crazygirl
08-11-2004, 01:15 AM
Today I found out for sure my fiancee gave me Gential Warts, I'm so scared, i dont want this, the treatments hurt like hell. MY fiancee doesnt seemed phased with it at all. Although..this isnt cureable and hes going to live with till they find one.he doesnt seem to care on little bit....I myself am scared out of my mind, he thinks i should lighten up... but i cant... I cant stop thinking of all the girls he messed around..with and how stupid i was to trust him and not good with my judgement. I dont know if i'm more upset that i have it or that i got it from some1 i love and trusted. I know i dont have things like chalmydia ( sorry cant spell), unless he cheated on me, because i've been tested tons of times and theres nothing. I'm freaked out the the HIV tests will come out POS. i've scared of everthing.........why did i have to be so stupid? why doesnt he show emotions? and if he doesnt care, why cant he at least confont me.?
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luv4adonai
08-11-2004, 04:13 AM
i wish i could make your feelings of being decieved go away, but i can't...he should have been honest with you from the beginning if he did in fact know what he had hpv before you two were sexually active.
i too have genital warts, and just found out about a month ago. in the past month i've been through quite a bit including my diagnosis and laser surgery to have them removed (which i actually just had done yesterday). sadly, though, i don't know who gave it to me as i have a bit of a permiscuous past. i've been tested for everything else including hiv and aids, and everything came back negative (thank god!). this whole thing has opened up my eyes a lot and i'm so thankful i don't have something worse...hpv sucks, but it could most definetly be worse. i've read up on it as much as possible just to educate myself, and i've asked my doctor any possible question that has come to mind, and just knowing about it has put my mind more at ease. i hate to know that i will always have this virus and that whoever i may choose to be sexual with in my future will need to be told about my circumstances, which, in turn, may lead to rejection, but that's just the way it's gotta be.
genital warts is not the end of the world...it's just more of a pain in the butt. yes, treatments can hurt, but there's also the chance of never having another breakout of warts after treatment again (which is what i'm hoping, of course, will be the case for me now that i've had mine surgically removed). i hope things go well for you, and i'm sorry that your fiancee wasn't honest with you. if you feel that you cannot trust him anymore, then i'd think twice about marriage...you need to be able to trust you significant other, and if you don't, that doesn't leave much room for a healthy relationship. good luck.
i too have genital warts, and just found out about a month ago. in the past month i've been through quite a bit including my diagnosis and laser surgery to have them removed (which i actually just had done yesterday). sadly, though, i don't know who gave it to me as i have a bit of a permiscuous past. i've been tested for everything else including hiv and aids, and everything came back negative (thank god!). this whole thing has opened up my eyes a lot and i'm so thankful i don't have something worse...hpv sucks, but it could most definetly be worse. i've read up on it as much as possible just to educate myself, and i've asked my doctor any possible question that has come to mind, and just knowing about it has put my mind more at ease. i hate to know that i will always have this virus and that whoever i may choose to be sexual with in my future will need to be told about my circumstances, which, in turn, may lead to rejection, but that's just the way it's gotta be.
genital warts is not the end of the world...it's just more of a pain in the butt. yes, treatments can hurt, but there's also the chance of never having another breakout of warts after treatment again (which is what i'm hoping, of course, will be the case for me now that i've had mine surgically removed). i hope things go well for you, and i'm sorry that your fiancee wasn't honest with you. if you feel that you cannot trust him anymore, then i'd think twice about marriage...you need to be able to trust you significant other, and if you don't, that doesn't leave much room for a healthy relationship. good luck.