I'm new to being diagnosed with GH. Unfortuneatly, the partner who I believe gave it to me has no interest in his health nor mine since this has happened to me (a real winner, huh!).

that fateful nite...he basically was "into himself" and was too rough on me...thus I bled and was sore (it wasn't worth all of this as there was zero pleasure in it for me)...then the GH came into play. I'm not sure if he gave it to me or not because he doesn't care to go to the DR to find out. I guess I could have already had it and the roughness initiated an outbreak..guess I'll never know? I hope all men aren't pigs like this one...

so....back to my question. I'm not sure what the symptons are of an oncoming outbreak and what to expect for how many more in my lifetime if I take care of myself. I'm taking 2000mg of Lysine a day, vitamins. I eat healhty and workout 6 days a week.

I read that only 86% people only get one...gosh I hope that is me. So far just one in a month..but I'm not having sex with myself nor anyone at this point...'cause I really have no interest in sex anymore since that is what put me in this predicament.

Thanks for any useful info.
~fit

Hi Chic,

I am female and have had GH for 16 years. If you look up my post under my user name for 'I have GH - My Experience (three posts)', you can see my history, and my symptoms.

GH is strange, because although there are factors that can preclude an outbreak, you can get one for "no good reason". Exhaustion, illness, stress, menstrual cycles can bring on outbreaks for some people. But you can be having the time of your life, and be feeling your best, and still get some symptoms.


I don't blame you for feeling non-sexual at this point. For many people, a diagnosis of GH impacts a person more emotionally than physically. You are dealing with a lot right now, I'm sure. I've been there, I know.

Not all men are inconsiderate. It's important to get to know someone well before you take a relationship to a sexually intimate stage - whether you have an STD or not. It's too bad that you had the experience that you did with this man. Some men are into control. But there are very nice men out there! You will feel like being intimate with someone again, I promise.

I'm off here on the weekends, but I'll be around if you have any more questions. Big hug.

Thanks White Sneakers...I read your response to the other posts. I'm trying to prepare for hurricane Charlie...

Even though I have no sores, I'm an terribly itchy...I have been stressed...and my lovely period will be here any day...fun fun!!

Thanks again...you've been extremely helpful!!

Best Wishes
~fit

FitChic a lot of women do get an outbreak right near thier period. Itching is a good Prodrome symptom that an outbreak is on it's way. Someone told me something interesting though for the virus to actually breakout it has to replicate on the surface of the skin...if the skin is numb it can't do that. I'd suggest one of the best things you could do right now and i know it sounds wierd is get a bottle of hydrogen peroxide and either spray it, or pour it, or dab it with a kleenex down there. it works do great when your having prodrome symptoms and if you've got an actual outbreak it (at least in my case) gets rid of the sores quickly, extremely quickly. I've heard spray bactine works well too, cause it numbs the skin. As far as symptoms and how many outbreaks everyone is different i had one major outbreak and then ONE sore with my second outbreak and even though i've had prodrome symtoms i've yet to have another outbreak. The woman who so graciously forgot to tell me she was a "swinger" and had her own adult website has been breaking out every month and supposedly her doctors said he's never seen a "new" infection break out this much...
Supressive therapy with valtrex is a very good thing...and really does seem to keep you from having multiple outbreaks. I'm glad your working out that seemed to help me a lot in keeping this thing at bay..

As for the guy, that's really unfortunate. it took me a few months before i was able to do "let" myself do anything with anyone, like you i didn't feel very sexual and once i couldn't stop laughing because right in the middle of my second outbreak when i was itching and kinda hurting down there, my libido went through the roof and i was going nuts and couldn't do a dam thing about it lol

You'll find the best thing with having herpes is tender, slow, sex, especially with lube to keep friction down so you don't hurt or tear, or cause a "friction outbreak" which some people seem to get. Don't assume all guys are like the guy that "might" have given this to you. There are a LOT of good men out there and if anything this will only weed out the undesirables. I wish you the very best with Charly and hope you make it through without incident or harm.

thanks all!

Yes..the itching is driving me inSANE!!! I have been rubbing hyd. peroxide all day long, car max...now to the spray baxine!! I have NO sores, but constant throbbing and itching (which i knew this morning wasn't a good thing)

I'm so afraid it will be as bad as the last one (it hurt so bad to pee I cried each time and avoided drinking fluids to a minimum)...could hardly walk, sit, much less cyclying or the gym!!

That "guy" let me know he went to the dr. (yeah!!) and is awaiting his results...so we'll see. I'm glad at least he is being responsible.

I feel like the drug store...I just pray it isn't as bad as the first one and I don't get one every 3 weeks!! I guess one shouldn't use a tampon during an outbreak??? That would probably hurt!!...great...pads...girls, aren't they just lovely???!!!!

OH YEAH... I need to know something...when a girl gets GH are the cold sores all up inside you too as well as externally....can you spray or cue-tip the baxine inside you as well???


:D

~fit

Hi there

I'm not new to this site but I am new to this board...how nice to find people who are going thru the same things. I have had GH for about 5 years. I know exactly who gave it to me...he denied it even though he was the only man I'd ever had intercourse with and not used a condom, and I had an outbreak about 4 weeks later...duh...live and learn! The first outbreak was incredibly horrible, and I was in shock over having something that never goes away! I have to say though, the outbreaks for MOST people get less frequent and less severe as time goes on. I had one about a month ago, and it was the first in 3 years. I had the one 3 yrs ago when I was pg with my son, and now I am pg with a daughter so apparently pregnancy bring it on for me! These outbreaks are nowhere near as bad as the first few. One thing that always precludes an outbreak for me is the lymph node pain/swelling in the crease where the thigh meets the pelvis. That's the worst part now. I don't even take Valtrex or any medication even when I have an outbreak b/c they are so mild now. I say this to give you hope...it is very overwhelming at first, an incurable condition and all, but after a while it becomes a part of life. Needless to say since I am having my 2nd child, I found a wonderful man who I have been married to for 3 1/2 years who accepts all of me. Best of luck! :wave:

BENADRYL is your friend. I actually used a creme that wasa really low dose made for jock itch, and that helped the itching a LOT. Get a blood test for anti bodies soon and when your antibodie count gets high enough, it'll help a lot and then that wil be a good time to go on valtrex. even with the valtrex without a high enough antibody countyour gonna have recurrences. yes it is possible and likely you'll get sores inside of you, not everyone gets them, but it's possible. I reccomend you don't use a tampon during that time. My friend took baths in Epsom salt during her outbreaks and that seemed to help her a lot by drying up the sores quickly... unfortunetly everyone is different and you going to have to find what works best for you...

hang in there...it gets a LOT better....

approx 1/3 of herpes cases go into permanent remission.

Try garlic oil--it is soothing and healing. It works so well for me I can go jogging when I have sores. It is also inexpensive and easy to make.

Buy a head of garlic and some extra-virgin olive oil. Peel one or two of the cloves (the sections of the head you buy) and cut it in quarters. Put it in a very small container and cover with the olive oil. Put a tight-fitting lid on it and wait about 2 hours. Then gently swab it onto your tender spots, or all around the area, with a q-tip (or several.) Use it as many times a day as you want. It is not toxic. It seems to stay effective until you use it up.

I get sores only outside my vagina. Sounds like you got one or two at the opening to your urethra. I think the garlic oil will make the peeing more comfortable. Let me know.

All guys aren't pigs, but it's good to be choosy. If you get in a situation like that again, it's OK to tell the guy to stop, that you are not having a good time, that he needs to be gentle. You don't have to bear with it.