Shellpalmer
11-05-2004, 06:33 AM
My partner & I are trying for a baby, and he already has a daughter from his 1st marraige. I'm a major tom boy & love everything concerned with boyish stuff. I really don't want a girl at all, I know that may seem selfish but thats the way I feel. Is there any advice on ways to help having a boy? i've heard stuff about this before but never bothered with it as I never wanted kids b4. :bouncing:
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Kiera1595
11-05-2004, 08:06 AM
Chart your cycle. Learn how to predict/tell when you are ovulating. The closer you have sex to the time you ovulate, the better your chances are of having a boy. The theory is that sperm that contain the boy chromosomes swim faster and die faster. Girl sperm swim slower and take longer to die. So if people want a girl they recommend havng sex a few days before so that all the male sperm are dead by the time you ovulate. For you it would be vice versa. I don't know quite how well this works, but I have read it quite a few places. Plus its what happened to me. 1st time I had sex the day I ovulated and had a boy. THis time I had sex 2-3 days before I ovulated and I'm having a girl. It's the cheap way to try for what you want....or you could shell out $25,000 and try the scientific way.
jmcummins3
11-05-2004, 09:37 AM
I found some gender selection kits on the internet for under $100 (some were around $39 I think) that claim to work. I have no idea how they work, but it might be worth looking into.
FaithfulyWaiting
11-05-2004, 10:07 AM
I guess the bottom line is, you can try to get the gender you want, all you want, but when the baby comes you will love it no matter what gender it is.
Shellpalmer
11-05-2004, 10:50 AM
Thanks very much - I'll find someinfo about charting & try that. Shell
KimRick
11-05-2004, 11:18 AM
It's all about science! I am a nursing student and learned the other day in my anatomy and physiology class that if you want a boy, do the deed closer to ovulation. Male sperm swim faster and die sooner than female sperm (they swim slower and live longer).
Thanks very much - I'll find someinfo about charting & try that. Shell
Thanks very much - I'll find someinfo about charting & try that. Shell
Chrissi
11-05-2004, 12:26 PM
i do believe knowing when you ovulate and timing sex to that will help you as the other ladies have said, but as another poster said you will love your baby no matter what, and God will bless you with whatever sex he wants to...regaurdless of science, timing predicting...he is in charge...maybe try praying for the sex of baby you want, remember he has more control than any of the other stuff you can do....
trimmery
11-05-2004, 01:08 PM
Who says that if you have a little girl, she cant be a tom boy also? I have a god daughter who looks like a girl in the way she dresses, in pink and cute little outfits, but she wont hesitate to dig up worms, look for bugs and play in the mud and get absoultely filthy when she plays outside.
PeggyHarmon
11-05-2004, 01:13 PM
Both pregnancies I wanted boys. My first was. My second was a girl. I wasn't as gunhoo on the idea, but the first 6 wks of having her...and the entire life (20 yrs) with her now I've changed my mind. My parents had 4 girls. I think that too was a decision factor of wanting something different. But I do not believe in messing with mother's natures decision. I can see you're concern, but believe me the girls are just as much fun. My girl drives a bigger pickup truck than my son, is just as cocky and tomboy in her activies. She's a toughy.
Chrissi
11-05-2004, 07:50 PM
yeah little girls are fun fun fun...mine is 1 yr old now and she will gladly play with her tonka truck over her baby doll most of the time:)!!
Zayazmama
11-08-2004, 01:16 PM
From what I have read, the MAN basically determines the sex of the baby. Well, his sperm does, anyway. I understand your desire to NOT have a girl. But babies are a miracle anyway....Im not gonna say any of the things that im thinking except that I do think it is kinda selfish to not WANT a girl. I mean, if you had a girl, would you love her? Or have a bunch of resentment and wish it was a boy? I mean, I guess if you feel that strongly about it, go see a special doctor that can do that genetic determination stuff.
Good luck
Good luck
snowmonkie
11-08-2004, 11:07 PM
Man i know this sounds wierd, but there is this chinese astrology birth chart. It predicted five out of six of my friends births correctly. It was found like some seven hundred years ago. It worked for me to. I had a miscaraiige before I got pregnant this time around. It was a girl. And I looked at the chart and it was accurate. This pregnany...hhhehe....I am having a boy, which I hope so too. And its not selfish to get what you want. I grew up with all girls, and I'm a tom boy too. If you want I can find you the link. Just PM me.
beanie_1122
11-09-2004, 03:37 PM
There is alot of people that I know goin by the chinese birthing chart. I have done it on over 50 pregnancies and only had 5 wrong. So its very accurate.
I hear alot of people sayin they don't want this or that sex, but once its here you''ll forget all about the sex..you'll love it regardless..or at least I hope you will! Personally I'd like to have a girl since I already have a boy, but I'll accept whatever god gives me and be thankful that I can have babies!!!!
I hear alot of people sayin they don't want this or that sex, but once its here you''ll forget all about the sex..you'll love it regardless..or at least I hope you will! Personally I'd like to have a girl since I already have a boy, but I'll accept whatever god gives me and be thankful that I can have babies!!!!
Chrissi
11-10-2004, 02:35 AM
i dont know about this baby but as far as my last pregnancy went the chines chart didnt work, what you do is add the month of conception to the woman age at time of conception and odd number means girl and even means a boy.....
my number with my daughter was a 20-even (age 18 month 2), should have been a boy...nope a girl :)
my number this time is 28-even (age 19 month 9) should be a boy...but i wont hold my breath :)
my number with my daughter was a 20-even (age 18 month 2), should have been a boy...nope a girl :)
my number this time is 28-even (age 19 month 9) should be a boy...but i wont hold my breath :)
Chrissi
11-10-2004, 01:19 PM
well ladies...i was wrong....about the chines chart...lol it was right with my DD
i delivered her at age 18 but i concieved her at 17....
age 17 plus feburary (month 2) that is 19....an odd number...lol it was right afterall.
i had the revelation laying in bed last night while thinking about this thread. lol
well hopefully it will be right this time and i am having a boy (which i have kinda thought all along) that would be something :)
i delivered her at age 18 but i concieved her at 17....
age 17 plus feburary (month 2) that is 19....an odd number...lol it was right afterall.
i had the revelation laying in bed last night while thinking about this thread. lol
well hopefully it will be right this time and i am having a boy (which i have kinda thought all along) that would be something :)
laurabelle1317
11-10-2004, 05:01 PM
You could read the book Choosing the Sex of YOur Baby by Shettles. I bought it online for extra cheap. He gives you methods to try for a boy or a girl, which ever you want, based on how fast or slow the sperm swim and how soon they die. My husband and I just tried it a week and a half ago for a boy. I should know in a week whether or not I am pregnant. We will be very happy with a boy or girl but wanted to try for a boy first just to try.
In trying for a boy you need to be able to predict ovulation ahead of time so you can bd a day before and the day of ovulation. Predicting ovulation this exactly can sometimes be hard unless you have been charting for a while and your body is very very regular. I Have been charting for 4 months but it was difficult for me to predict ovulation so I purchased a 2 packs of ovulation predictor tests. I used 2 tests a day - at noon and at 10pm. Shettle's suggests twice a day so you are sure to see when your LH surge occurs and around when it started to occur. When you get a positive reading stating that your LH surge is occuring, meaning that you will ovulate within a couple of days, then Shettle's suggests waiting at a min. of 12 hrs and then BD. This should put your BD timing very close to ovulation, increasing your chances of a boy but not guarunteeing a boy. This is all explained very will in the Shettle's book, so I recommend you take a look. Although, Dr. Shettles actually does not recommend trying to do sex selection if you feel so strongly one way or the other. He mentions that you still need to be happy with either and accept what you get.
Good luck! Be happy with a boy or girl though because you will be blessed either way.
~Laura~
In trying for a boy you need to be able to predict ovulation ahead of time so you can bd a day before and the day of ovulation. Predicting ovulation this exactly can sometimes be hard unless you have been charting for a while and your body is very very regular. I Have been charting for 4 months but it was difficult for me to predict ovulation so I purchased a 2 packs of ovulation predictor tests. I used 2 tests a day - at noon and at 10pm. Shettle's suggests twice a day so you are sure to see when your LH surge occurs and around when it started to occur. When you get a positive reading stating that your LH surge is occuring, meaning that you will ovulate within a couple of days, then Shettle's suggests waiting at a min. of 12 hrs and then BD. This should put your BD timing very close to ovulation, increasing your chances of a boy but not guarunteeing a boy. This is all explained very will in the Shettle's book, so I recommend you take a look. Although, Dr. Shettles actually does not recommend trying to do sex selection if you feel so strongly one way or the other. He mentions that you still need to be happy with either and accept what you get.
Good luck! Be happy with a boy or girl though because you will be blessed either way.
~Laura~
sallyko
11-11-2004, 01:52 PM
i always wanted to have a son but when I got a baby girl I loved her so much that I would like to have one more daughter. It's a blessing to have a daughter. Believe me when you get a baby you won't even think about the gender, it's a blessing. It's impossible to describe how happy I am that I have a beautiful daughter.
Good luck
Good luck
kierrasmommy
11-15-2004, 12:36 AM
K...I was just planning on reading and not replying but some of the posts on here have really gotten to me. Don't get me wrong some of you were very helpful and considerate and this is not directed to you. This board is not for people to be critisized for what they say. And by critisizing Shellpalmer for being honest about her preferences just is not fair at all, everyone is entitled to their opinion but shouldn't be ostrasized because of it, regardless of what you personally believe. Yes, some people would be more than happy with anything, and some women struggle with infertility, but that is irrelevant when it comes to what someone has been honest enough to express. I too have been struggling with TTC baby #2 but I sympathize with Shellpalmer and don't think any less of her for stating the facts...that are her choice.
Shellpalmer, what the women have said about timing is correct, the closest you are to ovulation, the better your chances are, but if you want 100% accuracy you need a specialist. I too am trying for a boy, we have a wonderful daughter already and would love a boy to complete our family. I want to tell you a story though, my bestfriend wanted 3 boys because she didn't think she could relate with a daughter, she had a son already and knew what to do with a boy and was just unsure of a girl altogether, I told her it is definately different and you honestly can't explain a mother/daughter bond because it is different than a mother son/bond...just as strong but in the same way, different. Her second child was a girl. and a few weeks after she was born my friend called me to say I was right, that she did feel a different kind of bond with her daughter than she had with her son. Her daughter is now 4 and very much a tom boy...she is a bully and protects her brother who is double her age and wants to play hockey and be a fireman when she grows up. I also had another friend who wanted a girl...she just had her second son.
I hope you get your son. Goodluck.
Shellpalmer, what the women have said about timing is correct, the closest you are to ovulation, the better your chances are, but if you want 100% accuracy you need a specialist. I too am trying for a boy, we have a wonderful daughter already and would love a boy to complete our family. I want to tell you a story though, my bestfriend wanted 3 boys because she didn't think she could relate with a daughter, she had a son already and knew what to do with a boy and was just unsure of a girl altogether, I told her it is definately different and you honestly can't explain a mother/daughter bond because it is different than a mother son/bond...just as strong but in the same way, different. Her second child was a girl. and a few weeks after she was born my friend called me to say I was right, that she did feel a different kind of bond with her daughter than she had with her son. Her daughter is now 4 and very much a tom boy...she is a bully and protects her brother who is double her age and wants to play hockey and be a fireman when she grows up. I also had another friend who wanted a girl...she just had her second son.
I hope you get your son. Goodluck.
Regina21
11-16-2004, 04:00 PM
You learned this in class? Ask your professor what medical journal has published this information. Nothing is scientific until it is documented and time tested. I'm sure you know this from science classes. Why do I know this? I learned about research and scientific proofs while working on my Master's degree. I'm just curious to know what journal published this knowledge, and which person did so.
Thanks.
Ray (Regina's Fiance)
Thanks.
Ray (Regina's Fiance)
JLMandPaul
11-26-2004, 10:15 PM
I grew up with 5 brothers (me being the only girl), I would LOVE to have a little girl, but honestly, Id be happy with a boy too. My fiance and I are ttc (we're getting married 12/11/04), and we say whatever sex the baby is, we'll love it no matter what. Once you see thattiny little face and tiny fingers and toes, you cant help but falling in love. I cant wait to have one of my own, boy or girl!
kierrasmommy
11-28-2004, 03:19 AM
Regina/Ray, not sure who you are directing at, but if it was the timing you were wondering about, it is called the Shettles Method. If you do a search on the net you can read more info on it and how the timing can increase your chances of a boy or a girl, but like I said above, if anyone wants 100% accuracy they need to see a specialist that can help with gender selection procedures. The Shettles method can increase odds, but it isn't a 100% sure thing.