Urethscopic stone removal: Stone 2 inches above bladder in ureter. Stuck there for last 6 months.
I have never had surgery before and am terrified of hospitals. I also have a great fear of anything involving the genital area. I have a long standing felling of inadequacy in that area. I also suffer from depression. I am currently not on any medication, but in the past I have been on Prozac. I have a current prescription for Lexapro that I have yet to start.
Emotional problems: My father was a healthy man all his live, he was a coal miner, until he had hernia surgery 30 years age. After the surgery he developed blood clots in his legs, this led to his first stroke. Additional strokes occurred and he was brought back from near death 4 years ago. He spent the next 3 years in a nursing home dying. This was a horrible experience for me. I saw him with catheters and other tubes and became terrified of tubes and hospitals.

In summary, I am a big baby with a low tolerance for pain.

Here are my questions:

1). Is an IV line required, for anything other than the anesthetic? If so how soon will it be removed? I have hard to find veins and the IV in the hand usually hurts much more. I hate IV’s with a passion. IV time must be minimized.
2). Has anyone ever died from this surgery?
3). I assume I am asleep before any tubes are inserted or removed from the penis?
4). When removing the stint afterwards in your office, are you awake for this procedure? Can you be sedated or given a tranquilizer for stint removal?
5). If stint discomfort is a problem, are the antispasmodic medications prescribed up front or is an office visit required?
6). How long should soreness or bleeding in the genital area be expected to continue?
7). Does small penis size help or hinder the operation in any way?
8). If something goes wrong and open surgery is required, how long is the hospital stay involved?
9). Please do all you can to minimize my time in the hospital. I have an almost irrational fear of hospitals and may require constant sedation or tranquilizers. I am concerned as to the mental scars left from this procedure also. This could lead me into another depression and cause me to return to anti depressant medication.

I do not want to end up with blood clots and see my life destroyed like what happened to my father. I would like to have available and sign a DNR clause before surgery. My greatest fear is ending up like my father.

How do I get through this? Or do I cancel the surgery, wait for the stone to clog the kidney completly and cause kidney infection and kill me.
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Primary doctor insisted I start Lexapro (Anti depressant) and gave me xanex to try and get me through this.

You can read my story in one of the other threads but the worrying and the fear is far worse than anything they do. Penis size has nothing to do with anything.

these doctors that do these surgeries do it everday multiple times five days a week almost 365 days of the year. they've had 5 year olds, 12 year olds, 50 years olds, every age, type size, condition etc..

I asked and not a single procedure had ever gone wrong. the anasethesiologist is a doctor it's his job to make sure you wake up, they ask you so many questions and as long as your clear about everything the chances are almost zilch.

I went to Good Samaritan Hospital (goodsam.org) and they are total professionals. The worrying is much worse than anything you experience. Your out the whole time. the only thing they give you before your out is oxygen, an iv in your hand of antibiotics and electrolytes. You'll most likely be pissing blood for a week but its minimal even though it seems like alot. You take a single drop of food coloring and put in a gallon of water the whole gallon is gonna look tinged.

Stopy worrying, have it done and relax. I was super scared and my worrying and anxiety was far worse than anyting i experienced. in two weeks you'll feel better than you do with the stone and everyone is so nice and sweet and friendly, have a sense of humor about it and it'll be fine.

Did you have a stint and exactly how horrible was the stint and the removal process for the stint later? I have heard many stint horror stories.

Did you have a stint and exactly how horrible was the stint and the removal process for the stint later? I have heard many stint horror stories.

I'll let you know Monday when i have it removed. and i'll post it here. It's uncomfortable but it's not exactly painful, the only problem i'm having besides the bleeding is pain in my kindey when i urinate. Unfotunetly there were some minor complications with my surgery but nothing to worry abut it, it's just gonna take a slight while longer to heal.

How long do you hwve to have your stint? What minor complications?