I am a moron, #1. I had an escort come to my place on Saturday and had Protected oral and vaginal sex with her. She put the condom on correctly and even held it on when she gave me oral and also when I penetrated her.

I never came in her, I jerked it with the condom still in tact for a couple of minutes and then came in the condom.

I removed it, without it touching my urethrea (sp) or head at all. My penis was a little sticky but that was from cum I think or the lube on the condom.

The condom never slipped off or broke. I actually grabbed it after she left and water tested it and even air tested it (tied it off like a balloon and squeezed it so the air would make bubbles in the condom). I washed my hands before touching my penis, and washed it right after I washed my hands.

I chunked the condom after one day of leaving the air/ water in it and it still held, no leaks. I'm pretty sure it was latex, but I've never seen lambskin condoms so I'm not 100% positive.

The escort brought the condom with her and I saw/ heard her open it.

I also asked her if she was supposed to be tested buy her agency she said no, but she did it on her own. I never got around to asking her point blank if she had been tested recently. I told her I was afraid of catching something and she told me to stick to reputable places and not ads in the paper. I took this to mean she and her co-workers were protecting themselves well.

She also told me she never did anything without a condom. She also had a 3 yr old, hopefully she loves it enough to stay safe.

I have a wife, and I'm not proud of doing this. In retrospect the experience was rather bad compared to making love to my wife. I can't tell her because she will leave me. She had been my only sexual partner up until this idiotic move.

Question is, should I be worried? I know I will need to get tested just for piece of mind but I'm probably only going to be able to put her off for 2 weeks. I guess that is long enough for PCR (I think that is the initials) testing which is available in 2 weeks.

I think protected means protected so I hope all the other ones in here that were protected and tested negative will set my example.

Worrying makes you sick for sure, so i'm trying to stay calm and get my rest.

I just got ahold of her. Asked her about diseases, she said she is totally clean and was actually mad that I asked her (i don't blame her). She thought I was calling to make an appointment. Whoops.

I guess I have little to worry about, unless she's bs-ing me.

Protected means protected right???? Last time for me for this kind of risk!!!!!!

Even if you get tested and you find out that you are HIV negative you probably will still be worried sick. I've seen this story many times and you are probably going to continue worrying about this for awhile. You are probably feeling guilty for cheating on your wife and I don't blame you. The only way you will be able to put your mind at ease is if you tell her.

I really don't think you have anything to worry about as far as the HIV goes. Just the fact alone that you were wearing a condom puts you at minimal risk. Even if she were HIV positive the risk is still too low to worry about. But before you start pointing out symptoms you should just get tested. I really think you'll be fine though.

Thanks for the advice.

I'd say, after reading hundreds of posts and responses from "Dr. Bob" at "the body" wed site I'd say I am at low, low risk if any. I will probably get tested all the same for piece of mind, but at least now I can sleep.

The guilt and feelings of remorse are probably the catalyst for feeling like you may have caught hiv or another disease. I guess you feel like you need some kind of punishment and this is what it is.

I'm never going to do that again. Like I said, it wasn't anything to brag about, I've had way better sex with my wife (or hand for that matter).

It's only been 3 days since the idiotic act but I feel prefectly fine (except for the head, stress and all). I really never get sick and I have a strong tolerance to colds etc so I'm hoping that my immune system would help block a small % of virus if any of it did get to me. I heard it takes a larger dose or concentration of virus coupled with a weak immune system to get infected.


Anyone know how accurate the PCR testing is? Can you do it at 2 weeks?

It's your guilt doing this to you - {REMOVED}

I know it was unfair and stupid. I'm not proud of myself and I want no harm to come to my wife from it.

Hence my concern.

I know I'm screwed if I have it (which I think is a 1 in 100,000 chance to start with) but I want to make sure I don't pass it on.

I don't think I need help, believe me, the guilt and realization of what I've done has sobered me up, so to speak, and I know now that I have been a ****** person.

Believe me, whenever I see her I can't help but feel like a piece of ****.

I am glad that the moderator came in here and took care of some of these messages.

None of us have the right to judge anyone else. This is NOT a board about morality or what is right and what is wrong. Who are we to judge?!

This is a board where people come when they are scared. These people think they have been exposed to the virus and the last thing anyone here needs is a speech about their character or moral values.

Tractorback will come clean with his wife if and when he is ready. If that time never comes and he never comes clean, well then that is his decision.

This is not a place for us to judge anyone.

-Chelle

i will not re-post anything such as that, but i would like to say, i wasn't judging morality, i was simply stating, that in order to prevent these things, or to prevent others from being scared... you should be honest with your partner. i realize everyone makes mistakes... but i just think if we put others at risk, that isn't fair.

i will not re-post anything such as that, but i would like to say, i wasn't judging morality, i was simply stating, that in order to prevent these things, or to prevent others from being scared... you should be honest with your partner. i realize everyone makes mistakes... but i just think if we put others at risk, that isn't fair.
Totally agree 100% ~Good post! :wave: