resolved thanks

-June

hi....i really really think you should at least tell your doctor about whats been going on. if you can, you should tell your mom also. it may be no big deal, but at least that way you can have peace of mind knowing that you had it all checked out. if there is an issue, its always better to catch it early so you dont have to go through so much stuff. you sound a lot like me, my first thought is always "what if its cancer??". try not to let yourself jump to conclusions. there are a lot of possible explanations for whats going on and many of them are not huge deals. i'll keep you in my prayers....just be bold and talk to the doctor...you'll feel so much better once you do. take care and keep me updated on how things go.

jen

How can I tell them this? Like how would you word it? I'm embarressed!

How can I tell them this? Like how would you word it? I'm embarressed!
HI LEMONPAWZ,
WHEN YOUR 15, EVERYTHING IS EMBARRASSING TO YOU. BUT TO PARENTS THAT LOVE YOU, AND DOCTORS THAT CARE FOR YOU, IT IS NOT EMBARRASSING TO THEM, NOR SHOULD YOU FEEL THEY WILL LAUGH AT YOU.
HAVE YOU BEEN HAVING CONSTIPATION? SOMETIMES YOU CAN BLEED BECAUSE OF IT. THIS MEANS YOU MAY NEED TO EAT MORE FIBER. YOU REALLY NEED TO DISCUSS THIS WITH YOUR PARENTS. YOU COULD SAY
"WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN YOU HAVE BLOOD WHEN YOU GO #2."

GIVE THEM A CHANCE!!

PETALS

Lemonpawz, The feelings of embarrassment are very, very, very normal...whether you are 15 or 51. As Petals suggested, please let your Mom know what's going on. I can assure you that the doctor wants to know information such as this and will not be "grossed out"....of course, neither your Mom. Start at a young age talking to your doctor about symptoms...they went to school for many, many years and are very knowledgeable but they are not mind readers. I say this with first-hand knowledge because I am one who went to the doctor for many, many years expecting him to read my mind rather than squaring with him on symptoms!

I am 52 and just recently told my husband and my doctor about my bleeding. I know exactly what you are talking about but I can assure you it was soooo much better when I got it "off my chest"!!

Take care kiddo and I'm so proud of you to post your question the way you did because I really think you will help a lot of people (young and older) realize exactly what they fear the most...embarrassment. Got a good feeling that you are gonna be just fine...keep us posted! ;)

Hi, how about....

"Sometimes theres blood when I poop"
Your doctor needs to know this, it maybe as simple as you straining to hard to go to the bathroom
Take care

Thanks for the suggestions,I REALLY appriciate it!

This is just hard for me because I have been to the doctor SO MANY times in the last few months. I went to the ER for what my mom thought was a bad appendix but it turned out to be an ovarian cyst. This experience traumatized me, I was there for 8 hours and they put a catheter in and did and ultrasound and I got an IV and a CAT scan and it was horrible! *sobs*

I trust my doctor, but this year has been the first time I've EVER gone there for anything besides a strep throat. I'm a shy person which makes this harder, I had to go in for a bladder infection a few months ago and I was shaking because I was so scared to tell her what was wrong!

I know I worry ALOT, I read about something and suddenly I have it. I know at my young age the changes of it being cancer are practically none, but yea..I get really freaked out.

I'm sorta afraid my mom will freak out though, she's tired of me complaining about my health. But since I've been losing weight for a reason that isn't really clear right now (and it's really scaring me...) I think it'd be important to tell the doctor everything that's going on,right?

*sigh* well I'm going to the doctor tommorow, but I'm afraid I'll back out of telling her this...

Lemonpawz,

If I Lived In Your Town, I Would Offer To Tell Her Myself. When You Become A Parent, Then You Will Understand That Parents Don't Want Ther Children To Be Sick. Most Of The Time The Frustration Really Has Nothing To Do With Telling Her That You Don't Feel Good. Do You Have Other Siblings? Does She Work Out Of The House? Does Your Dad Live In The Home? I Know I Can Feel Over Whelmed Alot, But You Got To Understand, It's Better To Inform Her Before It Becomes A Big Problem. This Is Very Unlikely, But If You Were Rushed To The Hospital For A Unrelated Illness, They Ask For Your Back Ground Medical History. This Could Be Very Important To The Doctors. Remember, This Could Be Something Like Constipation As I Mentioned Before, Or Irratible Bowel Syndrome (ibs). This Is Treated W/meds. The Meds Have Helped My Mom.

Lemonpawz, I'm Giving You A Challenge. Before You Respond Back To Us, Go To Your Mom And Tell Her. Don't Chicken Out!!! We Are All Here For You. What Is The Worse Thing That Can Happen By Telling Her. If She Rolls Her Eyes, So What. You Need To Unload This On Her, Let Her Handle It. Your Only 15. Don't Leave Us Hanging Out Here In Cyber Space!! Do It Now, And Let Us Know How I Went.
Thumbs Up Sweetie!!!!!!!!!!!

Petals

i have to agree. i am a mom of a one year old and pg with #2. i would do anything to make sure my kids were healthy. i am not sure what you are afraid of, maybe because when you say it out loud to her, or a doctor it becomes real, not just a secret between you and the people here. the fact is that it is a real problem. the chance that it is something minor at your age is way more likley than a very serious problem, HOWEVER, if you let something like this go, it could become more serious. the point is that if people over the internet could diagnose medical conditions, a lot of trained personelle would be out of a job. your mom is the first step to getting you healthy again, and that is just a fact.

this is the only body you get, you HAVE to take care of every inch of it. why don't you start of by saying ..."look mom, i have a serious problem that i must talk to you about and i need your 100% support before i tell you anything...." that will get her attention and let her know that you are serious about getting this resolved. then explain very matter of fact that you are concerned because....(list symptoms) i have no doubt that you will be at the doctors in the morning and on eth way to getting back to normal.
good luck hun.

hey!

I went to the dr. and asked her about it and she said I was just straining when I went to the bathroom and told me to eat more fruits and veggies because my medicine (amoxicillin, allergy stuff,etc.) was probably making me constapated, thanks for all your help though! I feel much better!

-Lauren

Good For You Lemonpawz,

I Am Glad You Don't Have This To Worry About Anymore. Keep An Open Communication With Your Mom. We Can Always Give You Advice, But Your Parents Know You Best.

Petals