layney
02-25-2004, 08:16 PM
Okay, my husband and I both smoke and have decided together to quit. I would typically only smoke in the evening, and then generally 3-5 smokes in a day. Anyways, what I am noticing after only one day isn't so much withdrawals but just that I am soooo used to the "pattern" I formed--smoke after dinner, smoke an hour after that, one or two more before bed--that I am feeling like I am off schedule or something. I keep glancing at the clock, wondering if it is time to have another yet. It is like my evenings were so structured around smoking that now, I am at a loss for what to do. Anyone else have that problem? I would welcome all advice and encouragement :) Also, I tend to want a cigarette more so when I am stressed or bored, so I guess I need to fill up my time and figure something else out (besides eating.) To top it off, I am trying to lose weight and get back in shape, so I already excersize as much as possible--which is part of the reason for quitting now, that and I have a 4 year old son who is becoming aware that mom/dad go out in the garage and then it smells yucky and wants to know why (!!!) I don't want to expose him and I don't want to die young. Any and all advice or experiences would be appreciated!! :wave:
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LL29
02-25-2004, 09:29 PM
Hi Layney and welcome to the board :) We'll help you so no worries :)
Please go bk and read the earlier threads/archives here - that should help you quite a bit (both u and the hubby should read them - maybe print some out for him or something?).
Yes - stopping smoking requires some change in your life but I think you realize that. I had the same problem in the beginning but I knew regardless of anything that I was NOT going to smoke again. I knew I'd put on 10-15lbs. which I did put on the 15 and working now to get it off.
I substituted fireballs and water for my smoke. Find something like that or some cinnamon sticks or toothpicks to use. Are you quitting cold turkey or using something? I quit cold turkey 96 days ago after 15 yrs. pack a day so if I can do it - you easily can. :) There are others out here that have used diff. things - the patch is very successful as well from what the others say.
The biggest thing is to make a list of why you feel so strongly and tape your son's picture to it :) That should keep you straight and carry it with you at all times (make one for the hubby as well).
Use the internet search engines to look up diff smoking cessation sites and the dangers of smoking. You can easily lose your fingers/toes, lung cancer, emphysema, etc.. which I'm sure you know. I think what you're both doing is AWESOME and shows great morals since your setting an example for your son. You're doing the right thing and you both want to be there for your son when he gets older right. :)
We'll be here for you both :) Prayer works wonders as well :)
Laurie :bouncing:
PS: On your boredom/pattern thing - read a magazine or book, write a letter, clean the house, do laundry, do some floor exercises, take a nap, take a bath, rearrange your closets, clean out your cupboards or freezer, come here and type to us. Whatever you do .....DO NOT SMOKE! Your in control now! :)
Please go bk and read the earlier threads/archives here - that should help you quite a bit (both u and the hubby should read them - maybe print some out for him or something?).
Yes - stopping smoking requires some change in your life but I think you realize that. I had the same problem in the beginning but I knew regardless of anything that I was NOT going to smoke again. I knew I'd put on 10-15lbs. which I did put on the 15 and working now to get it off.
I substituted fireballs and water for my smoke. Find something like that or some cinnamon sticks or toothpicks to use. Are you quitting cold turkey or using something? I quit cold turkey 96 days ago after 15 yrs. pack a day so if I can do it - you easily can. :) There are others out here that have used diff. things - the patch is very successful as well from what the others say.
The biggest thing is to make a list of why you feel so strongly and tape your son's picture to it :) That should keep you straight and carry it with you at all times (make one for the hubby as well).
Use the internet search engines to look up diff smoking cessation sites and the dangers of smoking. You can easily lose your fingers/toes, lung cancer, emphysema, etc.. which I'm sure you know. I think what you're both doing is AWESOME and shows great morals since your setting an example for your son. You're doing the right thing and you both want to be there for your son when he gets older right. :)
We'll be here for you both :) Prayer works wonders as well :)
Laurie :bouncing:
PS: On your boredom/pattern thing - read a magazine or book, write a letter, clean the house, do laundry, do some floor exercises, take a nap, take a bath, rearrange your closets, clean out your cupboards or freezer, come here and type to us. Whatever you do .....DO NOT SMOKE! Your in control now! :)
jc001
02-26-2004, 01:49 AM
Hi!
I think we all go through the same when quitting. At least in my personal case there where about 8 "ritual" smokes I had every day and I really miss it :(
The truth is you're going to have to deal with it and accept the fact those special smoke times are gone.
It may sound a bit harsh but thats really all there's to it ... many will tell you to keep busy, chew gum, drink water, etc... but the fact is only time will make you foget about it.
Keep strong and don't trade your familiy's health including yours to cigarettes.
I think we all go through the same when quitting. At least in my personal case there where about 8 "ritual" smokes I had every day and I really miss it :(
The truth is you're going to have to deal with it and accept the fact those special smoke times are gone.
It may sound a bit harsh but thats really all there's to it ... many will tell you to keep busy, chew gum, drink water, etc... but the fact is only time will make you foget about it.
Keep strong and don't trade your familiy's health including yours to cigarettes.
layney
02-26-2004, 11:31 AM
Hi!
I think we all go through the same when quitting. At least in my personal case there where about 8 "ritual" smokes I had every day and I really miss it :(
The truth is you're going to have to deal with it and accept the fact those special smoke times are gone.
It may sound a bit harsh but thats really all there's to it ... many will tell you to keep busy, chew gum, drink water, etc... but the fact is only time will make you foget about it.
Keep strong and don't trade your familiy's health including yours to cigarettes.
Yep, you both are right. Last night, I kept as busy as possible--it also helped that I got home later than usual ;)--and I went to bed about 1/2 an hour earlier than normal. Funny thing is, I woke up a full hour before I usually do and felt so good that I got up and worked out! :bouncing: I think the last time I was able to get up and work out in the morning (without feeling yucky and coughing non-stop) was right after my son was born, before I started smoking again--4 1/2 years ago. I feel great this morning, so I suppose I will have to keep reminding myself, whenever I want to give in, of how good it felt to be able to get up and work out and not cough or feel like my sinuses are on fire. Nights are gonna be tough for me though, I can already tell. Thanks guys :wave:
I think we all go through the same when quitting. At least in my personal case there where about 8 "ritual" smokes I had every day and I really miss it :(
The truth is you're going to have to deal with it and accept the fact those special smoke times are gone.
It may sound a bit harsh but thats really all there's to it ... many will tell you to keep busy, chew gum, drink water, etc... but the fact is only time will make you foget about it.
Keep strong and don't trade your familiy's health including yours to cigarettes.
Yep, you both are right. Last night, I kept as busy as possible--it also helped that I got home later than usual ;)--and I went to bed about 1/2 an hour earlier than normal. Funny thing is, I woke up a full hour before I usually do and felt so good that I got up and worked out! :bouncing: I think the last time I was able to get up and work out in the morning (without feeling yucky and coughing non-stop) was right after my son was born, before I started smoking again--4 1/2 years ago. I feel great this morning, so I suppose I will have to keep reminding myself, whenever I want to give in, of how good it felt to be able to get up and work out and not cough or feel like my sinuses are on fire. Nights are gonna be tough for me though, I can already tell. Thanks guys :wave:
smartgal
02-26-2004, 12:33 PM
Yes, I had the problem of "telling time" with cigarettes. I think Queenbee mentioned the same thing. Even six weeks later, when I clean house, I still miss sitting down in the middle of cleaning and "breaking" with my cigarette. I make an effort to do some sort of break though. There's also the cig while waiting for water to boil! HA HA! I smell a lot better and so does my car.
Deda
02-26-2004, 05:12 PM
Lol at the water boiling, I would sometimes start dinner, then zip outside for a quick one in the middle because I was bored waiting. ;) Do you guys ever think that part of the reason you started in the first place was too much energy and needing a way to channel it? Sounds weird, but it seems like so many people are saying that their smoke breaks were during some mindless activity, like driving or cooking or cleaning etc. I work all day, fairly high paced, so I don't even think about it but at night, when I have more time to relax, I get bored. There is also the fact that I loathe housework, so taking little mini smoke breaks outside (I never smoked in the house) would give me a releif from something I didn't like doing anyway. Just a thought :D
I can relate to smoking while waiting for...well...just about anything! I don't think I'm so much a high energy person, (well maybe so, I don't know) but I'm very impatient. Hate to wait for anything or anyone. LOL!
One thing I used to do was smoke while I paid bills. I hate making out the bills, and it sure feels funky now not to smoke while I do this. I never smoked in the house either, so out in the garage I went every month (had a table out there and everything i needed, [or thought I needed]) to write out my bills. (For years) Seems so odd doing them inside in our office now...where you're supposed to be doing them!!!!
Congratulations on your quitting, Layney, and keep it going!!! :nono:
DEDA
I can relate to smoking while waiting for...well...just about anything! I don't think I'm so much a high energy person, (well maybe so, I don't know) but I'm very impatient. Hate to wait for anything or anyone. LOL!
One thing I used to do was smoke while I paid bills. I hate making out the bills, and it sure feels funky now not to smoke while I do this. I never smoked in the house either, so out in the garage I went every month (had a table out there and everything i needed, [or thought I needed]) to write out my bills. (For years) Seems so odd doing them inside in our office now...where you're supposed to be doing them!!!!
Congratulations on your quitting, Layney, and keep it going!!! :nono:
DEDA