wannabehotguy
12-28-2003, 03:34 PM
I run across people 80% of the time that poo-poo my ideas, opinions, jokes, or just about anything. I've read several communication books and worked out my issues in therapy for 2 years now and still I feel like attacking those people who poo poo what I say.
I could say something like "I had a really great teacher this semester. He really taught chemistry really well for me. I liked his sense of humor and he always came in with a smile and had patience even for the tricky questions. I'd love to have more teachers like him."
And the friend or family member will say "Well isn't having good teachers just a part of school life??" And then they will quickly change the subject to something else. This happens for every topic I bring up. When they bring a topic up I gladly listen to them and talk friendly with them. If I don't leave the conversation this type of crap will go on for hours. Everything I say will be poo-pooed with some fecious comment, sarcasm, an attacking question, silence, irate tone of voice or an attack on my decisions. And that example I gave was one of the nicer examples of how people really don't care for what I say.
The problem is that my entire family is that way and a lot of my classmates are that way. And therefore I feel angry about 80% of the time. I want some peace in my life ok. I want a decent social life, real friends that I can joke around with and talk with. My therapist thinks that I was really shy person and that caused me to be that way. I was like NO way, shy people don't go up to people with excitement to shake their hand and a smile on the face. I do that!
And if for any reason that I was shy or backing down on meeting people is because the majority of the time it was like that. Very uncomfortable for me to put up with these people poo pooing everything I say. I'd rather be by myself that put up with that crap. And if I bring up the problem they calmly insist that it is my fault. Basically turning the tables of me.
Basically I feel like a cornered dog for the love of god! How could anybody with self respect put up with that crap on daily basis?
Can anybody help me? I think I want to do group therapy. Does that work good for my issues
I could say something like "I had a really great teacher this semester. He really taught chemistry really well for me. I liked his sense of humor and he always came in with a smile and had patience even for the tricky questions. I'd love to have more teachers like him."
And the friend or family member will say "Well isn't having good teachers just a part of school life??" And then they will quickly change the subject to something else. This happens for every topic I bring up. When they bring a topic up I gladly listen to them and talk friendly with them. If I don't leave the conversation this type of crap will go on for hours. Everything I say will be poo-pooed with some fecious comment, sarcasm, an attacking question, silence, irate tone of voice or an attack on my decisions. And that example I gave was one of the nicer examples of how people really don't care for what I say.
The problem is that my entire family is that way and a lot of my classmates are that way. And therefore I feel angry about 80% of the time. I want some peace in my life ok. I want a decent social life, real friends that I can joke around with and talk with. My therapist thinks that I was really shy person and that caused me to be that way. I was like NO way, shy people don't go up to people with excitement to shake their hand and a smile on the face. I do that!
And if for any reason that I was shy or backing down on meeting people is because the majority of the time it was like that. Very uncomfortable for me to put up with these people poo pooing everything I say. I'd rather be by myself that put up with that crap. And if I bring up the problem they calmly insist that it is my fault. Basically turning the tables of me.
Basically I feel like a cornered dog for the love of god! How could anybody with self respect put up with that crap on daily basis?
Can anybody help me? I think I want to do group therapy. Does that work good for my issues
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