A couple years ago I had a steady girlfriend who I had unprotected sex with, vaginal and oral, for a year's time. It's been a couple years since then and I don't know her anymore so my memory is kind of foggy. I can faintly remember her going for an HIV test during our relationship and her telling me it came back negative. The problems come in that while our relationship was the first sexual one for me, she may have had a few encounters with other guys before me. To top it off, while I am positive I was the only one she had sex with during the relationship, I'm unsure if the sex she had with other guys ended three months before her HIV test, also, I have reason to wonder if she even went in for HIV testing at all.

So it's been a couple years since then and it's just starting to bother me in the back of my head. Would I see any symptoms by now? I'm going to see my doctor on Monday and I'm thinking of asking him to give me an HIV test except it's one of those things where I'm almost more scared of finding out then I am of not finding out. I live in Canada and while I'm not worried about friends and family finding out I'm being tested, I am worried that possible employers might see this information or that I might have to wait a long time to find the results. Time that would probably see me pulling my hair out every time the phone rings.

Thanks in advance for your time.

A couple years ago I had a steady girlfriend who I had unprotected sex with, vaginal and oral, for a year's time. It's been a couple years since then and I don't know her anymore so my memory is kind of foggy. I can faintly remember her going for an HIV test during our relationship and her telling me it came back negative. The problems come in that while our relationship was the first sexual one for me, she may have had a few encounters with other guys before me. To top it off, while I am positive I was the only one she had sex with during the relationship, I'm unsure if the sex she had with other guys ended three months before her HIV test, also, I have reason to wonder if she even went in for HIV testing at all.

So it's been a couple years since then and it's just starting to bother me in the back of my head. Would I see any symptoms by now? I'm going to see my doctor on Monday and I'm thinking of asking him to give me an HIV test except it's one of those things where I'm almost more scared of finding out then I am of not finding out. I live in Canada and while I'm not worried about friends and family finding out I'm being tested, I am worried that possible employers might see this information or that I might have to wait a long time to find the results. Time that would probably see me pulling my hair out every time the phone rings.

Thanks in advance for your time.


i don't think you have anything to worry about. but you will keep wondering unless you get tested. believe me i know. just get it done and over with. you would have problems by now, so you will most likley come out negative. everyone goes through the test fear, but i will tell you, right after they drew the blood for my test i felt better already, because i was taking control of my life.

you would have problems by now, so you will most likley come out negative. everyone goes through the test fear, but i will tell you, right after they drew the blood for my test i felt better already, because i was taking control of my life.

I thought with HIV symptoms often didn't show up for ten years? Well anyway, got some blood taken today and now the hard part is waiting two weeks for results. Every phone call between now and then is going to scare the bejeezus out of me as I'm going to think it could be the doctor with bad news.

File, good for you for getting tested. The odds are in your favor, heavily, that you are negative. Good luck.