The usual gyno visit goes like this: Usually the doctor will talk to you for a few minutes....when was your last period, what kind of birth control are you using, etc. Then he/she will examine your breasts for lumps. Next he will insert an instrument that will expand and open your vagina. This doesn't hurt, but it will help if you breath normally and relax. He will take a swab and collect cells from your cervix. Sometimes this feels a little "weird", but I've never found it painful. Most doctors will insert their fingers into the vagina and push up while pushing down on your lower abdomen to feel if your uterus and ovaries feel normal in size. All this takes just a few minutes and is not painful. The anxiety is much worse than the actual experience. Just try to relax.