(I feel so sick to my stomache right now)...........

I posted an ad Monday in infecious Disases about my urithra burning and hurting the Dr. said that it was just Vaginitis, and game me Antibiotics, today I went back becouse it was still very very painfull, and there were bumps, he took one look and said.... Yes there are blisters and you have HERPIES>>>>>.(did I just hear that right...HERPIES)?

As I begin to weep, iam scared, mad, and how do I tell the man I have been active with now for about 2 months, I am sure he did not give it to me, becouse about a year ago and ex lover told me that he was infected by his ex, at that time I had no out breaks, each month i got some kind of iritation but thought it was just the Vaginial PH being off...till this month when I cant even handel sitting standing, or walking. So now I am sure it was the man from a year ago, who I will let know I have it too now, (not mad at him, he did tell me after he found out, hoever it was after we stoped dating)

My questions now are.....?

Does Life Go on.?
How do I tell the Guy I am with now.?

Please your advise and knowlage will be read.....thanks you.

I almost killed myself when I found out I had it. I started pointing fingers, but then I realize I could have had for years. So, it became useless to blame people. Now, I have learned to manage it instead. I don't have a choice. SO for I have done well with things I have tried.

Don't be mad. Just think that **** happens!

c8cristy
I'm so sorry... I remember my first trip to the doctor. I had absolutely no idea whatsoever that I had herpes. My (now ex) boyfriend's reply when I told him was - Oh, yeah, you probably got it from me....
I know how you feel. I was devastated and it took me a long time to recover. But you will be OK. You can get through this and there is a life after all this mess. You have to tell the guy you're with. There's no way around it. He may be pretty ticked off and with good reason. But he does have a right to know. I know I did a lot of crying for a few months. Then I realized that herpes is something I have - it's not who I am. Hang in there! A LOT of people have been where you are and have gotten through - you will too! Take care.

c8cristy
I'm so sorry... I remember my first trip to the doctor. I had absolutely no idea whatsoever that I had herpes. My (now ex) boyfriend's reply when I told him was - Oh, yeah, you probably got it from me....
I know how you feel. I was devastated and it took me a long time to recover. But you will be OK. You can get through this and there is a life after all this mess. You have to tell the guy you're with. There's no way around it. He may be pretty ticked off and with good reason. But he does have a right to know. I know I did a lot of crying for a few months. Then I realized that herpes is something I have - it's not who I am. Hang in there! A LOT of people have been where you are and have gotten through - you will too! Take care.


I know it will get better....just the though of know one wanting me anymore....or the though or with holdingthat imfo untill someone really showes major intrest in me and not scaring them off......and the partners now.... I dont want to scare him......but well see....

Although you will carry the Herpes for life, their is life after Herpex. Their are three antiviral drugs that will stop the growth of the organism, and relieve the symptoms, but will not cure is. The drugs are Zovirax, Farnvir and Valtrex.

Many times an infected person will be asymptomatic. Your partner can wear a condum, but it does not give 100 % protction.

Herpes is cyclic and may lay dormant in the nerve cells for months without symptoms.

Bruce

what sort of tests can be done to find out if you have herpes? i was wondering if herpes is tested in a typical STD test or if there is a special test for it.

what sort of tests can be done to find out if you have herpes? i was wondering if herpes is tested in a typical STD test or if there is a special test for it. You need to specifically ask for a herpes type specific blood test. Herpes is not checked during your typical std panel. Make sure you ask for an Herpeselect IGG I/II test.

We are all in this together to help each other. It is all about supression, as long as it does not raise its ugly head (OBs) then life is much better for sure. It is definately upsetting, makes you mad, sad and every other emotion you can think of. It is amazing how it affects people differently. I never get an OB anymore and my spouse gets them constantly however hers are the razor type cuts/lines, fissures, which is still an OB nonetheless. They heal over time and come back. We both exercise, take garlic tablets, eat garlic, take lysine, vitamin C, virasoothe, H balm, etc, etc. We have tried everything and we are constantly learning as much as we can. As far as we are concerned the type of OB a person gets is still an OB which prevents sex and is still painful, burns and everything else associated with an OB. Hang in there.
(I feel so sick to my stomache right now)...........

I posted an ad Monday in infecious Disases about my urithra burning and hurting the Dr. said that it was just Vaginitis, and game me Antibiotics, today I went back becouse it was still very very painfull, and there were bumps, he took one look and said.... Yes there are blisters and you have HERPIES>>>>>.(did I just hear that right...HERPIES)?

As I begin to weep, iam scared, mad, and how do I tell the man I have been active with now for about 2 months, I am sure he did not give it to me, becouse about a year ago and ex lover told me that he was infected by his ex, at that time I had no out breaks, each month i got some kind of iritation but thought it was just the Vaginial PH being off...till this month when I cant even handel sitting standing, or walking. So now I am sure it was the man from a year ago, who I will let know I have it too now, (not mad at him, he did tell me after he found out, hoever it was after we stoped dating)

My questions now are.....?

Does Life Go on.?
How do I tell the Guy I am with now.?

Please your advise and knowlage will be read.....thanks you.

If you are in the infectious stage of Herpes (symptoms like water blisters). a culture from the lesions is reliable. The virus can be cultured even when their are no symptoms.

If you have blood tests done it is possible to get a false negative and false positive result. The false negative can occur because you may be tested too soon, before antibodies are built up. Cold sores may be caused by Herpes, usually type I, but this result may have nothing to do with a genital infection. The best results from a blood test, is do the test right away and repeat the test in two or three weeks.

Bruce

(I feel so sick to my stomache right now)...........

My questions now are.....?

Does Life Go on.?
How do I tell the Guy I am with now.?

Please your advise and knowlage will be read.....thanks you.

Hi, sorry your going through this. Anyways, life does go on, I promise you. You should ask your doctor to do a type specific blood test, to see if you have type 1 or type 2. If you have type 1, you most likely contracted it through oral sex. If you have type 2, you most likely contracted it through regular sex. My doctor told me that at least 80% of the population is infected orally by the time they reach 14 years of age, and at least 25% are infected genitally. (but the majority of people don't know they are carrying the virus) You should definately tell your boyfriend, and tell him he needs to be tested. There is really no way to know whether you had it all along (unless he tests negative, you obviously contracted it from someone before him, and didn't pass it to him), or if he has it and gave it to you. I contracted gential herpes from my boyfriend's mouth (he apparently has oral HSV1, but rarely gets any coldsores) during oral sex. So, now, I caught genital herpes from someone who does NOT have genital herpes. Well, anyway, I had my first outbreak after we had been together for about a year. The first thing I did when I got home from the doctor was tell him. He knew I had gone to the doctor for what I thought was a yeast infection or something like that....the thought of an STD never crossed my mind, as we were both tested for STD's before we started having sex, although we were only tested for herpes type 2, not type 1. he was sooo supportive, I don't know what I would have done without him. He never pointed fingers, and actually probably felt worse that I did about it once my doctor told us that since we had had oral sex 4 days prior to my outbreak, and considering I had blisters everywhere his mouth touched (on my nipples too), it was pretty safe to assume that that is where I got it from. Anyways, good luck, and keep us posted as to how your doing and how the talk with your boyfriend goes. :)