Gee's, This is not good,I bet your Ma wants to be there with you, is that possible?And another hurricane?gee's another last thing you need right now,I understand about the husband part,and actually alot of people, untill they are in your shoes they have no idea,my brother and I got into it, cause a girl in his town that bartends has been through this and needs to have another level done on her neck, he thought she was drug seeking!I almost blew, here I am in that hard collar, knowing the hell, as well as how little pain pills help,plus the fact surgeons do not do surgery cause ya ask for it.Now they help(pain pills) but not prior too the surgery,nerves are a nasty buisness.The kids are all at hard ages, but no babies, thankfully,maybe you can set up someone ahead of time to run them here and there, cuz no way should you even think you should be doing these things,I wish i could be of more help to you, cuz meals and everything should be premade and frozen,so as you can just stay in the recliner(by the way that has been my bed since 3 wks prior to surgery)in order to heal you must be just about yourself,at what ever cost.I know easier said then done, but honestly you cannot be made to feel quilty because you cannot do as before, this is about you and future health !I say this because I know at first that is how I felt, both after my heart surgery, and now with this neck,we are by nature caregivers,but now you need to be taken care of,stock up on those things that you know you will need,stay in touch,as you prolly see I check pretty often, haha my chair is not but 4 feet away!Thinking of you, Solar