noni4220
11-28-2003, 06:48 PM
im a 20 y/o girl living with my mother who i do not get along with AT ALL!... i recently quit my job about 2 weeks ago and all i want to do is sleep, ive been dating this guy for about 3 months who makes me feel like im not important.. or is it me?.. everyday its a constant battle between my mom and I, today she threw a glass ashtray at me and broke it on me is that normal?.. its my boyfriends birthday and i didnt want to go to the mall with her and she got pissed and took my car keys with her..so i wouldnt be able to go out?.. is that normal?..
she says i do nothing all day but sleep, but it seems to me like nothing is enough for her, she has never been able to accept me being mediocre..
i feel like i didnt live up to "her" standards...
i feel like she gets jealous when i dont come home at nights and i spend the nite at his house b/c the next morning when i get home shes already bitter tell me things like.. "your disgusting" or "all u do is eat all day and have sex all night u *****"... i dont know what to do n e more but move out,,, my mom is a single parent and ever since 4 years ago she got divorced shes been on this bad trip with me.. like she has nothing else to do but try to control my life.. i have left for weeks at a time and i always end up coming back b/c i feel bad for her when shes all alone. .and things tend to get better for a little while then it just gets reallly bad again.. what should i do!!.. help!
noni (miami)
she says i do nothing all day but sleep, but it seems to me like nothing is enough for her, she has never been able to accept me being mediocre..
i feel like i didnt live up to "her" standards...
i feel like she gets jealous when i dont come home at nights and i spend the nite at his house b/c the next morning when i get home shes already bitter tell me things like.. "your disgusting" or "all u do is eat all day and have sex all night u *****"... i dont know what to do n e more but move out,,, my mom is a single parent and ever since 4 years ago she got divorced shes been on this bad trip with me.. like she has nothing else to do but try to control my life.. i have left for weeks at a time and i always end up coming back b/c i feel bad for her when shes all alone. .and things tend to get better for a little while then it just gets reallly bad again.. what should i do!!.. help!
noni (miami)
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11-28-2003, 07:13 PM
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Angel77
11-30-2003, 02:02 AM
You may have some dipression issues, but take it from someone who's been there, done that. I've been married and out of the house now for 10 years and up until recently I really thought that my mom hated me because of something I did. Finally, during a conversation while she was ripping me a new one, she said something that only had to do with her life. It was then that I was able to look back and see that the other fights were really about what she hated in herself, not me.
You need to get out of there for your safety and sanity!!! You are going to have to stand up and take responsibility or it will never change. I'm not saying own what problems your mom is having, but you can change how your life is going. First things first, get out!!! She's not good for you or herself, and if you're suffering from depression it's only going to get worse staying in the home.
My guess is that she's upset about her marriage ending (she probably had some responsibility) and it's easier to make you the target, than to look in the mirror.
And to answer your questions----NO IT IS NOT NORMAL. She's going to end up huritng you.
Keep plugging along and get ready to make the change. Be prepared for the guilt trips that will be headed your way. They will and they'll be awful!! Just know that just as it is up to you to find your happiness it is upto your mom to find hers. Remember, misery loves company and sweetheart you're the company.
Good luck, let us know how you're doing.
You need to get out of there for your safety and sanity!!! You are going to have to stand up and take responsibility or it will never change. I'm not saying own what problems your mom is having, but you can change how your life is going. First things first, get out!!! She's not good for you or herself, and if you're suffering from depression it's only going to get worse staying in the home.
My guess is that she's upset about her marriage ending (she probably had some responsibility) and it's easier to make you the target, than to look in the mirror.
And to answer your questions----NO IT IS NOT NORMAL. She's going to end up huritng you.
Keep plugging along and get ready to make the change. Be prepared for the guilt trips that will be headed your way. They will and they'll be awful!! Just know that just as it is up to you to find your happiness it is upto your mom to find hers. Remember, misery loves company and sweetheart you're the company.
Good luck, let us know how you're doing.