My 2 greatgrandmothers both around 90 died within the last 4 years and I was depressed for a while, expecially by the way they ended their last few days (not thinking straight). My cat (19 yrs.) has cancer in her front foot and it is only a matter of time before she dies, also my favorite teacher's dad died during the week I was sick so that didn't help me any. I'm not afraid of death, but I hate it when others die. (I don't know if my life is really worth living any way because everyone else would apparently be better off without me).

Since there is only 1 thread here you can reply to, I decided to make one about who recently died or will die.

[QUOTE= (I don't know if my life is really worth living any way because everyone else would apparently be better off without me).QUOTE]


i am sorry you are having a hard time. i was 15 when i realized i would actually die. i hate the thought too. why do you feel the way i outlined in your quote?

Well I'm sorry to hear about your great grandmothers and your cat who has cancer and teacher's dad. I can relate to how you feel. I'm sure everyone can at sometime or another. My step-father who was very close to me died in November 2003 of liver cancer. He had no symptoms until it was too late for them to do anything and when they told him he had 6 months to live, he really only had a week and a half. His mother (my grandmother) died in August. I think after having her son die, she felt she had nothing to live for and she stopped taking care of herself. Just before she died, I thought I was getting over my step-father's death, but when she died, i realized I hadn't, and it brought back a lot of bad memories. It made me realize there's no time frame on grieving for someone you care about. It's been almost a year since my step-father passed away and I'm still in the process of grieving. It can take years for some people.

When my step-father died, I was really angry at "God" because I couldn't understand why he had to take MY step dad away, and why he had to have such a painful death, but i understand now thats just part of life, and no one knows exactly when they're going to die, or how they're going to die.
Even though my step father has passed on, he lives on through my memories. I believe he's with me at all times just in a better place watching over my family and I. I even talk to him and say "goodnight" and "I love you" to him every night(sounds crazy, but thats what makes me feel better). I think having my step-dad die has not made me fear death, but in a way its made me understand it a bit better. I know one day when I die I'll hopefully get to see all the people I love and care about who have passed on before me.

Sorry to hear about your losses.

My grandad passed away 2 days ago from lung cancer. I'm finding it really hard. The last time my parents went to visit him I decided not to go, but now I feel really awful because I should have gone with them. I don't think I really believed that he would ever die even though he was so ill and now he has, I just wish I had said goodbye. People in my family have died before. My 2 uncles (my grandad's sons) passed away when I was younger, but I wasn't really close to them so it didn't effect me too much. This is much worse. It really hurts to think that I'll never get to see him again. He was such a wonderful person. And it makes me realise how cruel life is. It was just 3 months between the diagnosis and the day he passed away.

Anyway, take care of yourselves... Phoebe xx

I am sorry to hear about everyone's losses. Death is one of the hardest parts of living I think. It's something you never get over, you just learn to deal with it the best that you can. I've experinence my own losses in the past few years. I first lost my dad, who was only 45, to a freak occurrence during a knee surgery, this was especially hard since it was so sudden and unexpected. Not a day goes by where I don't think of him, I was a "Daddy's Girl." My whole life has changed in less than four years, he died in Dec. 2000, after my first semester of college. It's hard for me to see other people who still have their fathers, I'll never be able to have my dad walk me down the aisle or anything, that's a horrible feeling. My mom has remarried and lives in a different house w/her new husband. I feel welcomed there,but it's not home. I have really lost my sense of belonging somewhere, my life I knew is gone and it is very foreign to me. Also I lost my great uncle and my grandmother in consecutive years to lung cancer. Previous to that, my ohter grandmother died of a burst anerism. I've often felt ovewhelmed at times, the whole why me situtation, and I know people are in a lot worse situations than me. At least I had my dad for 18 years, some people never get to know their parents. Anyway, I'm still coping, taking one day at a time. You never forget, but you learn how to manage your overwhelming feelings of grief, confusion and anger.

My Great grandfrather just died, 11th oct 2004 at 1pm , he was 84 years old. Every1 around me is quite sad as you can imagin, but im so damn angry that I will never see or speak to him ever again. He had cancer and he was too old to operate and there just wasnt a cure for him, so we all waited for the inevitable.

I mean just 3 days ago i was talking to him, shook his hand, that was the last time i seen him alive. He got Extremely bad in the last 2 days.

The day before he died he was quite bad, couldnt really talk or make any sense, but he Shook every1ns hand and said, he is going to be with nan and he wont be around 2moro, (my great grandmother, died about 5 years ago)

SO 2moro came.

I was going to go and see him up the hospital when the nurse called my family up there, but i couldnt go, i didnt want to experience seeing a dying man die infront of me. SO my brother and my mum and nan left as they walked into see him he Died.


I am not a believer in a GOD, but i thinik some people need it, and i think he did... Which may of helped him through it to the end.

Its just so weird that he not around anymore. he lived about 10 seconds walk away from me, so i seen him everyday.

it just doesnt make anysense, I wont see him for the rest of my life, younger generation like me will prob live 100-200 years or more and memories will fade.

thats all i really have now, is memories. That last day i spoke to him just keeps replaying in my head :(

i think im gonna buy a punch bag,

i need to let my anger out :mad:

I think it's totally natural to be angry when you first lose someone Matt. Coping with death is one of the hardest things we have to face. I was so mad for the longest time, I had a case of the why me syndrome. Life's not fair, but death is just a part of living, cliche as that may be. The most important thing you can do is to rely on the positive times you had with your great grandfather. Life is way too short to focus on the negatives for very long. You're never going to forget your great grandfather, but living day to day will get easier, trust me. One thing I found especially helpful was keeping a journal, putting feelings into words is a great way to cope with all the unanswered questions you may have.

I need to know how to find closure in a death? I mean it's the worse thing that could happen to a person!.. the one thats left behind!... certainly death does not mean love or we wouldn't die?...I know the Bible says "the dead knows not"...therefore there not in pain or even know of there past exsistance...how does anybody know what it's like to die/or being dead? other than jesus.

When two people are married and love each other more and more everyday then suddlenly that all ends comes to a abrupt hault.because of Death/ no matter what the circumstances are at the time...death is something we all can't escape...so why should one worry with Death?

the last year has been a horrible one for me as well.....i'm a sophomore in college and last year...my first year in college was one of the most horrific years of my life.....in october of 2003 my great aunt died to cancer...she did not tell anyone she had cancer, nor did she go for treatments......i wasn't able to attend the funeral because it was 6 hours away.....then the day after i got home for winter break...my aunt was killed in a car accident....2 weeks before christmas and my world was turned upside down.....things have been hard....around the holidays.....then exactly 6 months later..my 17 year old cousin was killed in a car accident....i still feel the hurt and the anger of why God could take away such young lives.....i try to take one day at a time....some days are good and then days that i feel stressed out...i think about my great aunt...my aunt..and my cousin and just cry.....my memories of these people will last with me throughout my entire life and that is why i work harder and harder everyday to pursue my degree ....i know they are looking down on me and i want them to know that I'm going to do my best in memory of them

I know your feelings of anger. I also am very angry. I lost a daughter 14 yrs. ago to liver cancer. Sense then i have lost both grandparents to cancer, a brother to sucide and 4 close friends to various deseases. two weeks ago my boyfriend left to go to work when he never came home. I knew something was wrong. Very responsible always on time. no calls or texts from night b-4. stomach turning when he lfet that something was wrong. He crashed on his motorcycle and even tho I looked in the ditches for 2 days in 110 degree heat I couldn't find him. A police helicopter was sent out to find him, and did within the hour. He was gone. The only man I can really say treated me well and my kids too. He was my world and I his. I will never find a man like that again and I know this. I have guilt of what I could have done, what I should have done. My youngest has lots of questions I can not answer cause i am asking same questions. well have to go for now thank you for listening