I have been seizure free now for almost three years. I can legally drive an automobile and my driver's license is valid. I ran into problems when I divorced my wife. She says I'm a threat to our children when I visit them on the weekends because I drive. The only way I can see them now is by having my parents drive me. How lame is this?! :bouncing: I can't believe the judge sided with her on this. Isn't this discrimination? I tried to have this ruling changed and now the judge wants me to get the doctor to write a permission slip for me to drive the children. What is this going to prove? What doctor would sign such a letter?

I can understand your frustration. I no longer have a license, but when I did, my wife didn't want me driving the kids because of my history of sz. My independent side wanted to argue, but the father in me understood that there is always a possibility of a re-occurence of sz activity and that my kids' lives would be in jeopardy. Ask yourself this question, is time with your children worth having to hitch a ride to go see them? If I were you, I would rather have to ride with someone than to not be able to see them at all. But, like I said, I understand your frustration. Best of luck to you!
Mike

Did your doctor write a letter to the DMV stating that you were okay to drive in order to get your licence back three years ago? Perhaps just another generic letter along those same lines would suffice for the judge.

I had the same thought as Art. If the doctor had to write DMV a letter, he could write one for this.....


I know it is very frustrating. I also know that it is taking away independence that you have regained. At the same time, if it works ok with your parents driving you...this is one way to guarantee seeing those kids. THey get the bonus of seeing the kids also. You have mom or dad witnessing if your Ex is nasty or hassling you as well...

So sorry she is not cooperating. Hang in there. Hope you can get this worked out.

Kayakmom,

Thank you for responding. I think Art was onto something. It seems so obvious. Just get the doctor to write a reply for the judge. I appreciate the support.

Nick

Art,

Your exactly right. I can't believe I missed the most obvious line of action. If the state as cleared me to drive because my doctor wrote them a note, why wouldn't it work for the judge.

I'm going to give it a try. Thanks for the advice!

Nick

mnt89,

You've summed up every emmotion I've felt this whole time. I wouldn't want to harm my children in anyway and I would do whatever it takes to see them. The thing I keep getting hung up on is that this wasn't an issue while we were still married.

I appreciate your response and encouragement.

Nick

The fact that you have your license IS your permission slip from the state!! This judge is violating a state sponsored license - you should challenge this! Besides - didn't your Doctor have to provide a letter to the DMV stating that you were fit to drive? what more do they want?

Moot,

I think this goes beyond the seizures. Now I have to look at laws that govern people who are divorced and how they affect people. I have had to jump through a lot of hoops set up by my ex-wife so I can see my kids. We originally started out in a little room supervised by someone because she considered me a flight risk. I don't want to take away from this being a seizure board so I'll keep it at that.

Thanks for the line.

Nick

Hi Nick,

I so feel for you. I wish my X would try a fraction as hard to see our children as you are yours. Please know that not all women are evil... ;) I so hate to hear that she is using something that you have to live with daily as a weapon not to mention what this has to be doing to your babies.

I have 2 E kids and I work very hard to keep them centered in life. Not to allow them to feel that they are anything less then exactly who they are INCLUDING E! That someone can use this goes all through me.

I hadn't responded before because I am dealing with driving issues with my 15 yr. old. She was 10 days away for her learners permit when she had her last one. Controlled for 3 years - by all means DRIVE. Still seizing, DON"T GO THERE!!! Jenna's got to wait until Oct. Although I do plan to let her practice on some of the dead end roads near our home, well away from people and other cars. :) The cows wont mind to much if someone crashs the fence...

You and your children are in my prayers and meditations!

Love and light,

Lisa and kids

Lisa and Kids,

Thanks for the support! It's hard enough being a teenager much less one that involves this aspect as well. (i.e. seizures) I do have everyone's safety in mind; my kids, myself and the other people that are on the road. I feel I have proven myself to the DMV now I have to justify it again with the judge and my x?

I hope things work out for your daughter and she won't feel left behind because of her e disroder.

Nick