Okay,here's my story
Last year I posted on here because I was freaking out about getting tested...I had had 3 counts of unprotected sex. Anyway, I got the courage to get tested and it was negative. I prayed to GOD i would never ever have unprotected sex again. I made a promise to myself and to God...
well a year later i messed up
my boyfriend just came back from Iraq. He was tested for HIV right ebfore he left (its required in the military). It was negative(well i assume it was because he hasnt heard back, and they usually email,call or write a letter if it was). I dont know why, i dont know why at all..but I had unprotected sex with him twice. He didnt ejaculate. I feel sooo horrible..not only for lying to myself, but for lying to God. I almost feel like i deserve to get HIV...i mean i know no one does, but i promised...
Well...about four weeks ago, I got a sore throat and noticed white patches...I scraped them off and that was that. I was having diahrehah, and then this strange thing happened last week. My boyfriend got a lump under his arm that was painful. I touched it, and the next day I got onem but it cleared up in two days...
what if hes having sex with other people? I mean he says hes not and I should trust him, but i know he doesnt like using condoms and he likes having sex....im freaking out and i hate, HATE myself so much for this...i really NOW understand its important not to trust anyone to stay monogomaus...i mean he doesnt do weird things that would point to cheating but i dont know....im planning on testing in november...what do you guys think about these armpit bumps? Could it be a lymph node reaction thats the exact same at the exact same time??? im so sorry to bother you guys with this, but i REALLY need feedback...what do you think my odds are of getting hiv from him>>>>

I think u should feel pretty safe honestly!
The white patches u described do not sound like thrush. I may be wrong though so don't hold me to it! But the thrush I had were white patches that bled a lot when scratched off. Your food will taste different and your mouth will get kinda sore. Also you will wake up with a ton of mucous in your mouth and the roof of your mouth, which I have to sometimes take a Q-Tip just to get it out, nasty! Plus my glands swelled the size of golf balls and were extremely painful. As for the bumps, were they large or small? I think you may have got it from obsessing too much or checking there yourself to see if you had them. If it were a swollen gland it would take longer than 2 days to go down in swelling, at least mine do.

Go ahead and get tested, I'm not against doing that. In fact I think you should every 6 months. That is what I plan on doing. I would also make him get tested at the same time. Though you should give him a little trust. As long as you keep him happy and satisfied then he will have no use to find someone else to mess around with. If he honestly loves you, then he will do as you ask, go get the hiv test with you, wear a condom if you ask him to. The way I see it, it does feel good without one, but it is not worth what you can contract without one. If he loves you he will understand. If not, well that is up to you. Keep him and go along, refuse sex until he wears one, or ditch him. If he can't honor a simple request then why bother? Sex isn't the number one priority in a real relationship. Ok it has SOME to do with it, but it is all about how you feel when you're with each other...ya know what I mean?

Anyway I hope that helps out!

P.S.- I also prayed and said if I am negative, I will not have sex until marriage. And I am sticking to it. I do not want this worry anymore, it is not worth a little pleasure for a lifetime of pain and knowing that your life will be cut short on count of mistakes. GOOD LUCK

I wish you Sarrah to have a negative result. You know you ang I have the same promise. I'm just waiting for the 3 moth period to be tested, I prayed to GOD for me to have a negative result and same as you promise not to have sex other than my wife or my girffriend.