Is there anyone on this board or anyone visiting these boards who has contracted HSV 1 or 2 from someone that KNEW they had it ???

and WAS CAREFUL ??

I want to hear your stories. If anyone has anything to add to this please do so. We all know about "viral shedding" and "asymptomatic viral shedding" but for the most part of everything i've heard "from people i know or people who know people" It's always the same story, i'm very careful, we use protection or don't and neve, ever do anything when any symptoms or outbreaks are present.

For one my X girlfriends boyfriend has HSv1, has had it since childhood they don't do anything when there is an outbreak or symptoms and she hasn't caught anything and they are NOT careful. Another friend of mine knows someone who has HSV2 genitally of course and she's never given it to anyone or done anything with anyone right before, during, and right after an outbreak. I've had sex twice and let them know the risks involved, was careful to use protection and i haven't broken out in months and haven't had any symptoms and she's fine. Like i said i'm looking for evidence that contradicts the 'well known".

thanks post away...

I got it from my ex-husband; we knew he had it, and tried to be careful. But I guess after eight years we made a mistake. He is a person who is not particularly aware of his body (he is an alcoholic) and so probably he just didn't notice when an ob was coming on, or when he had some minor symptoms but no ob. I don't know how he is now, but he used to get ob's only once a year or even less, so I think he would just forget to think about it sometimes.

still your talking about eight years without incidence...Hmmmmm makes ya think doesn't it ?

did you guys use condoms all the time ? or none ??

Hey guys, I am just curious here.

I've had a coldsore few years ago on my lips, it looked exactly like the herpes one, I didn't have a clue that it was something related to herpes, as I had never been involved with anyone at that time, but recently, I've kissed few people, slept with few too(protected sex).

Does this mean that I've infected everyone that I had kissed/slept with?
man I'd feel REALLY bad if I got anyone infected.
I really had no clue what it was or where I got it from, mom says it's 'normal'

Serial, we used condoms only to prevent pregnancy--and much of the time I was trying to get (or already) pregnant. He hardly ever got ob's.

RKM, there are safe times to have sex, but you can't ever know for sure when they are. That is what everyone is saying. Otherwise, everyone would be detailing for you explicitly when you can have sex. I think maybe you just don't want to face it. Relationships are risky in many ways. There is never a guarantee. If you love her, want her in your life, and want to make a commitment, then knowing that there's a chance you will get herpes is part of that commitment and love. Maybe you will never get it, esp if you follow some of the suggestions on this board. Some strains of the virus don't seem to be that virulent. Maybe you will get it someday. No guarantee, about anything in life.

avron, as long as you didn't have a cold sore at the time you kissed, or within a few days of it, you probably did not pass it on. Just because you have had cold sores now and then does not mean you are always contagious. None of us is ALWAYS contagious. Those who have more sores, of course, are contagious more of the time (it seems they shed the virus more "asymptomatically," too.) My grandmother had cold sores every once in a great while, but neither my father--her son--nor any of us grandchildren has ever had one. She must have known not to kiss us when she had one.

The peroxide test works for me, knowing my body works for me, if the woman your going to be sleeping with knows her body and her symptoms and her signs and prodrome symptoms then use a condom and be careful and like backpacker said things like washing up right after and i mean right after are crucial and very helpful. read the hydrogen peroxide thread. My doctor told me i was lucky and as long as the persons immune system wasn't down, that MY immune system wasn't down, that i was taking the Valtrex and use a condom then the risks were minimal, basically she told me to enjoy my life and not to worry about it too much, cause it will only make it worse.
i'm not gonna get into any deep issues, but seriously if she hasn't broken out in a long time, has NO prodrome symptoms, washes up before, you wash up right after, use a condom, yanno things just might be okay. nothing is 100% guaranteed but i honestly believe the whole viral shedding, asymptomatic shedding thing is over dramatized. yeah it's been known to happen but yanno ANYTIME you take off your pants ANYTIME you have sex your taking a risk herpes or not..after what i've been though i was thanking god it was ONLY herpes.

those are the ONLY replies to my question.....Hmmmm incidence seems to severely LOW...EIGHT years...Hmmmmmmm...makes ya think don't it ??

But I may have gotten it from him years before, and it only showed up under the great stress of a third pregnancy. Who knows? However, your point is well taken: as long as you don't have sex when any symptoms are present and use your common sense, the chances are much better for you.

Who knows? However, your point is well taken: as long as you don't have sex when any symptoms are present and use your common sense, the chances are much better for you.

THANK YOU

Isn't it funny how people want guarantees, black and white, yes or no, even though after living a couple of decades we should all know that life is never like that. We can only talk about chances. Thank YOU for being content with that!

i don't want guarantees, i want a bloody vaccine. like they have for hepatitis. Since i'm stuck with this, the heavenly day for me is the day i tell someone i love i have this and they say so what i've been vaccinated. Or someone i don't love and i'm just really in LUST with and they say the same thing WoooooooooHooooo