Im a boy, in first year at college which is going ok.I live in england in a place called cheshire.All my life i've experienced social problems.I've never had any close friends, experienced servere bullying mental and phyical.Im not a minger, i once won a photo competition for the best looking baby in warrington where i live.i've never got y i've never made friends,maybe cos i'm just different than other lads.Anyway now i'm in my first year at college and have many friends but i still think y they like me and if they really do and i always feel nervous when talking too them.I feel that i'm years behind in social happenings if you get me.Like most lads started takeing interest in cars, girls, there own music around the age of 14 whilst i just never took any interest at all.This is maybe the reason y i carnt relate to anyone cos i just dont have my own interests.So these past few mouths i've been takeing in information more, like football team names, f1 drivers names, car names, reading up on cars, lastest football news and just giving me something to have to talk about.Cos when i find myself talking to people i have nothing to say and i just go quiet.But i still feel sad doing this cos it does not feel normal.I've also nothiced how i never smile of laugh with the other lads so now i'm starting to do that but still feel i'm not getting better.Whats happening too me i feel so confused with it all.

I go through similar experiences with friends. Have you considered speeking with a professionnal? Finding the source of these feelings would probably be the best first step in finding how to control them. Good luck

You likely are what is called a "late bloomer". Don't worry. You may find that in a few years or so you feel much different about yourself. Developing your own interests and hobbies is a great idea. Also, reading books that resonate with what you are experiencing may be helpful. How about "Catcher in the Rye?".

All the best and don't give up on yourself!

[This message has been edited by peregrine (edited 08-19-2003).]

i went threw the same thing never had many friends even now i only have one or two good friends. but when it comes to you looking up information just so you have things in common with your mates...maybe you should find things that you actually are interested in ya know then youll have things to talk about with out having that weird feeling. you just have to know that people are different everyone has different interests...if you dont like those certain things dont pretend you do otherwise your ''friends'' wont really like you theyll like someone that isnt really you.

just be yourself and youll find people that are into the same things you are and youll end up makin really awesome friends. no stressin it will work
good luck

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OMG you have schizoid personality disorder.

I have it, trust me, i just found out recently. Look up some info on it and tell me if it describes you.

From what ive read, you probably do.

Originally posted by Jumpin Jesus:
OMG you have schizoid personality disorder.

I have it, trust me, i just found out recently. Look up some info on it and tell me if it describes you.

From what ive read, you probably do.

I would be cautious about throwing labels like that around. Labels, whether they are accurate or not, can moor us in a place that would be difficult to extricate ourselves.

*hugs* i know what your going thru. i dont have many friends either and when i am around friends it feels kinda weird for me too. i agree with the person that said u should prolly go talk to someone (like a therapist) about this- it could be something as simple as social anxiety (which can be treated fairly easily).
if u ever wanna talk or something u can email me at starlight_sky77@yahoo.com :)