icarthew....You have found the perfect place to help you through this! I had and am still having exactly the same symptoms you have. Mine started about this time last year in August and I am just now the last month or so leveling out. It put me in such a tailspin...I am normally healthy, brush off any minor aches and pains, mentally stable and my cycles were always regular and the same but I am telling you it hit me all at once like a ton of bricks!!! I never had the traditional "Hot flash" either, but all the rest on your list I have had, especially the gastro troubles. They were the worst of the horrible list for me. Finally realizing that I was NOT crazy, that the things that were happening were physical and there was a cause, has allowed me to realize I can help myself get a bit better, or at least tolerant and understanding of my body. (with the help of my doc and educating myself and the great women here!). I have changed my diet a bit, started taking b-complex, cal/mag and calcium with D...and acidophillus helps me with my tummy troubles. My doctor perscribed an antidepressant that I take when I absolutely have to and let me tell you, it has really helped me. It's like a vicious cycle...the peri symptoms make you anxious, the anxiety magnifies everything thats wrong and so on and so on. I am finally having more good days than bad (fingers crossed, knock wood) but it is a battle for some of us. Just know you are NOT crazy!!!! Stick with us girl...it truly will help you feel better!
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Conni