i have a girl friend that is anerxic (sorry can't spelled) and i don't want see her doing this to her self. i've tryed to help her but that dosen't seem to get any where. so could any one could give me advice?

Hi
Well, unfortunately there's not a whole lot you can do to make her get help. If she wants it that's another story. First of all, does she know she has a problem? Cause if she doesn't know, then getting help is going to be more difficult. Suggest she go see a therapist, her doctor, a nutritionist. Or if she has a trusted adult that she can talk to that would help too. Just be honest with her. Don't sugar coat things, or let her get away with stuff but at the same time be a support for her. It's like tough love. It's a hard line to walk but you sound like a really good friend just going online and looking for a way to help her. Be a support and a resource, just don't get sucked in. If she doesn't know she has a problem just be there to listen at first. See if you can get anywhere with that. I hope this makes sense.

Fire

she knows she has this problem but i don't think she sees it as a problem. i wish i could make her relise that it is a problem.

You could ask her if she wants to see a therapist. Even without addressing the ED. Just as an outlet to talk to someone. I don't know how old your friend is. So if money is an issue to see a therapist she may be able to get help at school, college or a place that accepts sliding scale payment. I know a lot of people don't get help because of money. You could introduce her to this board. Maybe getting some support that's not so intense and face to face may be helpful.
Unfortunately, you can't make her realize she has a problem. But you can be a support to her and offer her some suggestions and options.

Fire

thanks you don't know how much this means to me

Hello,

have you tried giving her something to read about the dangers of anorexia?

The thing is, in the beginning it is often exciting to lose the weight etc, it kind of gives you a short term high - but it is just an illusion. Later it is no fun at all anymore. It turns out to be a big illusion, and takes over all your life. Really sad.

Kathrin