Can I request a c-section b/c of having it even if I don't have an outbreak at the time of delivery? My dh and I are trying to conceive, but I haven't had an ob for about a year. I have one son and the labor was AWFUL and I'd rather have a c-section. I know that many of you will have an opinion on the recovery and safety of natural birth and blah blah blah...my mom has the same opinion, but I don't. Sorry if that was rude, I just want an answer to the question, and I'm not trying to be a smart a**.

Thanks,

Nicole

Mommy2Isaiah ~
I personally don't have any experience, with herpes & delivery. But, I know another poster, on this board, she goes by Backpacker has experience with this. She's had H for years and has 4 boys. And she's also, "very knowledgeable" on this subject. Do a search on one of her posts and search her old posts and I'm sure you'll find the info. that you're looking for. Hope this helps....Good Luck, -Ornament

I wondered the same question. I have HSV 2 and HPV so I'm almost positive when I get pregnant in the future my doctor will want me to have a c-section. I want to have one anyways. Much less painful than pushing something the size of a damn watermelon out of a hole the size of a nickel! LOL!

No, if she's looking for advice on un-natural childbirth, I can't give it! I think you can request a c-section for anything, though. Check with your dr.

I'm not sure how to take the "un natural" comment posted. I think it kind of makes me feel judged and that makes me sad. My labor was so intense and painful, b/c even though he was moving down the birth canal, he was almost too big to come out. He was too far up to be pulled out, but too far down for a c-section. Please, don't anyone get me wrong, I know that ALL labors are intense and painful, and I'm not saying anything to the contrary. I know there are alot of negative opinions out there about c-sections, but that doesn't make the experience of having a child any less special b/c you didn't have it the "NATURAL" way. Maybe I'm just overly tired and overly sensitive right now.

Mommy2Isaiah ~
I don't think "un-natural", was meant to offend you. What I think she was referring to was a vaginal delivery. Hence, a c-section, would be un-natural. No one is here to judge you or your decision, if you read some of her old posts...Backpacker isn't "judgemental" at all, and neither am I. I don't like people judging me, so therefore, I don't judge others...Everyone deserves the same courtsey....So maybe, you are overly sensitive right now and that's ok, too...Obviously there's alot on your mind....Maybe, you should speak with your doctor about c-sections....then base your decision on his recommendation, we don't practice medicene and therefore, we can only offer experiences or opinions.....So please, take it as that....
Take Care, :bouncing: -Ornament

No, didn't mean to judge you, just to say I know little about it. I am into all-natural, but I don't want to live your life for you; I have enough with mine! And as you pointed out, we never know what experiences others have had to go through that lead them to the choices they make. So excuse my method of expression--I am also tired and stressed right now, and sometimes rushed (many times when I am on this computer I have a teenager looking over my shoulder and saying, "Are you done yet?"), and often I am not choosing the best of words.

I had to have a Caesarean once because of the herpes. I found being in a hospital stressful, as their schedule and way of thinking is so inflexible (or was back then.) My recovery was extremely slow and painful compared to the natural births I've had. But I've had other women tell me it wasn't so for them.

You know, in the end you get your sweet baby, no matter what kind of birth you have.

Thanks, Orn, for the words of faith and kindness.

Thanks, I feel better. Although in all honesty, I was probably being overly sensitive. I have read some of your posts and you don't seem like a judgemental person. So I extend my apologies as well. My sister has had 2 c-sections b/c she just didn't advance in her labor, and she was walking the mall within a week of being released from the hospital. I know it's different for everyone, but I'm hoping to be the same as her. I hope you can destress a bit, and I think I'll try to do the same.

Good Night... :)

Nicole