i have tried using tampons before and CAN NOT get them in i think it is b/c i am very small... anyways im nervous that wen i get fingered the guy wont be able to do it let alone trying to have sex... does this sound normal?

I had a little trouble on my first attempt too. You have to find the right angle for insertion... if you try to put one in straight up, it isn't going to work. It needs to be angled towards the small of the back. Other things that might help you is trying a smooth plastic applicator instead of cardboard, and lubricating the outside of it.

If none of that works, or you've already tried it, it could be because your hymen is in the way. Some girls have one that is thicker or less stretchy than others. If you want, you can experiment with inserting your own finger inside yourself and see how that goes, or wait until first intercourse.

Try not to worry that something is wrong with you, or that you are "too small." You sound perfectly normal :)

you sound alot like my girlfriend,she is a small young lady but we dont have any trouble when it comes to me fingering her,so you shouldnt either,i agreee with what the other lady said,i learned from experience,soo just dont worry about it your fine and you are perfectly normal

okay sweetie, i never thought id be giving the advice here, or the answers to your question...since i once thought the same exact thing, and went through exactly what you r going through...im 20 years old now, and I started my first period when i was 12, in 6th grade, and for years i wore pads, starting out, cuz i was scared of the fact of shoving something strange inside me, and i honestly didnt know how to use them, then when i was 15 or 16, i was just beginning to go into high school, so i had to start using tampons, because i was getting older, and my periods were getting heavier, and i needed the support and strength of a tampon, and a pad...I had just as hard of a time as you r, i went through 5-10 tampons in my first box, just trying to get the thing in the right direction, and i was very small as well, because i started wearing them while i was still a virgin, and i hadnt been stretched out yet...i started out using the slender satin ones made for teens, and they were so slender, as slender as your pinkie, and i still couldnt get them in, but practice does make perfect, it may be awkward for you, but try 'window shopping' the feminine aisle for a type of tampon you may like to begin with, since my period has gotten heavier over the years, i use a much thicker tampon now, and theyre called kotex super plus absorbency in the box...they r plastic aplicator...i can wear any kind, but i prefer plastic, its much easier insertion than the cardboard applicators, which will only hurt and tear at your delicate skin, as your first starting out, try getting something plastic, hope all this helps...good luck sweetie...
always,
regretfulheart

When I started out, it was a bit of a learning experience, I think because I was tense it made it difficult as well, I bought the slender teen ones too..and moistened the end of the applicator with some lube, I found leaning forward on the toilet helped too, you have to experiment to find the right angle like reni said. And don't worry about the foreplay end of it...when you are aroused you tend to relax down there so it will be fine.