Hi everyone. I'm hoping you could be so kind as to give me your opinion on my situation. Here goes. I've had gh for 3 yrs now from someone I was dating and did not tell me he had h. I've always had a pretty low self esteem so you can imagine how it is now that I have gh. About five years ago, I broke up with a man I had been having an affair with for three years. (Both of us were in committed relationships but not married). We eventually both left our partners and were both available. He was interested in hooking back up with me, however I kept rejecting him because I was still very angry at him. Now, I realize I still have feelings for him and want very much to be with him, but he is now seeing other people. On Thanksgiving Day, I went to his house and it was clear we both wanted to have sex with each other. Before things got too far, I sat him down and told him I have gh. He was very understanding and said it could happen to anyone. I asked him if he looks at me differently or as a lesser person because of gh and he said no. But, in a very quiet body language kind of way, he has made it clear he doesn't want to risk gh with me. I feel rejected, but at the same time I feel that I messed up and lost him completely. And that really hurts. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to in life.

I think this exactly is the reason today our society is dominated by all different kinds of STDs. Instead of sleeping around, it would be wonderful to stick with one partner and follow the rules.

Hey Island,
I'm sorry to hear that this guy seems to be standofish about your H. The truth is that it would seem to be a good judegment factor of where you two are with your relationship. If it's just about the sex, then of course I can see not wanting to risk it... if he's not looking for a serious relationship. However if it's about more than that, then the H shouldn't be a factor. As my boyfriend said today when we were talking about my hangups about having H and being scared of giving it to him he said "worse case scenario, I get it. I'm going to marry you and be with you forever, so we'll deal with it if it happens". He is not the exception, there are lots of people who look past it. Look for (and read) the thread called Happy Couples if you havent already.
Don't feel like you've got nothing to live for. Are you going to let this stupid annoying virus ruin you? Absolutely not. There's a good chance that the next person you meet and tell will say "wow, me too". It's that friggin common, it's just that so many people don't know that have it so they keep passing it along. (That's how a lot of us got here, right?).
Good luck to you. And as far as the previous post is concerned, everyone has their own rules. There are people here who got H from protected sex, or even no sex at all. There's a woman with an infant who has it. You don't have to be promiscuous, just unlucky.
Take good care.
Movingrightalong