It has been 4 years since I had unprotected sex. For some reason now I am obesssing that I have HIV. I have been perfectly healthy, and not sure if I am worrying over nothing. Would I know something by now?????

My story was pretty much the same as yours. I had not been as careful as I should have been when having unprotected sex about 5 years ago but I never really worried about it at the time.

I think it was once I met my husband, got married and felt like everything was perfect that I started to worry that I might have ruined everything for us by contracting HIV years before.

I worried myself sick for a further year or so before eventually plucking up the courage to get tested - I was negative. The doctor told me that I would probably have suffered from quite a dramatic weight loss by that time if I was positive, but there is always a chance that no symptoms would be showing in that period of time, so it's best to get tested to put your mind at rest.

Good luck.

Thanks for the reply. I was tested on Monday and am waiting for the results. I kind of figured I would have some symptom by now, since the last encounter was 4 years ago, I had been with him for at least 4 years, so we are looking at 8 years. I have met the man I want to marry, and think I am just beating myself up for a stuip thing I did when I was a "kid", or at least that is what my father is telling me. I just want to be happy!!!

I AM NEGATIVE!!! What a relief and a huge pressure lifted off my shoulders. I think I may actually be able to eat today ( after 4 days of not eating)!!

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I think your dad is right in this case. As humans we seem to have some in-built desire to look on the down side of everything. You are probably feeling very happy and content with your husband-to-be and feeling that everything is perfect and then that little voice in the back of your mind says "life can't be this great, there must be something about to go wrong"!

There probably isn't though and at least once you get your test results back you can concentrate on your wedding and stuff and forget all about this.

The likelyhood of being infected for 8 years and not knowing about it is very slim indeed. I'm sure you'll be fine.

Oh Congratulations, we must have both posted at the same time there! :)