I'm pretty sure I'm going to lose my virginity in the next couple of weeks, and I just had a quick question. My gf is not a virgin. Obviously, I'll be using a condom. Will she expect me to ejaculate inside her with the condom still on? I mean, is this the normal way for a guy to finish? Or will I be able, when I'm getting close, to take the condom off and finish by ejaculating on her stomach or breasts. I really need this advice, as I'm not sure what's appropriate (especially the first time). Thanks.

You should do what you feel most comfortable doing, and what you think she would be more comfortable doing. Go with the flow- it might make you nervous if you try to do things a certain way. good luck!

I'm pretty sure I'm going to lose my virginity in the next couple of weeks, and I just had a quick question. My gf is not a virgin. Obviously, I'll be using a condom. Will she expect me to ejaculate inside her with the condom still on? I mean, is this the normal way for a guy to finish? Or will I be able, when I'm getting close, to take the condom off and finish by ejaculating on her stomach or breasts. I really need this advice, as I'm not sure what's appropriate (especially the first time). Thanks.


I *highly* recommend just doing it inside of the condom. But if you're really interested in doing it somewhere on her body, ASK FIRST. Real women are not like the women you see in porn, and there are quite a few out there who would be extremely upset with you for coming on their stomach! Also, I will note my hubby says orgasming inside is much more satisfying, and he doesn't understand the whole 'cumshot' part of porn. Hope that helps!

Ask her when the time comes. Some women prefer that the man pulls out prior to ejaculation, as it reduces the odds of pregnancy. (There has been a recent post of a condom breaking and the male not being aware of it until he was done and after semen was spilt inside - so accidents do happen.) In fact, if you don't want to be a Dad, you might decide on your own to pull out.

By pulling out, I don't me you pull out and tear off the condom and shoot on her body. I mean, pull out just as you reach that point of no return. You can tell her that this is what you are going to do, and you can warn her the instant before you do, and maybe she can use her hands, or mouth, to help out and avoid that voided feeling one gets when they pull out at the moment of orgasm and lose the friction and pressure.