This is my first time posting...it actually took me a while to find a board like this. I hope it's pretty active!!! Anyway, on to my question. I've been with my bf for a little over 3 years and I just started the pill almost a year ago. I've noticed a few things since starting and I was wondering if this was normal and what I can do to 'help' the situations.
1) I am 10 times LESS horny on the pill than I used to be. I still want to have sex all the time, but before the pill I used to want to jump my bf all over the place. Not to mention, I used to masterbate like crazy. :eek: Now, if we have sex once a week, I'm okay....it that normal, is there any way to get it back?!! :eek:

2) When my bf and I have sex, my vagina completely swells up and gets incredibly irritated (no, we're not using condoms). :( It gets to the point where I just want it to stop...and when I go to the bathroom after to pee it is the WORST stinging sensation I've ever felt in my life. This never used to happen before the pill. I don't know if it has anything to do with my natural lubrication, but I always seem to be pretty wet.

3)This is kind of a silly question, but if I can't ask it here, where can I right? When my bf cums inside of me and then pulls out, most (if not all) of his sperm pours out of me too. Does that have anything to do with the pill and how it builds a thick wall almost preventing sperm from entering, or is this normal and happens to everyone? We both think it's pretty gross, but I can't seem to help it!! :confused:

Anyway, sorry for the random post and questions (especially since this is my first one), but I hope someone can help me out and point me in the right direction. Thanks for taking the time to read this. :o :o

Signed,
-Mary Christmas

well, you could be entering a new stage in your relationship. It is quite normal b/c the first stage is lust, and that is when you 'll see the higher libido. It is an exciting hormonal time to be with someone new. That is why you hear about so many people get a little frustrated after that stage, cause a lot of times the umph is out versus what it was like before the second stage. Does that make any sense?
Also, when my hubby and I have sex, and I go to pee afterwards, his sperm comes out of me too. I don't know how to explain that and I don't know why it happens, but I am sure it is normal. I am on Depo, not the pill, so some of this is beyond me. As far as the rest of your questions, talk to your dr. Some pills may have sexual side affects. Are you on any other meds? Are you stressed? there can be a lot of reasons for libido changes. But, all in all, talk to your dr.

I think the burning pee is probably a urinary tract infection and unrelated to the BC. Also--your horniness might have been because of ovulation, and BC makes it so you don't ovulate anymore. I'm pretty sure, anyway. I know lube makes me burn, are you using any?

Edit: Also, sex is just messy--sperm doesn't just stay in you. Goo gets everywhere. Did he used to cum in you WITHOUT BC, and that didn't happen? Because I'd think THAT would be the stranger thing.

A few things....as mentioned, my bf and I have been together for just over three years and I've only been on the pill for almost a year. The 'lust' phase of our relationship has been long over...and I've only noticed the change in my libido since I've been on the pill. I don't even mean just with him...I mean in general. Like I said, I used to be horny and have no problem pleasuring myself (I even bought a vibrator) :) , and now I just have no interest. I'm 100% sure it has to do with the pill, I just wanted to know if it was normal. It could very well have to do with the hormones in the pill and the fact that I don't ovulate on the pill. I'm not on any other meds, nor am I stressed out to abnormal levels! I'll speak to my dr. at my check-up in November.

Thank you for pointing out that it is normal for sperm to 'come out' after sex. When I wasn't on BC we never had unprotected sex, so I can't compare it. I certainly know sex is messy and goo gets all over...and that's perfectly fine...again, just wanted to make sure it was normal! We typically don't use lube unless it is getting to painful for me (swelling- which happens BEFORE the lube is used) and the it tends to soothe me. :)

The other thing....this burning and swelling is certainly not a UTI or bladder infection. I've had those before (they tend to last more than a few hours). The burning is on the outside of the vagina, kind of like a tear/cut that you are running under water for the first time (but 10 times worse) and the swelling is terrible...almost like the lips of my vagina swell closed and are puffy. It's incredibly painful to wipe (after peeing the first time) and sometimes I've even had to put a wet towel down there to stop the stinging and reduce the swelling...I'll ask my dr. when I go, but these are some pretty embarrassing questions that I'd rather not ask someone in person if I can get advice elsewhere!! :o

Thanks again for your responses, feedback and advice. Keep 'em comin' if you can!!

I know exactly what you are talking about. After my boyfriend and I have sex, it burns really bad to pee. It's almost like I try to hold it as long as possible to avoid the pain! LOL. On some occasions I even take tylenol to help the pain.

I also noticed a difference in my sex drive by being on the birth control. I think that it is a common occurance for this to happen. I have switched pills and it is still a factor.. so.... ?

YES-- Loss of Libido is VERY COMMON! I used to be like a Rabbit! Now.. Im lucky if I want to do it once a month! You arn't alone there.. and I went to the doctor and she tried telling me that I didn't like My Partner anymore! YEAH RIGHT! But I tried to get off the pill and see if it got better? Well It got a lil better when i was off for 4 mths. but the Pleasure is 100% better without condoms!
Yes the Sperm will just pour out of you thats normal, and for the burning is that just the 1st pee after sex? Because I get that!

The burning could also be from a yeast infection. Not all yeast infections cause itchiness! The first time I got pregnant, I was having similar symptoms to what you are describing, and I had to get tested for pregnancy before the doctor would see me LOL :)

It was a yeast infection, that was easily cured with OTC medication.

Yeah, it's only after the first pee that I feel the incredible burning...that's why I don't think it's a yeast infection. I would think those would last longer than a few hours. I always hope that I dont' have to pee right after that way the swelling (most of it) will go down and I can pee without it hurting. I'm glad I'm not the only one that experiences this...although for all of your sakes, I wish I were! I guess I should ask my doctor about this when I go in for a check up.

As far as my libido goes, I'm glad that the decrease is normal as well. I do not love my bf any less than I used to nor am I less attracted to him...I'm simply just not as horny (even alone) as I used to be. I guess I could try switching, but if it's common on all BC's I might as well stay put!

Thanks for all your help!

My labido is pretty much gone since I have been taking the pill. I just could care less if I have sex. I took the pill about 15 years ago for about 5 years and it did the same thing to me then. I have been on it again for about 2 years now. I wish there was something that could be done to increase labido. I have to take it for endometriosis so I feel trapped. If I don't take it I have very painful periods and I also have pain when I don't have a period. I take the pill for months at a time without having a period. I works great for that. I have heard about using progesterone cream or testerostone cream or something to help labido. I have never seriously looked into either though.

When I used to take the pill I got a higher sex drive. It seems different people have different reactions. If the fact that your sex drive is lower doesn't really bother you or your boyfriend, then that shouldn't be a problem.
Regarding the stinging pain you get when you go for a pee, I've read somewhere that certain positions along with vigirous sex cause some damage to the uterine tube (the tube with the pee runs through, to put it more straight) Drinking Cranberry juice can prevent bacteria from breeding in such a case. If bacteria breeds, it can cause painful infection.

The liquid coming out after sex is mostly from the women. That is absolutely normal. What I usually do is right after sex, go to the toilet, make a pee and then wipe away the liquid which then comes out and everything is fine.
I went off the contraceptive pill and had an IUD or so called coil implanted, I enjoy the natural feeling I have now. I did not like to use the pill it caused me all kinds of side effects.

My libido was NONEXISTENT on the pill, that is -- the wrong pill. I was on several different kinds, the worst being Yasmin. I've been on Seasonale for about 6 months and highly recommend it. My libido is back and I feel like myself again. I can't speak to your other issues, sorry.

Cyndee

I'm in the same boat. Looks like it's pretty darn common to lose libido on the pill. I've been on the pill for 11 years now. I haven't masturbated in years. My doctor tried to "address" the fact that it could be my relationship, but I know that's not the case. I just don't feel like having sex. Period.

I'm looking into having a mirena inserted; it just can't be good to be on the pill for so long.

I'll never forget the reassurance I got in college when our dorm had a nurse talk to us about sex. "Sex isn't like in the movies. You don't just lie there afterwards, you gotta pee, and most of the sperm comes right out." And if your boyfriend looks at you funny for getting up to go instead of staying there, try offering to switch places with him when you go to sleep. He'll quickly learn why you don't want to lie in a puddle of "goo" and get over it.

As to the burning, etc., yeah, you'll want to have that checked out. But keep in mind that hormones do all kinds of things to you, so it most definitely could be affecting your natural lubrication and leading to some irritation down there.

Good luck, hopefully some of these posts have helped.

I've been on BC for about 1.5 years now and my only side effect is low libido. After a year I switched BC but my doc kept me on the same kind, just a lower dose. After 1.5 months on the new dose I still have no libido. I will give this the three month transition period and if I don't notice a change I'm going back to the doc. Every women reacts to the different brands of BC differently so you just have to keep trying until you find one that works with your body chemistry. I'm praying I find one that gets me back to normal b/c I just got married and I don't want to be frigid! On the BC I also have a harder time lubricating. I tend to feel very raw and irritated after sex. Birth Control Sucks! And yes, unless you stand on your head after sex, gravity applies w/ ejaculation too.