Sara67
08-30-2004, 05:07 AM
Hello everyone
My name is Sara and I have had wieght issues all of my life. I have tried practically every diet known to man and I have come to the conclusion that the answer to my problem is not the type of food I eat, it is the quantity.
Every emotion seems to lead me to food. If I am Bored, I eat to occupy myself. If I am sad, I eat for comfort. If I am happy, I eat to celebrate.
I am going to do my best to break this cycle. Not just for the duration of the next diet, but for good. I thought it might be nice to strike up a friendship with some of you so that when we are bored, we can chat. When we are sad, we can vent and when we are happy, we can share.
You can be my chocolate bar!!!
Anyway. Thats my theory. So if you would like a slimming partner who will boost you up when you need motivating and who will always be on your side. Please answer this thread so that we can do our best together!
Take care
Sara
My name is Sara and I have had wieght issues all of my life. I have tried practically every diet known to man and I have come to the conclusion that the answer to my problem is not the type of food I eat, it is the quantity.
Every emotion seems to lead me to food. If I am Bored, I eat to occupy myself. If I am sad, I eat for comfort. If I am happy, I eat to celebrate.
I am going to do my best to break this cycle. Not just for the duration of the next diet, but for good. I thought it might be nice to strike up a friendship with some of you so that when we are bored, we can chat. When we are sad, we can vent and when we are happy, we can share.
You can be my chocolate bar!!!
Anyway. Thats my theory. So if you would like a slimming partner who will boost you up when you need motivating and who will always be on your side. Please answer this thread so that we can do our best together!
Take care
Sara
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Christin
08-31-2004, 01:31 PM
Hey Sara, nice to meet ya! Well, my problem is both quantity AND quality, as I am WAY addicted to the junk carbs, sugar, and chocolate. You are right about the emotional aspect of eating! Not to pass my problems off on my parents, but by way of explanation, I was never taught how to eat healthy as a kid. We were never forced to eat anything. They would make our meals seperate from theirs. So, when I grew up and developed a whole host of physical and emotional issues of my own, my diet just got worse and worse to the point that a box of pop tarts and a package of ramen noodles would pass for a day's worth of food. And now they just feed on each other...bad diet causes emotional/physical ailments, and then those ailments contribute to my bad diet, and on and on and on. Someone PLEASE tell me I am not alone!
Anyway, Sara, keep posting...that's what we are all here for...encouragement, advice, and if nothing else, just an "ear". :)
Anyway, Sara, keep posting...that's what we are all here for...encouragement, advice, and if nothing else, just an "ear". :)
nikki2kids
08-31-2004, 04:02 PM
Hi Sara and Christin, I completely understand you both. Sara, I also tend to want to eat for every mood. There is no mood that ruins my appetite. I even have a good appetite when I have the flu (what's up with that?). I will be here to post and to reply anytime you need "a chocolate bar" and whenever I need one.
Christin, I find your post interresting about the food you grew up on and I do understand about the bad diet causing emotional/physical ailments which just lead to a bad diet. It's a bad cycle that we have to work to break. I have a four year old and one year old and the four year old does not like to eat and he's pretty skinny, although, thank God, healthy. I tend to want to feed him healthy but fattening food and I sometimes wonder if that's such a good thing. He does eat some fruits and veggies, but not many. I think I will make more of an effort to feed the kids healthy foods for them to learn what healthy eating is while they are young.
As for me, I'm still an emotional eater. I did so well with food yesterday and then went to visit my grandma (back from the hospital). I was not hungry but just because there was food there, I ate it. I keep asking myself why I did that and I can honestly say that I don't know. I would love to be able to program myself to only eat when I need to. I try to follow the 5-6 small meals a day, keeping my calories above 1400 per day, and getting some exercise in at least five days a week. It still has not helped break the emotional connection to food. Oh well, enough ranting. Good luck to us all. Nikki
Christin, I find your post interresting about the food you grew up on and I do understand about the bad diet causing emotional/physical ailments which just lead to a bad diet. It's a bad cycle that we have to work to break. I have a four year old and one year old and the four year old does not like to eat and he's pretty skinny, although, thank God, healthy. I tend to want to feed him healthy but fattening food and I sometimes wonder if that's such a good thing. He does eat some fruits and veggies, but not many. I think I will make more of an effort to feed the kids healthy foods for them to learn what healthy eating is while they are young.
As for me, I'm still an emotional eater. I did so well with food yesterday and then went to visit my grandma (back from the hospital). I was not hungry but just because there was food there, I ate it. I keep asking myself why I did that and I can honestly say that I don't know. I would love to be able to program myself to only eat when I need to. I try to follow the 5-6 small meals a day, keeping my calories above 1400 per day, and getting some exercise in at least five days a week. It still has not helped break the emotional connection to food. Oh well, enough ranting. Good luck to us all. Nikki
Sade
09-02-2004, 01:34 AM
Hi Sara, I too am struggling with my weight and emotional eating, I have never been the same since I lost my Father, We were so close, I am just now realizing that I can't keep hiding under that excuse..But just today I went outside and heard teenage kids saying awful things..like "eew that's gross...I was just getting ready to eat dinner...Lost my appetite."
I wanted to die.
Why do people have to be so cruel to others? I just need help getting motivated, I want to work out but always find excuses not to..like I am too tired or I just took a shower and don't want to get all sweaty, stuff like that, even though I know that exercising will increase my energy, it's the getting started part that hurts. Best of luck to you Sara, Keep posting, "
I wanted to die.
Why do people have to be so cruel to others? I just need help getting motivated, I want to work out but always find excuses not to..like I am too tired or I just took a shower and don't want to get all sweaty, stuff like that, even though I know that exercising will increase my energy, it's the getting started part that hurts. Best of luck to you Sara, Keep posting, "
NinjaCowboy
09-02-2004, 05:47 AM
Christin:
I don't have any emotional aspect to it, but I'm at a point right now where a package of ramen noodles is an entire day's worth of food. It sucks. I know that it is not true, but I still feel that since I don't eat a lot I should be skinny. Instead, I am just tired all the time. It also sucks that as much as I hate the current situation, I apparently have not been motivated enough to actually change anything, because I know I should eat more frequently, but ramen noodles are still all my food for the day.
I don't have any emotional aspect to it, but I'm at a point right now where a package of ramen noodles is an entire day's worth of food. It sucks. I know that it is not true, but I still feel that since I don't eat a lot I should be skinny. Instead, I am just tired all the time. It also sucks that as much as I hate the current situation, I apparently have not been motivated enough to actually change anything, because I know I should eat more frequently, but ramen noodles are still all my food for the day.
Sara67
09-03-2004, 04:53 AM
Hi everyone. Thanks for your replies. It is nice to meet you
Sade. I know what it feels like to feel humiliated. It has happened to me. Not by strangers, but people who I have known for years. Each time it has happened, I wipe my eyes and promise myself that I won't let them hurt me again, but it always does.
I may not look my best on the outside right now, but inside, where it really counts, I am a good person and I would never hurt someone like that.
Christine and Ninjacowboy: I know what you mean when you say you have not got any energy. I tried to lose wieght by limiting my diet to one thing. I had the idea that smokers and drug addicts quit by going cold turkey. You can't stop eating completely, but by limiting the food to just one thing, maybe I could avoid overindulging on the nice stuff.
It must be a nightmare for you Nikki. Trying to diet when you have two small children to feed. Mind you, I bet you get loads of exercise.
I have always had to keep my wieght in check but I had managed to stay between 130 - 150lbs. Like you Sade, my wieght ballooned when my dear ol dad got ill. He died 14 months ago and I was so distraught, I just stopped caring about myself. A couple of weeks ago, it was as though the fog suddenly lifted. Not completely, just enough for me to see that I need to get myself sorted out. I want to live a full and healthy life. I will never be model material. I just want to be able to walk up the stairs without gasping for breath
Anyway, good luck to each and every one of us. Together we can do it
Sade. I know what it feels like to feel humiliated. It has happened to me. Not by strangers, but people who I have known for years. Each time it has happened, I wipe my eyes and promise myself that I won't let them hurt me again, but it always does.
I may not look my best on the outside right now, but inside, where it really counts, I am a good person and I would never hurt someone like that.
Christine and Ninjacowboy: I know what you mean when you say you have not got any energy. I tried to lose wieght by limiting my diet to one thing. I had the idea that smokers and drug addicts quit by going cold turkey. You can't stop eating completely, but by limiting the food to just one thing, maybe I could avoid overindulging on the nice stuff.
It must be a nightmare for you Nikki. Trying to diet when you have two small children to feed. Mind you, I bet you get loads of exercise.
I have always had to keep my wieght in check but I had managed to stay between 130 - 150lbs. Like you Sade, my wieght ballooned when my dear ol dad got ill. He died 14 months ago and I was so distraught, I just stopped caring about myself. A couple of weeks ago, it was as though the fog suddenly lifted. Not completely, just enough for me to see that I need to get myself sorted out. I want to live a full and healthy life. I will never be model material. I just want to be able to walk up the stairs without gasping for breath
Anyway, good luck to each and every one of us. Together we can do it
Karenholden
09-03-2004, 05:26 AM
Hi Sara and everybody,
Well I am 41 years old and have been dieting since I was sixteen - Oh! I've had my ups and downs :bouncing: There have been years over this time when I have looked really good but thought I was really fat and times like now when I really don't look good in anything I wear at all.
I have to say I am sick of all the diets, sick of being told what I can and can't eat - But that does not change that I want to look good and feel happy about myself.
And you know what I notice the most - the different ways people treat you. When I am looking good most people will talk to me. When I'm looking overweight, only those who are close to me take time out to talk to me and have fun with me.
I know there have been times when I might have actually pushed people away - but that is usually because they have given me the cold shoulder first. After a while you get defensive and it can become a vicious circle.
Well, me and a couple of the girls have started a walking club - they walk almost everyday and so far I have only been going out with them once a week. Sometimes because I can't get away from work, but other times because of laziness - but I'm gonna keep on trying - I just think even if I slowly change my habits maybe eventually I can lose those extra pounds.
Bye for now all :wave:
Well I am 41 years old and have been dieting since I was sixteen - Oh! I've had my ups and downs :bouncing: There have been years over this time when I have looked really good but thought I was really fat and times like now when I really don't look good in anything I wear at all.
I have to say I am sick of all the diets, sick of being told what I can and can't eat - But that does not change that I want to look good and feel happy about myself.
And you know what I notice the most - the different ways people treat you. When I am looking good most people will talk to me. When I'm looking overweight, only those who are close to me take time out to talk to me and have fun with me.
I know there have been times when I might have actually pushed people away - but that is usually because they have given me the cold shoulder first. After a while you get defensive and it can become a vicious circle.
Well, me and a couple of the girls have started a walking club - they walk almost everyday and so far I have only been going out with them once a week. Sometimes because I can't get away from work, but other times because of laziness - but I'm gonna keep on trying - I just think even if I slowly change my habits maybe eventually I can lose those extra pounds.
Bye for now all :wave:
MrsLee
09-03-2004, 10:33 AM
I can relate to a lot of what you all are saying. I have problems with the quality AND the quantity of the food I eat. I am an emotional eater too, and sometimes I binge. I joined Weight Watchers online two months ago, and I have lost 20 pounds. I am still excited about it, and I still have hope I will lose this weight. Every other diet I have tried I have hated, and by this point, I usually would have given up. I would highly recommend WW if you are having problems with portion control. I am realizing just how big of a problem this was for me. And now it feels great that my stomach is not stuffed when I am done eating. This will be a struggle--I still have at least 80 pounds to lose, probably more like 90, but I know I can do it this time.
catrina_84
09-04-2004, 02:09 AM
i am the same way i eat and eat. i am only 20 with two kids stay at home all day with them. nothing better to do then eat. ill try to go on diets but i never stick to them. im really not that fat but i could lose about 20 pounds. i just get so depressed about my gutt. makes me so mad when me and my boyfriend are watching tv and a skinny girl pops up. we watch blind date alot. doesnt help either because all i do when i see a skinny girl is eat. my 2 best friends are skin and bones so jealuss need someone i can talk to and keep my mind off of eating trade diets and exercises maybe
Sara67
09-04-2004, 03:22 AM
Hi Catrina
10 years ago. I was about 15-20lbs above my ideal wieght. Like you, I stored my extra wieght on my stomach and I was very self conscious of it. I was so insecure about my body that I convinced myself that my partner would have preferred the skinny young girls to me.
10 years on, I am almost 60lbs overwieght. I now think back to those times with sadness. Not just because of my wieght now, but because 10 years ago, I didn't realize how slim and pretty I was.
Try not to make my mistake. Try not to let one imperfection ruin your self esteem. I am not saying that you shouldn't try to lose the weight if that is what you want. Just try to remember that there is so much more to you, because in 10 years time, you will look back and wish you had known how lucky you were
Sara
10 years ago. I was about 15-20lbs above my ideal wieght. Like you, I stored my extra wieght on my stomach and I was very self conscious of it. I was so insecure about my body that I convinced myself that my partner would have preferred the skinny young girls to me.
10 years on, I am almost 60lbs overwieght. I now think back to those times with sadness. Not just because of my wieght now, but because 10 years ago, I didn't realize how slim and pretty I was.
Try not to make my mistake. Try not to let one imperfection ruin your self esteem. I am not saying that you shouldn't try to lose the weight if that is what you want. Just try to remember that there is so much more to you, because in 10 years time, you will look back and wish you had known how lucky you were
Sara
Sara67
09-04-2004, 03:38 AM
Hi everyone
Well. This is it. I am about to embark on a whole new way of life. I spent the last 4 days eating through the mounds of unhealthy, fattening and yet oh so delicious foods that were crammed into my cupboards. I went shopping last night and bought wholesome low fat healthy foods, which if I am honest, I have no idea of how to cook any of it. All I know is....my slimming world diet sheet says they are free foods and that is good enough for me!
I know from experience that the first 3 days are the worst. It is as though you can still taste the chocolate! Seeing the reward for your hardship is helpful and I generally find that I get an immediate wieght loss of about 5lbs because of the dramatic change to my lifestyle.
I will be popping in regularly from here on. I will need something to keep me sane as I chew on a carrot!!!!
Wish me luck ;)
Well. This is it. I am about to embark on a whole new way of life. I spent the last 4 days eating through the mounds of unhealthy, fattening and yet oh so delicious foods that were crammed into my cupboards. I went shopping last night and bought wholesome low fat healthy foods, which if I am honest, I have no idea of how to cook any of it. All I know is....my slimming world diet sheet says they are free foods and that is good enough for me!
I know from experience that the first 3 days are the worst. It is as though you can still taste the chocolate! Seeing the reward for your hardship is helpful and I generally find that I get an immediate wieght loss of about 5lbs because of the dramatic change to my lifestyle.
I will be popping in regularly from here on. I will need something to keep me sane as I chew on a carrot!!!!
Wish me luck ;)
Karenholden
09-04-2004, 07:26 AM
Good Luck Sara - I can feel that you are going to do well with this.
cheers
Karen :)
cheers
Karen :)
Sara67
09-09-2004, 10:54 AM
I hate dieting. I feel so deprived. I know I shouldn't but I do. I havn't lost a pound and yet I am going without all of the foods I love.
From a very miserable Sara
From a very miserable Sara
Karenholden
09-17-2004, 06:34 AM
Hey, I have an idea, go down to the supermarket and spend some time looking at the labels etc.... pick out some things that you will like and make them up into little packs and then just allow yourself one of them a day.
Maybe even try to get your hands on one of those weight watchers points books so you know what you can buy that won't break the diet.
My sister has my book at the moment, when I get it back I can post some ideas for you too.
Tell me some of the things you like and I can look them up.
Cheers
Karen
Maybe even try to get your hands on one of those weight watchers points books so you know what you can buy that won't break the diet.
My sister has my book at the moment, when I get it back I can post some ideas for you too.
Tell me some of the things you like and I can look them up.
Cheers
Karen
Karenholden
09-20-2004, 08:05 AM
Hi everyone,
I have started Xenical today, this is an over the counter drug at the chemist for anyone who does not know what it is. I will let you all know how it goes.
I am currently 220pounds, I will give you progress reports whether my weight drops.
Cheers
Karen
I have started Xenical today, this is an over the counter drug at the chemist for anyone who does not know what it is. I will let you all know how it goes.
I am currently 220pounds, I will give you progress reports whether my weight drops.
Cheers
Karen
Sara67
09-29-2004, 03:28 AM
Hi Karen
How are things going. I hope you get good results.
My diet is going ok but I have just found out that I have CFS so exercise practically impossible at the moment. Not to worry. I will still do my best and hopefully, I will achieve my goal
Wishing you luck with your weight loss
Sara
How are things going. I hope you get good results.
My diet is going ok but I have just found out that I have CFS so exercise practically impossible at the moment. Not to worry. I will still do my best and hopefully, I will achieve my goal
Wishing you luck with your weight loss
Sara
Karenholden
10-01-2004, 08:30 AM
Hi Sara,
I have been on them for two weeks now and have lost 5 pounds without even really trying to hard. I am watching what I eat but I am not really restricting myself completely.
So far so good.
It is frustrating isn't it when you get your mind set to dieting and then something gets in your way.
But I read your first thread and I think you will still get where you want to be, even if it is little bit by little bit.
Cheers
Karen
Cheers
Ka
I have been on them for two weeks now and have lost 5 pounds without even really trying to hard. I am watching what I eat but I am not really restricting myself completely.
So far so good.
It is frustrating isn't it when you get your mind set to dieting and then something gets in your way.
But I read your first thread and I think you will still get where you want to be, even if it is little bit by little bit.
Cheers
Karen
Cheers
Ka