ok, my case is kind of confusing. i am a 15 year old, 5 foot 5 inches i am not skinnny, but weigh 140 pounds! i feel really fat. last summer i eat bearely nothing and weighed 105 pounds, i think i was aneorexic back then because i stopped my period and everything. now that im back to normal, i keep wanting to get back down to that skinny size, and i yo-yo diet. one day i eat really little, the next i pig out, i keep telling myself that i will go on a diet the next day but i can never keep up with it. my diet most every day is i measure 3/4 cup of cereal and 1/2 cup of milk for breakfast, i skip lunch at school, i come home and eat nothing or 1/2 cucumber, then i have a 200 calorie soup for dinner. i try not to eat sweets and count my calories all the time, i even have a food journal! i constantly feel guilty over what i eat and feel depressed all the time. i also get mad when i eat more calories then other people, and watch what they eat so i dont eat more, so i dont get mad at them. i think its starting to annoy them, because i always tell my dad to eat less because hes big, and my mom and sister to eat more because theyre skinny. i dont even eat famil meals with them anymore, i eat my own stuff because its "safe" and i know how many calories are in it. when we go out to eat at resturants i always feel stressed to order too. i had to be put on a pill lately too, because i hadnt had my period in over a year, the pill was called progesterone. now i have it back and am normal. please someone tell me whats wrong with me, [ removed ] . thanks.

Hi Erika

To be perfectly honest, I would say that you do have an eating disorder. If you are having any 'disordered' thoughts regarding food or weight, then really that is an eating disorder. The fact that you are so careful about what you eat etc, and how guilty it makes you feel shows that you do not have a 'normal' relationship with food. Do your parents know how little you are eating? If they have not noticed you should probably consider telling them, because you are not eating a healthy amount of food, you need to be eating considerably more. Can I ask how you managed to recover from your eating problems last summer? Did you see a counsellor or anything? That is perhaps something else you should consider, they may well be able to help. I would suggest going to your GP, and telling them what is going on, and seeing what they suggest, and maybe enquire about seeing a counsellor.

Take care
Emily xxx

Thanks Emily for responding to my message. i didnt go to a counselor actually, but i made myself think that i was fine, and then i got hungrier when i went back to school, and started eating more. but if you say i have an eating disorder why do i weigh 140 pounds? im fat! i made myself before think that i looke fine and dint have to be skinny to be pretty and everyone loved me the same-skinny, normal or fat. i was alao sick of the nagging for me to eat more. i saw normal size girls at my school happy, and all my clothes were loose and i didnt look good in nothing. i could see my ribs and bones but at that time i liked that, it made me feel good. i weighed myself about 6 times a day. now i do like once a month. i was also sick of having to say no to the desserts i really loved all the time, but didnt want to eat because they were too fattening. my parents also took me to the doctors every two weeks for a weight chech and threatened to take me to an eating disorder specialist. i hated it. now they think im fine because they dont know about these thoughts, and i make it seem like im eating alot. i also took out self help books in the library. thanks again for responding!:) -your buddy Erika

An eating disorder isn't always about what you weigh, its about how you feel. maybe going to see a councillor would be a good thing for you? it certainly can't hurt!

wow you sound TOO much like me, i'm 5'5 and weigh 144 pounds.. and think i'm fat. even around my friend that is bigger..well i feel fat around anybody/ i've probably not weighed 105 in a LONG LONG time.. i used to weigh a lot more .. i lost 42 pounds. The first 30 were just from not pigging out and stuff like that. the next.. 12... were from eating (i KNOW less than 1000) about 800 or less a day. Except every other week I would I guess you could say cheat but I feel HORRIBLY fat Even after losing 42 pounds I feel like I've done it for nothing. I can start to see my ribs a little and thats sort of encouraging. I lost 7 pounds in the past two weeks.. I want to weigh 125 or 115 what's healthy for my height. My bmi says i'm not overweight but it's so annoying seeing the scale.. although its better than wha ti used to weigh.

Thanks for responding. did you have an eating disorder? i feel so fat and i would love to weigh 120 pounds. how are you losing weight? i would love to lose 20 pounds, but it is so hard to do! i just love to to pig out! please respond to me and maybe we can exchange [ removed ] addresses. thanks alot-Erika


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It's important to eat the right amount... to not overeat or undereat. If you overeat you are eating excess calories, and obviously if that is done often you can gain weight... however, if you undereat, anything and everything you eat then and the next time you eat will be absorbed and you will be absorbing the same amount of calories if not more than overeating. Processed foods, bleached flour, and white sugar are a good thing to cut out. Don't skip meals...

If you really, really want to lose weight, food cannot be the only way to do it. It is so important to exercise as well. The whole obvious trick to losing weight is to burn more calories than you take in. So if you throw in a little exercise every day and eat the right foods, not only will you lose a healthy amount of weight but you will be healthy in general too and feel tons better mentally.

Thank you alot for responding to my question. you gave me advice, but i know have to exercise everyday, i just cant push myself to do it. im really lazy and i dont really like exercising. i feel like i have better stuff to do, and dont have time to get outside and walk or jog or something. im just not motivated. any advice?thanks.

Thank you alot for responding to my question. you gave me advice, but i know have to exercise everyday, i just cant push myself to do it. im really lazy and i dont really like exercising. i feel like i have better stuff to do, and dont have time to get outside and walk or jog or something. im just not motivated. any advice?thanks.

omg gurl youre so like me, same weight height everything! its such a pain in the backside that its only 20 lbs we both wanna loose yet its so difficult! my problem is that i never find vegetables i like and i dont eat meat, so im constantly eating pasta or spuds and at 140 lbs im like u cos i feel HUGE. what i find easy is that i go shopping every 2 days and stock up on the fruit i really enjoy like grapes, clementines (tangerines) (mini oranges), and eat brown bread sandwhichs and those are my "good days", i also make sure i have breakfast and dont snack. its just those darn sweets! like u im kinda obsessive and trying to loose this weight, doesnt it feel like an endless road goin no where?
the hope for us two is that we dont eat sweets and do exercise even if its just walking every day and gettin of the bus one stop earlier, that kinda thing. im now startin to realise tho weights not everything because health is definitely more important despite 120 lbs looking better :P but you know what, have faith in urself and binge on fruit when u wanna eat sweets! you'll soon not crave instant sugar and eat plently more fruit lol

i really hope this works for you because i know EXACTLY how it feels. and if it gets to much id see a counsellor, because although u feel like its only minor and ur 140 lbs and not lost anything, soon you could become fed up and not eat at all. so those thoughts need controling

thank you :)

oh yeah one more thing! motivation comes from your determination to lose weight, thats essential

Hi blutooth thank you for responding to my message. you do sound alot like me! how old are you? i think we are almost like sisters. i too dont eat meat either and havent for 2 years. how long has it been for you? i dont like the taste of it, it saves you calories, and i feel bad fo the animal being killed.i too eat alot of carbs and pastas, i just love them. ive attempted alow carb diet before but it just didnt work. im now on the slim fast diet with cutting out soda too.the only problem with this is that im hungry all the time and have low energy. i always binge on sweets chocolate is my all time favorite though! it makes me feel good.i feel so guilty afterward that i try to make myself throw it up or i skip the next meal. i can never get myself to thro=w up thloough. one day i tried for 20-30 minutes. it didnt work. i stuck my finger down my throat many times. i can never seem to lose wieght, its very frustrating, its like im stuck at this weight forevre. have you ever had an eating disorder and got to alow weight before? well post me back and ill keep talking to you-thanks Erika

Im 17 lol young but naive :p
I dont eat meat for the same reasons, its the appearance and the cruelty that turned me vegetarian, plus i never actually ate meat anyway.
I love pasta and potatoes, its the only thing i can eat really but i never do any exercise so all those carbs turn into fat so maybe thats whats goin on, and i dont do exercise because im always extremely tired and have this urge to sleep! sweets are good yeah! I eat one bag of crisp and get the flavour and then eat like 4 lol damn tasty things :P
yeah i feel guilty just like you, kinda makes me feel worthless too like im never getting anywhere. ive tried the being sick, but doing it is vile tho to me lol it stinks and i only do it now if i genuinally feel not well or eaten way to much :)
I was erm 130 lbs about a year or two ago and now i put on about 14 and they are the most annoying ones to loose! the only way i found i could loose weight was through hardly eating anything because thats what i was able to stick too with my will power lol
Ive never had an eating disorder no.. but im showing signs of one from what ive read !
hmmm Im trying a diet with no sweets because i dont eat fatty foods, i eat pasta and fruit and maybe cereal and they arent calorific like mcdonalds or take aways so maybe in 4 weeks ill be a slimmer me! reducing food is my best option i reckon cus ya know i wont do no exercise lol :p and even when i dont eat sweets for a few days, i binge on them so theres no hope for me :) well keep posting and ill reply cus i check my messages every day so