I use to check alot of things when I was a kid but over time it I think that devoped into anxiety disorder. When I finally was able to go online and find out about my problem I bought a book on how to counter the negative thoughts. But somehow it's gotten worse I feel like people can read what I'm thinking now. So every time I see someone I'm always trying to not think. I also talk like an idiot because I dont want anyone to hear what I sound like. When someone looks at me I get really parniod like as they can read me.


P.S. Anything would greatly help me out at the moment, thanks.

One thing that I have learned is that you can't be anxious and relaxed at the same time. So try to relax and stop worrying about everyone reading your mind. Chances are your negative thoughts are being reflected in your behavior bringing even more attention to yourself from others.

Go to the library and try several books. There are all sorts of relaxation techniques. You just have to find the one that works for you.

And I'm sure you've seen ads for anti-anxiety drugs. I never tried them but that is certainly another option.

Good Luck

Hi,

Definitely your perception of the situation will be reflected in your behaviour and body movements, etc.

Everything is YOUR perception. You are thinking those thoughts and what you're trying to do is CONTROL everything by not thinking. Did you know we can think about 9 different things at the same time? You are....just all focussed on trying to control a situation that is only your perception.

There are medications that can help take the edge of the anxiety off for periods of time, but really you might want to consult a psychologist or therapist who can help you find out why you have such a low self esteem and to help you find your confidence.

Cognitive behavioural therapy is a great tool.....is that the kind of book you purchased?

I sincerely doubt you talk like an idiot. It could be that you're on constant vigilence trying to impress. When we've got our armour on 100% of the time, we totally lose who we are and how to be ourselves.

I think the suggestion to seek relaxation therapy is excellent.

I also suggest you look into the book Self Matters by Dr. Phil. He also has a workbook to go along with it.

Introspection such as he suggests can open our minds to why we have created such closed perception.

Open yourself to YOU.....you might just be totally impressed as to who you really are.

You're on the right track to seek help through self monitoring....but you might need guidance through a professional who can take some of the load off and lead you in the right direction.

Habits of thinking and behaviour are difficult to change. You mentioned when you were a child you used to check things a lot....can you expand on that?

Thanks,
quincy