I would like to hear stories of how our friends and families enabled us to keep active in our addictions. How they thought they were helping us when we were just conning them. How they drove themselves crazy keeping up with their addict counterparts. How they tried to love us enough to make us clean. :nono:

Thanks for your posts

For the first 17 year or so of my addiction I was able to keep things together, the last three I lost control and my addiction spiraled to a very dangerous, dark, scary place where I had almost lost everything and was using 24 hours a day. My oldest son for the first 2 1/2 years, and my boyfriend were the worse enablers. My son didn't want to see me homeless, so he would pay my rent when I was not able too, either one of them would pay my bills when need be....gave me more money to use, and each time they would help me I would tell them I am done, it's over but I knew that I was going to use as soon as I got money. They kept a roof over my head, food in my fridge and paid my bills...it kept me in addiction alot longer than if they would have let me be homeless, hungry and scared. I started to expect them to do it and even would get angry if they didn't. Finally, it all stopped. My boyfriend and oldest son sat down and said we are not doing her any favours, she is not getting better, nor trying to, and she is using us to continue to get money to use..so they stopped. I was in a detox and on to recovery within a week of them leaving me.

Rebecca,

This is interesting because the first drug to get me in trouble was ultram. Had a close friend work at Dr's office and the pharm reps passed ultram around like crazy. They were feeding me these samples not knowing I also had another Dr. giving me 120 a month. We get pretty clever with our family and friends and Doctor's. We get to be experts at manipulation. I got so good at it I could almost talk any Doctor out of anything. I played one against the other. But I just bet I singing the same ole song as everyone on this board. We all are probably guilty of this.

fisherman