HI!!!! :wave:

I just wanted to drop in on you...and create your own thread....
I just wanted to thank you for all of the support that you offer to myself and others. Without women like you I truly could not get through this infertility stuff. I realize that this road is VERY bumpy, and we all go through our ups and downs...but with others like you, the road appears to be a bit smoother at times. Thanks again for all of your wonderful advice/support and experiences.


BTW, Should they call me about my SIL and her new baby I HOPE that I have the strength to turn them away....Also, They are 16 years older than me!!!! Imagine that!!


Hugs,
Doreen :wave:

Doreen,

Wow! Thank you!!!! :D I appreciate your post more than you will ever know. You brought tears to my eyes. The truth is, this site keeps me sane in my own crazy life. :eek: Without it, i really would not be able to handle all this infertilty stuff.

You know how when you are in the middle of a treatment - I mean, we obviously feel the stress right then (in trying to do what we've been told to do, always waiting for the next step, will it take, etc...). But, I think that some really big stress can linger and stick around. I think it is such a HUGE thing - how could we possibly take it all in during a couple of weeks?! My gosh, we are trying to create OUR CHILDREN here! The seriousness of it all rocks us to the core and I think we need some extra recovery time. So, even though I am not in the middle of a cycle right now - I am STILL experiencing it (July IUI & Sept IUI :rolleyes: )....and it helps me immensely to put all my positive energy into others going through it right then - like you! I am so glad I could help in any way.....but you are helping me too!!!!!

I nearly fell over when I saw that you sil is older than you!!!!! Maybe a "reality check" talk is in order for her...LOL! ;) Boy, it really amazes me how people can go totally nutso and think the world is revolving around them. I mean, HELLO!!!! - you're only INJECTING YOURSELF WITH HIGH-POWERED HORMONES HERE - doesn't she think you might be a little busy right now?!?!?! :p You and your follistim pen are all that matter right now...period!

Thanks again for you sweet post - you made my entire week! :wave: Jan

Hi Jan :wave:

Thank you. I just wanted you to know that i do notice how you tend to pop in and out of the threads, always with something nice to write to cheer us up!! :bouncing:

I know what you mean about the boards....They have helped me become more educated, found an amazing source of support. I realize that no one who does not experience this will and can NEVER understand.

Yeah, My brother and SIL are in their early and late forties. BUT let's give some credit- her hormones are wacked out as well :)

I read your post about having you families children. I too, did that for my DH's drug involved cousin's children; 3 and 7 at the time. The older girl was also sexually abused by her father.
I loved having the children, even toilet trained the lil one (as soon as she went home she wasn't trained anymore) His cousin would come to my house so messed up she would fall all over my house knocking things over-- then accused me of interferring and trying to keep her kids!!! They finally went home and I haven't seen them since :( I had them for 8-9 months. That was about four years ago. I hear that she is still messed up, but divorced.

Soooooo I know exactly how you feel! I also work in foster care and see some pretty terrible things that people do to their children...and yet they continue to have more and more kids. It's such a vicious cycle. ugh!

OK, Now that I've talked you ear off.. I'll let ya go!!

Doreen :wave:

Doreen, I gotta tell ya - I have NEVER talked to anyone that has been through the same foster thing. :eek: I guess I am still recouping from it - it did a number on me and my DH.

And OMG - you WORK in foster care. As disgusted as I am, you must feel this way from all that you see! :rolleyes: You are much stronger than me, I'll tell ya!

Yup, your SIL has got the homonal thing goin' on - but, boy howdy, your brother doesn't! And most likely, niether does any other sane person that knows she is planning to come stay with you! :nono: Okay, now I'm being just plain-ole cynical (you'll have to excuse me, I'm PMS-ing :o ), but what's next.....

it's 4am :yawn: and she comes and taps on you and dh's door, "uh, Doreen hun -can you give the baby a bottle. You don't mind, do ya?" as she's putting the baby in bed with y'all! She may climb in to snuggle to!!! ;) LOL

Allright, I've gone overboard - just had to give you a giggle! :D :p

-Jan :wave:

Hey Jan,

I'm home sick with the flu...got it real bad, DH too.

I just wanted to let you know you DID make me smile!!!

What are you're IF plans??

Ugh! I feel terrible!!!

D

You poor thing! Having to stim with the flu!!!! :yawn: Maybe this will do some little chemical majic and make it work better. (See how programmed I am on the "no pain, no gain" - must come from too many past injections ;) ).

You and DH need some chicken soup and some really bad reality tv...does wonders!!! :p

My infertility plans - let's see...I am 36 and have stage 3 endo and fibromyalgia - that makes my dr. want me to get pg yesterday! He puts major pressure on me - but I am thankful to have found an aggresive one, rather than one that would go slow, I guess. He skipped the clomid alltogether and started me on follistim and IUI's immediately (July and September).

I think I told you I had a consultation with him and told him that I could not handle to do anymore under the current stress I am under. I asked if we could try naturally until January and then start back up. He then said if we do another IUI, that we would up the follistim and add in Lupron b/c my body always wants to O early. THEN, he says, "you know - given that your 36, maybe we should just do IVF and get you twins"........What? Like I'm driving through burger king for a double? :rolleyes: The thought DID cross my mind too...but he makes it sound kinda easy...

Sorry, this is a novel - but that is why I like to focus on other's IF, because mine is a SAGA! I have to soon decide...do we shell out another $2K for IUI at about 15% chance, or bite the bullet and come up with a lot more for 50% chance (and what if we end up there anyway? :confused: ). I was kinda hoping that I was pg now on a fluke - but AF is coming any minute - I have had cramps all day). Oh well....

I still, for some reason believe that it will happen - for all of us. You snuggle in tonight and take care of yourself and DH- only sweet dreams, okay? :wave: Jan

Hi Jan,

I'm still home sick :(

I just wanted to pop over and tell you that I think a lot of women going through this secretly hope for twins. I know I am..who would WANT to go through all of this all over again. With twins I don't think I would want too!

Did AF get you? I hate her that witch!!


And thanks again for the other thread....

D

Hiya Doreen! You're right - AF got me good! I got really sick late last night and even contiplated going to the ER. I havn't hurt this bad from my endo since before my surgery in March. Then I spent most of today in bed too. Hopefully this will pass soon. Just glad to get this over with before I am at my in-laws for Thansgiving! Ugh!

And, my goodness! That flu is the pitts, huh? Is DH still sicky too? Hopefully you can stay in bed this weekend and turn off the phone and just sleep, sleep, sleep. But, wait - are you at the point where you are going in every couple of days for sonograms yet? Any word there? Thank you for the other thread - I think I got a bit flustered - it just hits a chord with me I guess. Unless someone has had these treatments, than they should not be giving advice on how to handle them.......period.

I'm off to hunt down my anaprox - and hope you feel better soon too!!! Keep me posted!