Posted: Thu Nov 11, 2004 10:38 pm Post subject: OCD boyfriend??Need help desperately!

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Please help... I have OCD and it is much better!! Because now I have another problem that put my all ocd thoughts in the shadow.
I remember Wilfs post OCD OR HIM and it is quite similair..so..
My boyfriend and I have been together for two months and from the very first moment it was the greatest love. We got emotionally connected and we both never experienced such thing. Suddenly he started to avoid meeting with me. And there was no reason.Our relationship and emotions were getting even deeper-we enjoyed each other like never.Still he sent me messages but not as much as he usually did. But constantly he was saying how much he loves me. And then we didin't saw each other for few days, and when we had plan to go out, he didn't answer my calls. Next day he wrote me msg that he feels very bad, depreesed. and that he LOVES ME;ADORES ME, but he ffles like he don't have freedome, although I was never ever possesive and he was always with his friends. And wrote that he doesn't want to loose me. Next day he called me in the morning said how much he cares That I'm in his head 24/7, that there's no thought about breaking up but that he feels so strange, strange thoughts.That we will meet that day, which was yesterday. Since then he ignore my calls.
he has awful situation at home, his dad fights his mother, his dad is gay is gay, and awful to him. who knows what kind of abuse his dad did to him. He is very homophobic, and often sadi How can 2 guys go together? and he makes often jokes like-Yea, I was gay. or... when we are talking about gay population he says,Haha, I am in denial...
I think maybe he has intrusive thoughts because of that fear.
I don't know...
do you think this sudden over night change could be OCD??
And should I wait??