I have been tested for HIV/AIDS in the past, due to a sexual attack that happened to me 4 years ago. Everything came back negative, and I was tested again 6 months and then another 6 months later. Everything still negative. My husband and I do not use condoms because he had a vasectomy after our 2nd child was born, who is now 13. My husband was tested for HIV/AIDS after my attack, because I did not tell anyone for 2 weeks and we had sex as I was trying to act like it didn't happen (whole other story). Anyway, we've been having problems the last couple of years, and have basically been "existing" in our relationship. I have pushed him away sexually, for the most part, only occassionally having sex. I just found out that he had been with 2 other women in the last 2 years. One was a one night stand, the other was a couple of months, just ending in early January. We are rebuilding our relantionship, but now I am scared to death that he might have gotten some sort of disease or AIDS and given it to me. He didn't use a condom, which I am completely angry about, but he keeps telling me that they weren't AIDS risk. I don't know what to think or do. We have resumed sexual relations to an extent, but I wasn't thinking about the possible consequences when we resumed it. I know we had sex after the first woman, and I know we had it during the time he was with the 2nd woman. I am absolutely petrified, and I am so embarrassed to go to my gynecologist and have a test done. How big of a risk am I in? I don't know what to do.....

txnewbie, you have every right to be angry with your husband and i can understand your embarasment, but i would absolutly get tested for your own piece of mind atleast, all of us are at a risk for hiv/aids or any other STD :wave: when and if we have unprotected sex, so i am not sure about how much of a risk you are, but i would go to my health dept. if you are scared or embaressed to go to yr gyn but i am sure they would understand if you tell them you just want to have a test done. I have an appointment tomorrow to get a test because i stuck myself with a needle at work and i am freaking out too, so i will say a prayer for you..
Best of Luck,
Michelle

I don't blame you for being mad. What he done was totally unacceptable. Yes, if I were you I would be concerned. Not panic stricken but concerned. I would trot him down to the local health department and have std tests (along with HIV test) done on you both.
I really don't think you have HIV, but if I were you I wouldn't let this die until HE (along with you) gets tested for any and every type of std. Maybe after all the embarrassment and aggravation he'll reallize his actions were reckless and will think twice before doing something like that again.