I haven't had an ob for at least a year, but now I do. I am hoping to get a positive pg result this weekend, and didn't have any choice but to take a valtrex tonight. I am in agony with pain from the ob, and with wondering if Valtrex can hurt a baby? Does anyone know? God, I hope not. It's amazing how one bad choice (that wasn't even a choice) can ruin your life. I am so frustrated right now. I got this from my ex-husband who cheated on me with a stripper and now I am remarried and hoping to be pg this month. Anyone with a similar situation?

My dh truly is a dh, he stuck by me from the first outbreak when we were just dating and now deals with it with me. He is awesome. I am blessed in that respect. For anyone who feels like they will never find someone b/c of this disease, I am a walking, talking example of finding the "right one". Don't give up. This last part was off subject, sorry.

Nicole

Hi Nicole! They say Valtrex doesn't have any adverse effects, but I would not take the chance when you're pregnant. Have you tried the garlic oil? Mince a couple of cloves of chopped fresh garlic, cover it with extra virgin olive oil and let it sit for a few hours to a few days. you can start using it after just two hours. Just take a cutip and rub in on the sore area a few times a day. This should provide rapid relief and much faster healing. Olive leaf extract, Ameridan brand also works great and I don't think it's unsafe during pregnancy. However, the garlic oil I know for sure is completely harmless. I am so happy to hear you have a wonderful supportive husband. I wish I were so lucky. I also got this from my ex fiance with whom I had a long term relationship. He ended up breaking up with me and marrying someone else. My story is all the more upsetting in that I haven't found out I got it from him until a few years after our break up. So now he doesn't even have any clue how much he has screwed up my life. I do know his phone number where he lives with his new wife, but I don't know if it would be wise to contact him just to let him know that I am hurt and have to deal with this all by myself now. maybe it's better to just let it be? We haven't spoken in a few years now.

I took acyclovir or valtrex (not sure which) when I was pregnant with both children but it was late in the pregnancy and they give you a much smaller dose than normal. I'd ask the doctor before you take any more of it.

I'd like everyone to know that SophiaM is my idol; she introduced me to garlic oil, for one thing, and it has been just what I needed.

Sophia, your hesitation probably is indeed due to the voice of wisdom. Sometimes it is better merely to move on and away. Unless there is garbage that you just can't seem to throw out. My soulmate meditates in his own way when he feels resentful toward someone for a long time. This has helped him forgive and move on. He usually just sits outside somewhere peaceful and then tries to imagine the other person's point of view; he concentrates on understanding and letting go. Perhaps this isn't for you in this situation, but I thought I would mention it, because it has helped him so much.

I, too, got it from my ex, who got it in strip club (NICE). I didn't know for about 4 years after we broke up, and I haven't told him. That would just be icing on the cake for him....a forever memory of our relationship...

Nicole

Oh, wow, so after all, I'm not alone in this situation of getting it from my ex but not finding out until years later! Well, I will never forget him, that's for sure. I am so depressed right now, I just can't move on. Life seems hopeless and useless, and I feel like I will forever be alone. I just don't know how to snap out of it.

Wow, Sophia, there are a lot better guys out there than that one, and even without a guy life can be fun. Is there anything you've always thought you'd like to do but have never done? Liked to learn but never took the time or spent the money on classes? Causes you want to support but haven't gotten involved? Anything that would make you feel good about yourself and like your life is moving along? I think the relationships appear when we are doing the things we love or believe in and focussing on improving ourselves and loving ourselves. Man, you sound like such a great person.

I know what you mean about being depressed about it. I get pretty depressed after every ob. Then I tell myself that it could be worse, and I could have gotten a terminal disease.

Backpacker is so right about involving yourself in something important to you. You will find joy in it and although the ob times will still be depressing, they won't be that bad. There are men out there that take this disease as part of you and love you anyway. We are all full of skeletons in the closet, and the right man will be able to look past this. Mine did. He supports me and helps me out whenever I do have an ob, and LOVES me despite it. We had only been dating for 7 months when I find out, and now in October, we will be together for 3 years and MULTIPLE ob's.

I do have a question, though about an ob. I have been on Valtrex 5 days now, and it isn't going very quickly. Does it keep working even though you are out of pills? Thanks, and don't worry, it could be WAYY worse!!! Lots of love to you!

Nicole

If you are pg, you're body is kind of busy and so the ob might not go away as fast.

Last time I tried putting on a little of my wound salve, which is comfrey, goldenseal, and other healing herbs in a hemp oil base, every few hours; I think the ob went away faster than they ever have for me. But it may just be that I slept a lot and was exercising--I mean walking, hiking around, not weight lifting-- a lot when I was awake.

Good luck in your efforts, and i hope the ob is getting better now. By the way, I love your quote at the end of your posts.