Hello I am a 22 yr male. I have been depressed for a while now, have never really felt happy at anytime in my life. Anyways during the last 3 months I have been really lonley..all of my friends are out of town and my roomate..who was also a very good friend of mine moved out. I alos had a close family friend die earlier this summer. All I do is go to work, sleep...and just kinda hang aorund my apartment by myself. I ran into a girl I knew from highshcool a month back and have been in a really weird realtionship with her. The thing is I dont like her, she has no personality, she is boring and doesnt have an opinion on anything. I really dont like being around her...but yet I am so lonley that I always end up hanging out with her and having sex with her.. Everytime after I am done I fell so digusted with myself, but for some reason I cannot seem to stop. She LOVES me, but I cannot keep doing this. She has obviously has some self esteem issues and she clings to me, I do not treat her like a boyfriend. I want to push her away but I can seem too. I am so relieved that she is leaving soon for school. I fell so dumb for ever being with her because I can do so much better...I worry that I may have gotten her pregnant,(have not been consistant with condom usuage) she tells me she is on birth control but still I worry...I cant fathom the prospect of having a child with her...there is no way I could do it. I need to find someone else, my friends are coming back soon so I am looking forward to that. I just need to get out of this rut, I feel like crap everyday...especially when I am with her. Ugh anyways just needed to vent.

Hello I am a 22 yr male. I have been depressed for a while now, have never really felt happy at anytime in my life. Anyways during the last 3 months I have been really lonley..all of my friends are out of town and my roomate..who was also a very good friend of mine moved out. I alos had a close family friend die earlier this summer. All I do is go to work, sleep...and just kinda hang aorund my apartment by myself. I ran into a girl I knew from highshcool a month back and have been in a really weird realtionship with her. The thing is I dont like her, she has no personality, she is boring and doesnt have an opinion on anything. I really dont like being around her...but yet I am so lonley that I always end up hanging out with her and having sex with her.. Everytime after I am done I fell so digusted with myself, but for some reason I cannot seem to stop. She LOVES me, but I cannot keep doing this. She has obviously has some self esteem issues and she clings to me, I do not treat her like a boyfriend. I want to push her away but I can seem too. I am so relieved that she is leaving soon for school. I fell so dumb for ever being with her because I can do so much better...I worry that I may have gotten her pregnant,(have not been consistant with condom usuage) she tells me she is on birth control but still I worry...I cant fathom the prospect of having a child with her...there is no way I could do it. I need to find someone else, my friends are coming back soon so I am looking forward to that. I just need to get out of this rut, I feel like crap everyday...especially when I am with her. Ugh anyways just needed to vent.


Yes - You do need to nip this one in the bud. In addition to making yourself miserable, you are going to hurt her in the process. If she indeed loves you, please do the right thing and break it off. I realize you are lonely right now, but it doesn't give you the right to lead someone on and use them. I don't mean to sound harsh, and I do hope you find some happiness in your life, but using and hurting someone else is not the way to go. And by all means,,,,wear a condom.

Yes - You do need to nip this one in the bud. In addition to making yourself miserable, you are going to hurt her in the process. If she indeed loves you, please do the right thing and break it off. I realize you are lonely right now, but it doesn't give you the right to lead someone on and use them. I don't mean to sound harsh, and I do hope you find some happiness in your life, but using and hurting someone else is not the way to go. And by all means,,,,wear a condom.

Yes, must agree. Being depressed and feeling lousy is hard to deal with, but knowing you're hurting someone else in the process will only make things worse. Believe it or not, this is within your control. You made the conscious choice to sleep with her, you can make the conscious choice not to. Even though you're hurting, that's no excuse for hurting someone else. Think of the pain you're causing her. You may not think much of her, but she's still a human being who deserves a little respect for her basic humanity. Simply make up your mind that you will not sleep with her again. You know it doesn't make you feel any better anyway. Just tell you're sorry, but you don't see this relationship going in a serious direction. the longer you put it off, the more you will hurt her, and the more terrible you will feel as well. PLUS...there's no guarantee she really is on the pill, and the pill is not 100% effective anyway. I had a friend who got pregnant with twins while on it. Take some responsibility for your own life and destiny and make sure you don't become a daddy and have to spend the rest of your life as this woman's co-parent by not sleeping with her anymore, or at the very least using a condom.

I broke it off last night...I finally got some sense in my head. She wanted to sleep with me again and I said that I have to stop doing this...I made it look like I was the one that didnt want to get hurt, I told her that since she is leaving soon that we should break it off so that I do not become too attached. It is completey unture but I did not feel the need to hurt her as I have been hurt before and it sucks BIG TIME, and I do feel like a huge idiot for not wearing a condom consistantly..I simply should have been, dont know someties I just get into phases where I just do not care about the consequences...not only was at rish for pregnacy, but possible STD"S as well... I am not too worried there though since know everyone she has been with. I feel like a huge moron about the whole ordeal... I hope I make it out of this one without any huge consequences as I am gonna learn from this expereince. It was really strange last night RIGHT AFTER I broke it off with her I went to the grocerey to get a soda and I ran into a girl I have been wanting to see for the last 7 months...me and her hit it off big time when she came back from school during christmas. Like an IDIOT I lost her number and could not get a hold of her this summer. Now she is her for only a month but she really wants to see me and I do in return...she is simply the girl of my dreams. She is going to move back here within a yr so we can always get back together if we want.