elatedgiraffe
07-06-2004, 03:50 PM
Are there any successful relationships with someone who has ADD? I read all these things on here about how ADDers get bored easily with their partner, have greater chance of cheating, the thought of marriage sends them running....
I have been in a relationship with a man for over 2 years now who has ADHD. I have the fear that he may never want to commit and get married. He says he loves me and he is not bored with me and wants to get married someday, BUT He just does not seem at all excited (like my ex boyfriends have) to be with me. He was alot more attentive to me in the beginning than he is now. Is this typical of ADD? Can someone with ADD want to get married and remain faithful and attentive to ONE person?? :confused: I'm just not happy with the idea of oneday having to "convince" him to marry me because he has ADD. Not my idea of romance.
I have been in a relationship with a man for over 2 years now who has ADHD. I have the fear that he may never want to commit and get married. He says he loves me and he is not bored with me and wants to get married someday, BUT He just does not seem at all excited (like my ex boyfriends have) to be with me. He was alot more attentive to me in the beginning than he is now. Is this typical of ADD? Can someone with ADD want to get married and remain faithful and attentive to ONE person?? :confused: I'm just not happy with the idea of oneday having to "convince" him to marry me because he has ADD. Not my idea of romance.
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Afdia1086
07-07-2004, 09:27 AM
I've had ADD since I was probably 10,(I'm 30 now) and I have had meaningful realtionships and I am married now for almost 3 years (2 of them with untreated ADD) and things have been great. I don't think ADD had much to do with my love life honestly, I don't think I had any more girlfriends then the "normal" guy. :D
elatedgiraffe
07-07-2004, 11:23 AM
Thanks for your input. :) Good to hear. Sometimes you hear so many negative things about ADD that it can really freak a non-adder out. :)
Fur-ball
07-07-2004, 01:21 PM
Hi
I have ADHD and I have no trouble staying in a long term relationship (two 2-year ones), but I do have trouble finding someone that keeps me coming back. Other than the basic needs (nice, trusting,etc.. ), I need a guy that is adventurous and does not gush over me. I have had a guy ask me to marry him and I said no. The spark was no longer there and a life with him seemed boring.
Instead of serious relationship at the moment, I have a secret relationship with a guy in my class. I am a Civil Engineering student and have been with the same class of 30 for the last 2 years. I dont talk with my lover much at school, but we give each other looks in school when no one is looking and we sneak behind the lockers and kiss. . you get the picture. I really have enjoyed it and probably will do the same with this person in September. It is exciting and fun.
It is not that I do not want to get married, because it is something I definitely hope is on the agenda. It is just a matter of meeting the right person that is compatible to my personality. Sometimes I think someone else with ADD would be an ultimate match, but I could only imagine that the house would be a mess and that the adventures would be too extreme.
Being alot more attentive during the first part of the relationship can happen to any guys, but since he is ADHD, I would say that he would be more prone to this. and YES.. I do think people with ADD can be attentive and remain faithful to one person. I am a multi-dater when I am looking for a the right guy, but when I do become girlfriend statis I do not cheat. ADD does not change someone's morals and beliefs.
Anyways... take care and I wish the two of you the best of luck,
Ocean
I have ADHD and I have no trouble staying in a long term relationship (two 2-year ones), but I do have trouble finding someone that keeps me coming back. Other than the basic needs (nice, trusting,etc.. ), I need a guy that is adventurous and does not gush over me. I have had a guy ask me to marry him and I said no. The spark was no longer there and a life with him seemed boring.
Instead of serious relationship at the moment, I have a secret relationship with a guy in my class. I am a Civil Engineering student and have been with the same class of 30 for the last 2 years. I dont talk with my lover much at school, but we give each other looks in school when no one is looking and we sneak behind the lockers and kiss. . you get the picture. I really have enjoyed it and probably will do the same with this person in September. It is exciting and fun.
It is not that I do not want to get married, because it is something I definitely hope is on the agenda. It is just a matter of meeting the right person that is compatible to my personality. Sometimes I think someone else with ADD would be an ultimate match, but I could only imagine that the house would be a mess and that the adventures would be too extreme.
Being alot more attentive during the first part of the relationship can happen to any guys, but since he is ADHD, I would say that he would be more prone to this. and YES.. I do think people with ADD can be attentive and remain faithful to one person. I am a multi-dater when I am looking for a the right guy, but when I do become girlfriend statis I do not cheat. ADD does not change someone's morals and beliefs.
Anyways... take care and I wish the two of you the best of luck,
Ocean
elatedgiraffe
07-08-2004, 01:13 PM
Fur-ball--
thank you so much for your words of wisdom. It really helped paint a clearer picture. :angel:
thank you so much for your words of wisdom. It really helped paint a clearer picture. :angel: