I lost my 14 year old daughter to a drunk driver 5 years ago. I still can't handle the pain. It didn't have to happen. It wasn't natural. She would be alive today and in college except for someones dumb decision to get behind the wheel of a car when he wasn't capable of driving. He got 12 and a half years in prison because he didn't call for some help driving. Quite a price to pay not to mention he was responsible for taking away the life of a beautiful teenage girl and her whole future in life. Think before you drive....Bill

ps I could go into more details if anyone is interested

Bill,

I am so sorry for your loss! My aunt her husband were killed many years ago by a drunk driver. They had just gotten married the year before, and had three young children (separately, and one together). These children had to grow up without their parents, and the guy who killed them got off with a few years in jail. He also had a history of DUIs and was driving on a revoked license.
Trying to deal with grief of losing a loved one is hard enough, but when you have to deal with the anger at the senseless manner of their death, it is even harder. I can only imagine how much more you must hurt, as your daughter was so young.
God bless you and if you need to 'talk' about your situation, the people on this board are great 'listeners'.
Ami

My mom brother was killed by drunk driver when he was 27 I choose never to drink because of that reason I never had beer in my life and I"M 23 I think people drink too much they act really dumb . Nobody ever going to get me to drink. This one girl on oprah she was drunk and got in car accident now she in a wheelchair the rest of her life. I dont hate people that drink but it's somthing I never do.

I am soooo very sorry to hear about your loss. I have a 16 year old who's just starting to learn how to drive & I am going to show her this post. Now that she is on the road I worry so much...not so much about her but about whoever else is on the road.

How mature it is for the previous poster to stay away from drinking...it is the smartest thing to do and would save so many lives if others did the same.

God's blessings always....Goody :angel:

Bill, please do tell us a little more about your daughter... Did she have a favorite food, color, singer? Maybe a little of her personality?

Stories like yours remind me of John Walsh. His son murdered so young. He could have become bitter, cynical, hateful. Somehow he managed to channel all that into his America's Most Wanted show and has saved so many lives.
How did he do it? How do YOU do it?

My prayers go out to you and your family - please tell us some of the happier memories, ok??
:angel:

I lost my 14 year old daughter to a drunk driver 5 years ago. I still can't handle the pain. It didn't have to happen. It wasn't natural. She would be alive today and in college except for someones dumb decision to get behind the wheel of a car when he wasn't capable of driving. He got 12 and a half years in prison because he didn't call for some help driving. Quite a price to pay not to mention he was responsible for taking away the life of a beautiful teenage girl and her whole future in life. Think before you drive....Bill

ps I could go into more details if anyone is interested


Hi Bill,
First lemme say how sorry I am for your loss. I have four children your daughter's age, and I can't imagine that kind of pain.
My story is this.....
My best friend in the whole world, was murdered a month ago by her x-husband. They had been divorced for 2 years. He lived in another state for God's sake (15 hours a way). She was beautiful, and intelligent - she had a heart of a saint. She had a new house, and a finance. Anyway she had not spoken to him in months, he had not called his child in months, or ever paid
child support. He was a dead beat.
What happened that made him click! I will never understand. He was child hood friend of my husband, we knew him well. We would have never thought he would do this.
He drove 15 hours, to her job, and waited for her to be alone. (Like a animal stalking their prey) then he went into her job, he did not speak, he shot her in the face (point blank). The shot went into her eye, then he shot her a 2nd time, this time in the cheek. As she turned to run out of the building, he shot her a third time striking her in the side. She collapsed on the sidewalk outside of her building- where a doctor tried to help her to the EMS got there. He then like the coward, he is, he turn the gun on himself and shot himself once in the forehead, and once in the throat. Well she past away at the hospital, and he is still alive. How fair is that!
She left behind a beautiful 9 year old daughter who was her world. I mean how can someone do this to their child, the burden she will bear for the rest of life.
I feel like I am dying Bill - of a broken heart. It is so hard to go day after day. I have cried a river, and I don't feel any better. I want to scream and holler and jump up and down. WHY WHY WHY do these things happen. Your child, my friend, where is the explanation. I want it! Where can I get it! I am tired of people saying "things happen for a reason" what is it then? Someone give it to me, I am all ears and listening! Someone explain to me why your child will never grow up, and why her child will have the burden of growing up and knowing her mother is dead because of her father! Why her finance will always have to wonder what could have been!
I feel like I am on a emotional roller coaster, I mad as hell one minute, and so sad, and heart broken the next. I want to hold on to my family with all of my might. I want to put them under lock & key because I want to know they are safe every minute. When they are at school, or at work I feel anxious that something bad will happen. I don't want to feel the pain I feel.

Again Bill, lemme truly say how sorry I am for you and your family....I can't imagine, and I don't want too. Please excuse me for the long post, but I try to keep it together when my family is around. I think it helps when you can talk to someone who isn't family, because they are worried to death about me. So, I tell them I am fine, and sometimes I am. Other times I feel like I am falling apart. How do you cope? Does it get better with time? I am dreading the holidays! Yesterday was my birthday, and we always spent our birthdays together. So, I was really missing her.

One other thing that occured to me - would I feel differently had she died another way? Would I be able to deal, had she died of cancer or car accident? sometimes I think yes, because knowing the way she died, hurts me more. I think about what her last thoughts were- I already know it was her daughter.
Thanks for listening,
Sprat

Bill are you there?, I lost my son when he was 6 1/2 years old, not to a drunk driver but many, many medical reasons & mistakes that accured while in hospital. THe first one was a doosy, that made his world living hell, but the little angel that he was ( & still is for me & others), always had a smile to offer, he was my majestic little one. But yes, what was your little young lady like?, like yourself, her mother, or even an distance rleative to have simalarities?, any brothers, or sisters?. The best thing to do for yourself & her memoery is to keep her present in your live, in a positive way. Start a foundation, join a foundation, sponser some young lady in need (same age as she would be today). you have the love, you have the heart, & I hope that you are sharing that gift with others. Are you married?, sorry for all the questions, but I want to know how you are & how you have coped with your loos thus far, my peace & Love are being sent to you, Kisa

Now that she is on the road I worry so much...not so much about her but about whoever else is on the road.

before I allowed either of my children to take the driving test, they had to give me a 500 word research/essay on drunk driving and wrecks involving teenagers. That was in 1996...both my children do not drive when drinking. They've both been to parties and have slept in their vehicles if they've had to.

before I allowed either of my children to take the driving test, they had to give me a 500 word research/essay on drunk driving and wrecks involving teenagers. That was in 1996...both my children do not drive when drinking. They've both been to parties and have slept in their vehicles if they've had to.
That is the most fantastic idea! Well done Peggy. And to everyone who has lost someone close to them, love, hugs and sunshine to you.