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Gday
02-11-2004, 11:28 PM
Yea...and it really freaked me out. I was discussing how winter is so harsh on my skin with my mom, and commenting on a few zits that I have (heh), and she was like "Well, are you eating right?" and I was like "uhh, yeaa..." and she said, "Oh ok, because I hope you aren't doing anything weird or hurting yourself to be skinny. [and here she made some comment about what my stupid doctor mentioned- something about the side effects of eating disorders when he realized I had lost weight :rolleyes: ]. I'm not going to sit with you and pay your hospital bills when your esophegus is torn apart..." (My mom is sarcastic when she's embarassed or freaked out to bring something up. It doesn't seem crude to me in the least, and she doesn't mean it to be(!) b/c that's how she is, but it did make me feel like a creep). And what a weird time to bring this up! Or odd choice of conversations to interupt, rather. It sorta weirded me out b/c I had just been in the bathroom...I really wasn't expecting her to say something to me! I honestly hadn't even realized she had a clue! Which is another reason I feel weird...I guess I wasn't so secretive, as it must have been so obvious, and I really believed I had been!...I responded with "Uh ya, I'm not doing that..." blowing it off, and continuing to talk about my face. She said something else about it, and I wasn't sure how to handle it, so I was like "yea, alright..." and walked away. I don't even want to face her. I feel so queer...and I hateee it that she knows. I hate that she brought it up. I hate the way she handled it once she did, but at the same time I feel bad for making her HAVE to try to handle something like this...I hate that I now know she's watching my eating habits. I bet my father knows, too...I'm so grossed out with them for knowing! I don't know why...But yes, anywayz, I'm not really sure how to go about 'acting' toward my mom, now. I feel weird. And I don't want to eat in front of her...and leave the room to go to the bathroom...how can I, when i KNOW, she knows?! But how can I not at the same time??? SO weird. And I am NOT ready to discuss it further with her, my dad, any friend, or any doctor! What if she brings it up again??! Ughh, so annoying, and gross, and upsetting, all at the same time...

eminemworshipper
02-15-2004, 10:41 AM
Hey!!
God!! I hate unexpected confrontations...but I suppose when you are put on the spot..your reactions are more natural then rehearsed (which can sound fake). But I totally understand the position you are in. Do u feel like she is closely watching you or do u feel paranoid just because 'she knows' or you think she knows it all? I hate when doctors tell info to your parents...whatever happened to 'confidentiality???'. Mt step-mam always comments even if I lose the slightest bit of weight. I remember losin weight (without realising) before xmas and she said 'did u actually eat in the UK?' (i live in Brussels, Belgium). I always tell her 'nah, I have just been cutting out all of the crap that I normally eat'. Anyways.......let me/us know how things go.

*Caroline*

 
 
 




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