understood or be happy or feel good about myself.
I stead of feeling the way I do, sometimes I wish I could just complain and demand and cry. It is certainly one way to get your desires and feelings out and somewhat connect to people.
I wonder if, it would help you to just be more honest with your friends about what you are feeling.
Instead of complaining about things.
Instead of demanding that they do something.
Instead or breaking down or ending in tears.
Can you say ‘I am a little scared about this thought.’?
‘This situation has me feeling very uneasy.’
‘I feel so sad that this happened’
‘I am very angry that this occurred’
It seems to me that something along these lines might help them to understand your behavior and help you to understand it better too and eventually respond in more socially acceptable ways.
There are some lessons in life that you have not learned. Or not learned well.
There is critical information that is missing.
I see nothing wrong with being a pampered child.
I see nothing wrong with being emotional.
The problem for me anyway is that I have not learned how to feel good about myself when I am thinking about others or trying to help others.
I have not learned how to feel like an equal in a relationship or just a friendship.
I have not learned how to feel like part of a team or group.
Your behaviors seem a little immature. But that is not necessarily a bad thing. To me it is actually a hopeful sign because it means that with a little work and growth you will be so well adjusted and happy that you will be able to help people like me.
I think I am probably a lot like you, but instead of growing I have become isolated and maybe depressed and never learned exactly how to fit into this world.
I do not complain, or demand or cry much in public any more. I hold it all in and let it change my view to one that things are hopeless and that I do not belong here on this planet. I feel that I will never be understood or be happy or feel good about myself.
I stead of feeling the way I do, sometimes I wish I could just complain and demand and cry. It is certainly one way to get your desires and feelings out and somewhat connect to people.
I wonder if, it would help you to just be more honest with your friends about what you are feeling.
Instead of complaining about things.
Instead of demanding that they do something.
Instead or breaking down or ending in tears.
Can you say ‘I am a little scared about this thought.’?
‘This situation has me feeling very uneasy.’
‘I feel so sad that this happened’
‘I am very angry that this occurred’
It seems to me that something along these lines might help them to understand your behavior and help you to understand it better too and eventually respond in more socially acceptable ways.
Viona03
04-19-2003, 03:31 PM
ffsmith:
Thanks for writing back. I am glad you feel the same way. I have found two types of people in my life, one who can take me as who I am and the other half would not accept my dramatic behavior.
In short, I see nothing wrong with who I am but I do act accordingly. If my emotions are drama to them, then ofcourse, its not worth discussing to them. I am very verbal person and have to speak up my mind. I usually tell people how I feel and rest is upto them.
I think if you supress your emotions, its more suffocating. You need to find a way to drain that pain and for me, talking to someone who listens has always worked.
People who doesn't like my dramatic side, i have learned how to avoid those situation with them which can create sadness.
ciao.
Thanks for writing back. I am glad you feel the same way. I have found two types of people in my life, one who can take me as who I am and the other half would not accept my dramatic behavior.
In short, I see nothing wrong with who I am but I do act accordingly. If my emotions are drama to them, then ofcourse, its not worth discussing to them. I am very verbal person and have to speak up my mind. I usually tell people how I feel and rest is upto them.
I think if you supress your emotions, its more suffocating. You need to find a way to drain that pain and for me, talking to someone who listens has always worked.
People who doesn't like my dramatic side, i have learned how to avoid those situation with them which can create sadness.
ciao.
ffsmith
04-19-2003, 09:34 PM
It sounds like you have a good handle on things.
I am sorry if I assumed anything in my first reply that is not true.
If your drama and other behaviors are not causing you a lot of problems socially besides the occasional comment or two, then I do not see a major problem with it at all.
If you are able to control it depending on whom is around you, that is great skill to have.
You are right, that talking to someone who will listen is very healthy.
And hopefully you are able to be there for your friends too.
I so wish I was able to do that.
Temper-tantrums and such behavior might not be the most socially acceptable way of venting emotion, but it is definitely OK to be a little dramatic every now and again. :)
And if you are an actor it probably is even handier
I am sorry if I assumed anything in my first reply that is not true.
If your drama and other behaviors are not causing you a lot of problems socially besides the occasional comment or two, then I do not see a major problem with it at all.
If you are able to control it depending on whom is around you, that is great skill to have.
You are right, that talking to someone who will listen is very healthy.
And hopefully you are able to be there for your friends too.
I so wish I was able to do that.
Temper-tantrums and such behavior might not be the most socially acceptable way of venting emotion, but it is definitely OK to be a little dramatic every now and again. :)
And if you are an actor it probably is even handier
Viona03
04-22-2003, 09:02 PM
So true. I have some people calline me drama queen. And surprisingly, I don't feel like its drama at all. I am just being genuine. Some even used to call me an actress. I don't know how and why. I am so bad at acting.
Well, I do have found someone who takes my emotions seriously..like my family. They listens. and my boyfriend also is very understanding. I did have problem with some friends who would call me those names or expect me to be different than who I am. They are not in touch with me anymore. I did try to improbe myself and take their criticism positively. We never stop growing. I guess...
Well, I do have found someone who takes my emotions seriously..like my family. They listens. and my boyfriend also is very understanding. I did have problem with some friends who would call me those names or expect me to be different than who I am. They are not in touch with me anymore. I did try to improbe myself and take their criticism positively. We never stop growing. I guess...